Bride Wars?

[Italiahaircolor]

I was inspired by the Oprah tread over on DH....

Has anyone here seen the teaser for Bride Wars where Kate Hudson character is trying (and failing) to fit herself into her Vera Wang dress after Anne Hathaways character has "fattened" her up? And Kate makes the comment about how "you don''t alter Vera to fit you, you alter yourself to fit Vera"???

I was soooo disgusted by that. Really. Maybe as a woman who has battled her weight, and continues to do so, I''m sensitive to what "ideals" are put out there...but I think that its comments like that made by women who look like Kate Hudson that really mess with womans mind.

Am I the only one turned off by that comment? Its hard to put my feelings about it into words...but I''ve worked with brides who "brag" about not eatting anything more than rice cakes before the wedding or living at the gym...and while I absolutely think striving to be the best version of yourself is great, be realistic is better. So when someone as slim as Kate Hudson claims to be to "fat" to wear Vera Wang, I find something wrong with that.

But, maybe that''s just me...

 

[cammy85]

I can see how that comment would be off-putting in some ways. However, I can picture someone who orders a gown that fits, accidentally gains some weight and can''t get it on at the fitting and decides they want to lose the weight to fit the dress, not the other way around. People who look like Kate Hudson will have ''fat days'' too.

I agree TOTALLY however with the unrealistic expectations some brides put on themselves for their wedding day. I agree that there is nothing wrong in looking your best (aren''t we paying a lot for dresses, hair, makeup, etc?) but I do think losing weight in an unhealthy way, or losing too much weight is a scary phenomenon that is happening all over the place. Sure, I''ve lost weight, but it''s not JUST for the wedding. It''s for me. I''m much happier where I am now, and I feel better watching what I''m eating and exercising. I don''t want to gain the newlywed 10!

 

[bee*]

That would totally annoy me too Italia. I know it was made in jest in the movie, but there''s no wonder a lot of people have eating disorders.

 

[musey]

I think it's a funny joke, actually. I actually just saw that trailer again today.

I didn't interpret it the same way you did at all. If it had been a general dress comment, say "You don't alter your wedding gown to fit you, you alter yourself to fit your wedding gown" that would be bothersome. The joke is that Vera gowns are soooooo fine, that you DO NOT touch them - that it's a far better solution to alter your body than to let a seamstress get near that dress.

I dunno. Maybe I'm just not sensitive to such things anymore? I'm constantly told that I'm "too fat" or "too thin" (sometimes both within the same day

) so maybe I'm just desensitized.

To be fair, just because someone is thin does not mean they are not allowed to want to improve their bodies. I absolutely hate that double-standard. People have actually gotten upset at me when I've mentioned needing to lose ___ lbs. UPSET. Like it's any of their business what size I want/need to be? Just because they are bigger than I am does not mean that my body is my ideal size and shape. Thinner does not equal perfection.

I do agree that brides go overboard, but this line is hardly in the same ballpark, IMO.

 

[Blair138]

I agree with Musey. I take it as a line in a movie and it''s quite funny in context with Vera Wang. I, however, have never had weight problems so those comments do not bother me.

I do agree that many women (not just brides) go overboard with their weight. I had a college roommate who was bulimic and it was horrible to watch her go through that. She still struggles with issues today, but she has stopped throwing up.

 

[Izzy03]

I heard the comment and thought it was funny. I interpreted the joke the same way Musey did.

However, I am also one of those brides that will be losing weight to fit the gown, rather than letting the gown out. I put on a few pounds since ordering the gown, and while I am far from overweight, I have my own idea about how when my body looks the best. I wont starve myself, but I will visit the gym for an hour at least 5 days a week. I will have to look at these pictures forever.......

 

[choro72]

As a person currently battling the exact issue (I''ve ordered the dress to my tiniest size and gained 15lbs since then) and eating disorder, I don''t blame the movies. Sure, it''s easy to blame the skinny actresses, movie characters claiming to be a size 6 when they are clearly a size -12 (Devil Wears Prada), 90210...
It''s also easy to blame my weight gain on the fact that this country makes it so easy not to move, plentiful cheap food, royal variety of desserts, endless quantities of cows...

In the end I was the one who succumbed to the temptation of all the food, and I am the one hanging on to the irrational ideals that I fit into during high school. I don''t believe in suing McDonald for making people fat, and I don''t plan to start now.

Other than that, how was the movie? I like Anne Hathaway.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I have always been a larger person, but I never thought of that comment that way. I just thought it was funny.

Huh, that''s kindof odd. Normally I notice things like that.

Oh well... I still think that the movie will be cute. Formulaic at best, but cute.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

I just saw the same trailer and I wasn''t nearly as offended by the comment in the movie as I was by the Special K commercial that followed it.

It showed a mother and daughter playing in the snow and the daughter tells the mom "Look! it''s your Prince Charming!" regarding a (presumably overweight) snowman. The mother agrees and hurries into the house for Special K. That was much more offensive to me than a woman trying to fit into a Vera Wang gown for her wedding.

I have always struggled with my weight and I am actually at my heaviest now, but whether it''s good or bad I am going to do my darnest to get back into my nice street size 6 clothes by the time I am being photographed for all prosperity!

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

I agree that it was more a comment about Vera Wang than a comment about the perfect figure. If I was going to match up the joke with a soapbox, I'd be more likely to talk about the RIDICULOUS mark-up of name-brand clothing

eta - Musey, I totally agree with you about the "thinner does not mean perfect" thing. I am in the "overweight" category according to all health charts and not thin at all, yet whenever I lose weight, I always have someone who is larger than me criticize my loss saying I don't need to lose any weight because I'm already skinny. If they mean it as a compliment, it's not a big deal to me; I accept the compliment with a smile, knowing what they meant. But it usually is meant in a condescending way, as if I'm developing an eating disorder or insulting them by losing weight.

 

[fieryred33143]

I think the comment itself adds to the storyline of two bridezillas that are now planning a wedding on the same day of their bf''s wedding.

I would not have expected any other comment because ultimate bridezillas are exactly like that.