Can You Help Find A New Home For Cookie?

[strmrdr]

prayers outgoing that you find a good home for cookie and most of all prayers outgoing for you and your daughter and husband.

 

[isaku5]

Oh, Deb, I''m so sorry that you''re having to deal with so many serious issues especially since they''re happening all at once.

Of course your daughter''s safety is paramount, and you''ve been given excellent advice here. Choose what you think is most appropriate from the suggestions and follow through that way.

I''m sending you lots of strength and prayers as all of this is so sad. As others have said, please take care of yourself too. As moms, we tend to put ourselves last and look after the needs of the family first.

My heart goes out to you.

 

[Brynn]

(Hugs!) I''m so sorry this is happening.

I wanted to second the dog-walker idea or even potentially doggy day care on those rainy and snowy days.

I used a dog walker with my Cavalier last academic year and it was fantastic. Dana (my dog walker) came to my house on the days and times that we had agreed upon and would walk the puppins for 45 minutes after which he would leave a full accounting of what they''d done with a note.

I''ve also no idea how large exercise pens come, but if there''s one that might do the trick your dad could simply place the dog in the pen and let him get to it!!

 

[lovegem]

Date: 10/27/2008 9:17:51 PM
Author: Harriet
Deb,

How often does Cookie need to be walked? What''s his diet? Do you think he''ll be able to adjust to apartment living and other dogs?

Harriet, do you know of someone who may be able to take Cookie?

 

[AGBF]

Date: 10/27/2008 9:13:23 PM
Author: Haven

Where are you located?

Haven, I am in Virginia (close to Maryland and Washington, DC) and Cookie is in Connecticut. I can be in Connecticut at any time that I need to be if I find a good home for him in that area!


Deb

 

[AGBF]

Date: 10/27/2008 9:17:51 PM
Author: Harriet

How often does Cookie need to be walked? What's his diet? Do you think he'll be able to adjust to apartment living and other dogs?

He has a normal diet. He is a very healthy young dog. I really don't know how often he needs to be walked. He is just a good boy. He adjusts to everybody, other dogs and all people . At my cousin's house last weekend one of her two dogs (a dominant female) took away all his toys. He adjusted to that. I guess he thought it was the tradeoff for the companionship he got . He did whatever her other dogs did.


Deb

 

[Harriet]

I''ll try to convince my husband. I''ll also let my vet and neighbours know.

 

[LAJennifer]

Deb, I just want to say that I am so sorry you are having a hard time right now. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with your family (and Cookie).

 

[AGBF]

I thank all of you for your prayers and good wishes and hugs! Harriet, thank you for spreading the word . What I don''t want anyone to do is to talk someone reluctant into providing Cookie with a home! He doesn''t need to be bounced out of yet another home in a few months after some less than enthusiastic person decides that it wasn''t a good move to take him!

If I cannot find a home where he will be cherished, I will keep looking. Maybe my daughter will move out, although with her mental health being what it is, I don''t see going away to college as a freshman being in the cards!!! I will be lucky if she can graduate from high school and go to a community college. Heck, I will be lucky if she survives long enough to finish high school...although sometimes I think that with all the support from therapists and psychiatrists and so forth and so on that at least she will survive. There are no guarantees, and I keep the medications, poisons, and kniives locked up.


Deb

 

[AGBF]

Date: 10/28/2008 2:59:15 PM
Author: blondebunny
I am soo sorry to hear about your daughter... My brother committed suicide over 2 years ago, and it is definitely something serious...If you ever need to talk.. Im here and can offer some advice....Its definitely something to not take lightly at all, and dont let anyone tell you otherwise...One thing I learned from my dads mistake is to NEVER leave your child alone when they are depressed and crying and you can see it in their eyes... I hope your new doctor helps your daughter out... I dont know you or your daughter personally... but after my brother died... people saw all the pain and grief my family went through, and we actually helped some people who were very depressed get help because they saw how bad it hurt my family and said they would never want to do that to theirs....I think if my brother knew how bad he would have hurt my family and especially my sister.. he might have thought twice...

Thank you for sharing something so personal, blondebunny. It must hurt to relive your brother's suicide. I appreciate your recounting it for the good of others. My daughter's second suicide attempt was made when my father dropped her off alone at their house while my mother was dying and my daughter was clearly distraught. I guess he didn't know what to do at that point. She had demanded a ride home from a restaurant where she was eating with her father. He left the nursing home where my mother was dying to transport her. He saw she was upset. I do not even recall where I was! I just know that when I went into the nursing home that I found my daughter was trying to reach me. She was back at my parents' house, having overdosed on a variety of drugs, but worst amongst them, Tylenol, for which she had to be hospitalized for detoxification. I am so sorry about your brother.


