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Rough_Rock
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- Jul 31, 2006
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Hello I am about to have my engagement party in two weeks. I am Chinese (half Cantonese and half Toisan) and my bride to be is from Taiwan. She informed me recently that her mom has some traditions she wants to be followed on the day before the party.
The following are the things they have planned:
1) Me and my parents go to their house and I ask for their daughter''s hand in marriage.
2) We present the bride with some sort of jewelry (I don''t know how much it is supposed to be but I hear it should be from $1,000 to $2,000 or higher)
3) We bring over 12 boxes of chocolate and 12 boxes of cookies
Then they take us out to dinner.
My parents have been asking other relatives and friends and have not heard of these things. I don''t know if this is a Taiwanese tradition or some other tradition, but my parents think it is unfair. (Mostly the part about the jewelry) My mom has mostly found out other things like before the wedding, the groom''s side brings over a big pig and another relative''s friend said the groom received a watch from the bride''s side and vice versa, he gave her something. Please write me and tell me what I should do! Should me and my parents just "give in" and do everything her side asked? We are really naive in this area, thanks!
The following are the things they have planned:
1) Me and my parents go to their house and I ask for their daughter''s hand in marriage.
2) We present the bride with some sort of jewelry (I don''t know how much it is supposed to be but I hear it should be from $1,000 to $2,000 or higher)
3) We bring over 12 boxes of chocolate and 12 boxes of cookies
Then they take us out to dinner.
My parents have been asking other relatives and friends and have not heard of these things. I don''t know if this is a Taiwanese tradition or some other tradition, but my parents think it is unfair. (Mostly the part about the jewelry) My mom has mostly found out other things like before the wedding, the groom''s side brings over a big pig and another relative''s friend said the groom received a watch from the bride''s side and vice versa, he gave her something. Please write me and tell me what I should do! Should me and my parents just "give in" and do everything her side asked? We are really naive in this area, thanks!