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It's a great question.
And it really just depends on the circumstances. It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks as long as it is right for you. I certainly don't ask my client's who's money it is that is financing their purchase.
My husband bought me my engagement ring by himself (though I helped with research and we did go ring shopping together to figure out my preferences), but our finances were already blended at that point. I didn't know how much he paid, because he used a card in his name only. But we paid off the balances on all our cards together-- no matter whose name was on them. So, in reality I paid for part of my ring. But it was still a gift from him. KWIM?
No one else is in your relationship, has your values and priorities and understands your partner better than you. You do you.
And if one of your friends is financing her own ring purchase, be supportive and understand that it's really not your job to judge. Going against societal norms is hard.
And it really just depends on the circumstances. It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks as long as it is right for you. I certainly don't ask my client's who's money it is that is financing their purchase.
My husband bought me my engagement ring by himself (though I helped with research and we did go ring shopping together to figure out my preferences), but our finances were already blended at that point. I didn't know how much he paid, because he used a card in his name only. But we paid off the balances on all our cards together-- no matter whose name was on them. So, in reality I paid for part of my ring. But it was still a gift from him. KWIM?
No one else is in your relationship, has your values and priorities and understands your partner better than you. You do you.
And if one of your friends is financing her own ring purchase, be supportive and understand that it's really not your job to judge. Going against societal norms is hard.