Deborah

 

[AGBF]

Date: 10/28/2008 4:31:57 PM
Author: strmrdr
prayers outgoing that you find a good home for cookie and most of all prayers outgoing for you and your daughter and husband.

Thank you, Karl .


Deb

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 10/28/2008 5:13:08 AM
Author: AGBF

Date: 10/28/2008 5:07:56 AM
Author: arjunajane

Oh Deb, my heart is breaking for you!
I know it is of little comfort, but I have recently turned that age and maturity where I realize how horrible I was to my folks around your daughters'' age, and how tough I made their time.
I have tried to make it up, and we now have a much improved r''ship.
So I hope you know it will not be like this forever, that is just such a crazy time for girls

That said, I can see how the dog is the lesser of your priorities right now, and we all know your DD should be the most important thing.
I''m not sure of any advice to offer, but I hope you know my heart is with you and wishing things improve very soon for you and daugher.
*hugs*

Thank you so much, arjunajane! I love to see you in Around The World, where I try to keep myself diverted. The American elections have been a bllessing for me, one endless diversion!

Deb

Oh me too Deb, I really like your posts there, lots of great info !
I am lurking around there alot, not posting so much - things have improved, but I still find it a bit confrontational..lots of fun info though, its definately gonna be an interesting week huh?

And I hear ya, diversions can always come in handy sweet - I use PS all the time for that purpose !
Please keep us updated if there is anything you need to share, or just need to vent.
I''m sure you will help her pull through,
xxx.

 

[AGBF]

I have to update this thread. Cookie has been with a new family for several days now, maybe for as much as a week. I did not pick the home and did not even approve the home and it was thrust upon me in a way that was somewhat traumatic. I am hoping that it is a good home, however. It seems to be. He is with a family and the man of the family is a dog lover who likes to have Cookie with him as much as he can. When I went over to the house the man had run out somewhere for a minute in his car and had taken Cookie with him. On another occasion when I called the house he had Cookie out on a walk. He referred to me as Cookie's "birth mother" to everyone who called him while I was there. I also met two of his children. It 's just that I didn't get to pick him (the owner)...and, in fact, a friend of mine, who is a known quantity, offered to take Cookie the next day. She has plenty of money for a vet. Her husband is home all day. They have another dog for companionship.... Only my father had given Cookie to this family the previous day. I am worried about him. I still feel I let him down.

Deborah

 

[princesss]

Oh, Deb, I''m so sorry to hear you didn''t get a chance to select the family for dear little Cookie. I''m going to try to have faith that they''ll be the kind of family Cookie needs.

 

[Harriet]

Deb,
It sounds like Cookie is in good hands.

 

[moremoremore]

deleted...I'm not sure I know all the details to this story...is your daughter ok agbf?

 

[AGBF]

Date: 11/6/2008 8:41:00 PM
Author: moremoremore

is your daughter ok agbf?

She isn''t in school at the moment, but should be recommencing on Tuesday or Wednesday at a new school. She is continuing her treatment, and where there is life, there is hope. Thank you for asking.


Deborah

 

[Gypsy]

Deb honey, you are such an amazing person and such a light on here, in so many ways, and I know that you carry that light in you in 'real' life. I'm so very sorry to 'hear' the sorrow in your voice and the exhaustion, and the pain. About Cookie, about your daughter... and with everything else you've been through recently, I just wanted to post letting you know that my heart aches for you, and that I sincerely hope that Cookie, and your Daughter are moving toward better places... it sounds like Cookie might have (and I am so sorry you didn't get to chose his home), and I hope that with your daughter starting school again she will too.

I'm worried about you, very much reading this. So much to bear... so much to put on a brave face for, so many punches to roll with. You know how much I adore animals. And I know the responsibility you feel toward Cookie, and the sense of loss of him... of the hope and companionship he brought, and the feeling of failure you might feel. But honey, you didn't fail with Cookie, you got him out of that 'rescue', and perhaps were just his port in a storm until he found his true hom e... whether you picked the home or not... you can make it clear that if anything goes awry you will be there for Cookie in whatever capacity you can be, and it does sound like a promising home. So let that go for now. You have too much eating at you, wearing you down. I don't know if after everything you can take some time to just be... maybe PS is the place for you that lets you do that, and if it is I'm glad... but with your daughter returning to school (and God Willing getting a little better) I hope you have some more time for you, so that you can get some of your light back, so that you can rest a little, and for a few moments of your day... have a small break from that burden I hear in your post.

I don't know if this made any sense, but you're in my thoughts. And John's as well. ((HUGE, and inadequate, HUGS))