Brides, Grooms and Virginity

[kenny]

If you had to venture a guess what percentage of men and women marrying today are virgins (first marriage of course) . . .

I'd guess . . .

USA:
Men 40%
Women 60%

Worldwide:
Men 20%
Women 80%

What's your guess?
Which countries do you suspect have unusually high or low percentages?

 

[MichelleCarmen]

US =
Men 5%
Women 20%

lol

Worldwide=
Men 35%
Women 68%

 

[Pandora II]

UK:

Men: 15%
Women: 20%

Just guessing. If you take out very religious groups or communities such as the Muslims and Hindus (who have much stricter moral codes than your average Brit) and just look at your average couple then I would think very few.

The average age for a first marriage here in 2007 was 29.8 for women and 31.9 for men and it's VERY rare not to live together before marriage.

(In 2009 the average age was 34 for women and 37 for men)

 

[E B]

US:

Men: 15 percent
Women: 27 percent

 

[mayerling]

UK:

Men: 15%
Women: 20%

Just guessing. If you take out very religious groups or communities such as the Muslims and Hindus (who have much stricter moral codes than your average Brit) and just look at your average couple then I would think very few.

The average age for a first marriage here in 2007 was 29.8 for women and 31.9 for men and it's VERY rare not to live together before marriage.

(In 2009 the average age was 34 for women and 37 for men)

I completely agree with you, Pandora. I think those numbers are representative of most of Europe; in fact, they might even be lower for the rest of Europe.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Kenny, what planet are you on??? 40 and 60%???!!! I'd guess 5% of males and 10% of females make it until after the wedding.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

Kenny, what planet are you on??? 40 and 60%???!!! I'd guess 5% of males and 10% of females make it until after the wedding.

I agree!

 

[sonnyjane]

Kenny, what planet are you on??? 40 and 60%???!!! I'd guess 5% of males and 10% of females make it until after the wedding.

I agree!

Ditttttttto!

 

[jstarfireb]

Kenny, what planet are you on??? 40 and 60%???!!! I'd guess 5% of males and 10% of females make it until after the wedding.

I agree!

Ditttttttto!

Thritto or quadritto!

 

[Dancing Fire]

LOL!!...only Kenny can come up with these kind of Q..

don't know the %,but i am teh only VIRGIN on this forum..

 

[iugurl]

In the U.S.

Men - 10%
Women - 18%

Worldwide - I have no idea!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

LOL!!...only Kenny can come up with these kind of Q..

don't know the %,but i am teh only VIRGIN on this forum..

So your daughters were conceived by immaculate conception, or what?!

And I assume you are kidding about only Kenny coming up with these kinds of questions.

 

[Dancing Fire]

US =
Men 5%
Women 20%

lol

Worldwide=
Men 35%
Women 68%

sooo...IYO,Americans are more horny compared to other parts of the world?...

 

[kenny]

US =
Men 5%
Women 20%

lol

Worldwide=
Men 35%
Women 68%

sooo...IYO,Americans are more horny compared to other parts of the world?...

The horn is only half the problem.

 

[Person24]

I don't think I know a single person who was a virgin on their wedding night . . . .

Maybe I hang out with the wrong crowd!

 

[Autumnovember]

Kenny...lol...I'm wondering what planet you're on too haha

 

[diva rose]

Well...if you base it on promiscuity - sex and nations - check link below:

http://www.economist.com/node/12755557

US isn't so bad - you lot are behind UK, some Europeans and us Aussies.

 

[MissStepcut]

I have been surprised how many men make it to college graduation still virgins. Tho how many still save it for marriage in a committed relationship? That's probably lower.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Funny, I was just interviewing chinese women on sex today lol, I just got home. I was surprised!!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Funny, I was just interviewing chinese women on sex today lol, I just got home. I was surprised!!

and???

 

[Cehrabehra]

Funny, I was just interviewing chinese women on sex today lol, I just got home. I was surprised!!

and???

And the level of sexual ignorance among virgins, non virgins, and married women alike was STAGGERING. Truly. The MAJORITY of women I talked to didn't even *really* know what sex was until after they DID IT. They didn't learn in school, didn't learn from parents, don't even discuss with girl friends. It's like they get a boyfriend, they kiss, they take off their clothes, they do it and THEN they go - oh THAT is sex. Okay. And then they proceed to never learn how to do it *well*.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

US =
Men 5%
Women 20%

lol

Worldwide=
Men 35%
Women 68%

sooo...IYO,Americans are more horny compared to other parts of the world?...

