Calling Autumnnovember

[dragonfly411]

Hello dear. I wanted to update you on my end of the bad dreams and pursuing someone to talk to. We are in the midst of changing our insurance plan at work, so I haven't been actively pursuing a practicing professional yet. I did find out that my school offers counseling and have been taking advantage of that to talk to someone, and it has been very relieving to me. I haven't had any bad dreams recently, though I did see that the dreaded ex is now on FB and have been worried that he might try contacting me. So far I've lucked out though.

How are you doing? Anything new?

 

[Autumnovember]

Hello dear. I wanted to update you on my end of the bad dreams and pursuing someone to talk to. We are in the midst of changing our insurance plan at work, so I haven't been actively pursuing a practicing professional yet. I did find out that my school offers counseling and have been taking advantage of that to talk to someone, and it has been very relieving to me. I haven't had any bad dreams recently, though I did see that the dreaded ex is now on FB and have been worried that he might try contacting me. So far I've lucked out though.

How are you doing? Anything new?

Just saw this!

I'm really glad to hear you've been taking advantage of the counseling your school offers!! I wonder if mine does too? I haven't looked into talking to anyone but I did decide if I'm going to do it, I have to do it now.

Strangely enough, ever since making that thread I haven't had any dreams whatsoever with him in it. It's weird.

Our birthdays are 4 days apart (his comes first) and his is on Saturday. Typically, I wish him a happy birthday and then on my birthday he just ignores it. I won't be contacting him this year as I've already promised myself we'll never have any contact for any reason again.

I'm hoping I won't see him out on my birthday (thanksgiving eve).

I've been THISCLOSE to deleting him on FB. I'm getting there.

You could block your ex on FB through account settings, would you want to do that?

 

[dragonfly411]

I might end up doing so yes. I think it would make me feel better. I'll have to figure out how to do that tonight.

I actually have been having a thought, and I wonder if others or yourself might chime in. My friend is also friends with one of the girls he cheated on me with. She has found a happy life and has a child now, but I know he did the same things to her as he did to me. At the time, she viewed me as competition because she knew something was going on with me and him. I feel like she and I ended on this horrible note, but would probably have a lot in common with each other at this point. My friend hangs out with her a lot, and I sometimes wonder if I couldn't mend things with this girl so we could all hang out together. They seem to have a lot of fun, but many times I hang back because I know that girl will be there, and I don't want to intrude, or have to deal with someone holding a grudge against me. I don't know that she actually does, but I don't know that she doesn't either.