I have been living with my girlfriend for a couple years and we are both very comfortable with our commitment to each other and are in no rush for marriage or kids. i have however been told in no uncertain terms that i am not allowed to pick out a ring without the aid of my girlfriend. given this pre-requisite and given that i have been out of work for a couple years and have no savings, i don''t have a ring to propose with.
However, i am just now going back to work full time, and given that we are going away on vacation in a couple weeks...well, i''m thinking it''s a good time to ask her to marry me. Again, not necessarily setting a date any time soon or anything but officially acknowledging that we intend to marry each other when the time is right.
Is it acceptable to ask her to marry me and then begin looking at rings together while i secure necessary financing and all that?
Any thoughts on items i can substitute for a ring? besides the cliched toy or candy ring?
any help or links to past threads with similar discussion i might have missed would be greatly appreciated.
thanks!
However, i am just now going back to work full time, and given that we are going away on vacation in a couple weeks...well, i''m thinking it''s a good time to ask her to marry me. Again, not necessarily setting a date any time soon or anything but officially acknowledging that we intend to marry each other when the time is right.
Is it acceptable to ask her to marry me and then begin looking at rings together while i secure necessary financing and all that?
Any thoughts on items i can substitute for a ring? besides the cliched toy or candy ring?
any help or links to past threads with similar discussion i might have missed would be greatly appreciated.
thanks!