I was thinking of the countries where people still don't have sex b/c of religious/cultural beliefs...I guess my numbers mean that Americans are heathens. lol

 

[Dancing Fire]

Funny, I was just interviewing chinese women on sex today lol, I just got home. I was surprised!!

and???

And the level of sexual ignorance among virgins, non virgins, and married women alike was STAGGERING. Truly. The MAJORITY of women I talked to didn't even *really* know what sex was until after they DID IT. They didn't learn in school, didn't learn from parents, don't even discuss with girl friends. It's like they get a boyfriend, they kiss, they take off their clothes, they do it and THEN they go - oh THAT is sex. Okay. And then they proceed to never learn how to do it *well*.

so,did you give them some lessons?..

anyway,your post shock me sounded more like the China of my parent's generation not the 21 century.

 

[UnluckyTwin]

USA:
Men 40%
Women 60%

According to this source (which is now 14 years old) a majority of women were not virgins on their wedding night, so 60% is too high!

Whitman, D. 1997. “Was it Good for Us?” U.S. News and World Report 122(19):56-64.

Last summer my good friend and her SO got married. They'd only been dating 11 months when he proposed and I thought it was a little speedy, so I asked her what made them consider marriage so soon. They are both very Christian and she said, "Well... I mean... we're 27 years old..." I had a good laugh at that. When I attended her wedding just a few months later, she sat me and SO at a table with all her church friends who were couples. He and I were the only couple at that table (and possibly at the whole dang reception!) who were "heathens."

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

I honestly don't know anyone who made it out of my high school a virgin....I'm going to say it's

10% male US

15% female US

 

[Cehrabehra]

Funny, I was just interviewing chinese women on sex today lol, I just got home. I was surprised!!

and???

And the level of sexual ignorance among virgins, non virgins, and married women alike was STAGGERING. Truly. The MAJORITY of women I talked to didn't even *really* know what sex was until after they DID IT. They didn't learn in school, didn't learn from parents, don't even discuss with girl friends. It's like they get a boyfriend, they kiss, they take off their clothes, they do it and THEN they go - oh THAT is sex. Okay. And then they proceed to never learn how to do it *well*.

so,did you give them some lessons?..

anyway,your post shock me sounded more like the China of my parent's generation not the 21 century.

it shocked me too, DF. I went to several sex shops. The girls there weren't prostitutes but like one worked there because her boyfriend owned it and she was still a virgin and didn't want to have sex until she'd had a boyfriend for a year. She was 24. she was one of the few who knew what it was prior to doing it. Another woman had been married for 22 years (also she and her husband owned a sex shop) and she told me they do it about 4 times a year because her husband is fat. NONE of them have ever masturbated. Only two said they'd ever orgasmed and I don't think either of them actually ever did. These are women married 5, 12, 22 years, women who had never talked with anyone outside of boyfriends (and in most cases their only lover they married). The younger (under 30 crowd) mostly said they'd learned about condoms when they were 17/18 but didn't really understand what sex was until they did it. Anyway, I was researching for an article I'm writing for a friend... can't give up all the goods here lol

 

[kenny]

Sara, you have me worried that any minute now the Chinese people will become extinct.

 

[galeteia]

Sara, you have me worried that any minute now the Chinese people will become extinct.

Uh, I think she already put that fear to rest:

The younger (under 30 crowd) mostly said they'd learned about condoms when they were 17/18 but didn't really understand what sex was until they did it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

it shocked me too, DF. I went to several sex shops. The girls there weren't prostitutes but like one worked there because her boyfriend owned it and she was still a virgin and didn't want to have sex until she'd had a boyfriend for a year. She was 24. she was one of the few who knew what it was prior to doing it. Another woman had been married for 22 years (also she and her husband owned a sex shop) and she told me they do it about 4 times a year because her husband is fat. NONE of them have ever masturbated. Only two said they'd ever orgasmed and I don't think either of them actually ever did. These are women married 5, 12, 22 years, women who had never talked with anyone outside of boyfriends (and in most cases their only lover they married). The younger (under 30 crowd) mostly said they'd learned about condoms when they were 17/18 but didn't really understand what sex was until they did it. Anyway, I was researching for an article I'm writing for a friend... can't give up all the goods here lol

i don't believe it..Sara, think they were pulling your legs. ..were these city girls or girls from a rural area?

 

[makemepretty]

I know quite a few people who've only had 1 sexual partner(their spouse) but none that made it to their wedding night. Most knew that once they were "meant to be" it didn't matter if it happened earlier than the wedding night. These marriages have also lasted over a decade.

I always tell my husband that a person who's only had one partner is more rare than a virgin anyway!