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Hi everyone,
So today I had a problem with the e-Calendar at work. I''d never used it prior to my current job. I sent an update to my e-invite (to all the Asia Pacific regional partners) on behalf of my partner (boss) following an earlier invite (to ask them to join my boss and I in a conference call regarding a big global/ also regional client). Now, most people accepted but some declined. My boss wanted me to send some new infor, hence the update.
I asked our group secretary (actually we have 3) how to send the update just to the people who have accepted the original invitation. I specifically asked this person, lets call her X, what I should do. I told her that I''d removed the names of the people who''ve declined (along with my boss'' name - since the updated infor, an attachment, came from him , so I didn''t want to send it back to him) whether I should click the "send to all invitees" option or "send to the invitees you''ve added/ updated". She told me to click the "send to all invitees" option.
So what happened?! It bl**dy bounced back from all the people I''ve removed, with a message to say the invite has been cancelled/ removed from the calendar!! That was NOT my intention!! I just wanted the update not to go to them. I didn''t want the original invite (which has all the relevant infor along with all the important attachments) to be removed from the people who declined the invite, because even though they couldn''t participate in this conference call, my boss and I still wanted them to have the infor because it''d be helpful to them when they get round to doing work for this client, which they will. So of course my boss received a notice (since I''d removed his name from the update invite) to say the invite to him had been cancelled. He was very cool about it (which he is usually but I suspect there''s a limit to his patience) and I explained that I hadn''t used e-Calendar before but I''d be sure to use it correctly in the future (inclg resending the whole invite, including the update, to all the original invitees). I didn''t blame it on X nor made any mention about X, since I thought he would think it pathetic of me to blame the secretary for my mistake (as I am a Director and thus should know better), even though she was the one giving me the wrong "help".
Afterwards, I told hubby about this. Now, this person X had previously made some unflattering comment about one of my dresses (actually rude comment - which I basically laughed off). Hubby suggested it was because of my bling that I wear to work (ie. a 3ct e-ring along with eternity band, a 3stone RHR along with another eternity band, 2ctwt earring studs, a Rolex watch and sometimes my coloured diamond bracelet and/ or my diamond halo''ed red garnet pendant). He suggested that some people at work must be seething about my bling. I suspect he may be right (and in fact someone has actually asked me to my face, which I think is actually not as bad as people talking about me behind my back, why I need to work?!! since I have all the bling (which to them means that we don''t need the money, which is actually not altogether true)).
Well, if you''re talking about "need" in terms of subsistence, then yes, I don''t need to work, but the money that I earn is put towards our future. In any case, to me, this is a moot point really, as I work because I enjoy working. I get to use my brain and I like the interaction with my boss, my clients and most of my colleagues.
So what should I do? Should I just carry on as I am and ignore her lame attitude (along others'') and put it down to jealousy (after all, is it anyone''s business that I/we''ve been successful and able to afford what we have?) or do you think I am being insensitive here and should I tone down on my bling accessorising for work?
What I should add also is that most of my colleagues (my peers as well as our staff, including support staff) live in government - subsidised housing with their parents or parents in law, whilst we live in a private house (relatively large compared to theirs and several times more expensive). Whilst I do not advertise this fact, I suspect they know simply from our address. I don''t see why I should apologise for our success/ what we have, particularly since we''ve worked our a**** off for what we have. We certainly haven''t had it handed to us on a silver platter. So why should we feel bad? But on the other hand, do you think I should tone down my bling?
All opinions and comments are welcome, however brutal!!
So today I had a problem with the e-Calendar at work. I''d never used it prior to my current job. I sent an update to my e-invite (to all the Asia Pacific regional partners) on behalf of my partner (boss) following an earlier invite (to ask them to join my boss and I in a conference call regarding a big global/ also regional client). Now, most people accepted but some declined. My boss wanted me to send some new infor, hence the update.
I asked our group secretary (actually we have 3) how to send the update just to the people who have accepted the original invitation. I specifically asked this person, lets call her X, what I should do. I told her that I''d removed the names of the people who''ve declined (along with my boss'' name - since the updated infor, an attachment, came from him , so I didn''t want to send it back to him) whether I should click the "send to all invitees" option or "send to the invitees you''ve added/ updated". She told me to click the "send to all invitees" option.
So what happened?! It bl**dy bounced back from all the people I''ve removed, with a message to say the invite has been cancelled/ removed from the calendar!! That was NOT my intention!! I just wanted the update not to go to them. I didn''t want the original invite (which has all the relevant infor along with all the important attachments) to be removed from the people who declined the invite, because even though they couldn''t participate in this conference call, my boss and I still wanted them to have the infor because it''d be helpful to them when they get round to doing work for this client, which they will. So of course my boss received a notice (since I''d removed his name from the update invite) to say the invite to him had been cancelled. He was very cool about it (which he is usually but I suspect there''s a limit to his patience) and I explained that I hadn''t used e-Calendar before but I''d be sure to use it correctly in the future (inclg resending the whole invite, including the update, to all the original invitees). I didn''t blame it on X nor made any mention about X, since I thought he would think it pathetic of me to blame the secretary for my mistake (as I am a Director and thus should know better), even though she was the one giving me the wrong "help".
Afterwards, I told hubby about this. Now, this person X had previously made some unflattering comment about one of my dresses (actually rude comment - which I basically laughed off). Hubby suggested it was because of my bling that I wear to work (ie. a 3ct e-ring along with eternity band, a 3stone RHR along with another eternity band, 2ctwt earring studs, a Rolex watch and sometimes my coloured diamond bracelet and/ or my diamond halo''ed red garnet pendant). He suggested that some people at work must be seething about my bling. I suspect he may be right (and in fact someone has actually asked me to my face, which I think is actually not as bad as people talking about me behind my back, why I need to work?!! since I have all the bling (which to them means that we don''t need the money, which is actually not altogether true)).
Well, if you''re talking about "need" in terms of subsistence, then yes, I don''t need to work, but the money that I earn is put towards our future. In any case, to me, this is a moot point really, as I work because I enjoy working. I get to use my brain and I like the interaction with my boss, my clients and most of my colleagues.
So what should I do? Should I just carry on as I am and ignore her lame attitude (along others'') and put it down to jealousy (after all, is it anyone''s business that I/we''ve been successful and able to afford what we have?) or do you think I am being insensitive here and should I tone down on my bling accessorising for work?
What I should add also is that most of my colleagues (my peers as well as our staff, including support staff) live in government - subsidised housing with their parents or parents in law, whilst we live in a private house (relatively large compared to theirs and several times more expensive). Whilst I do not advertise this fact, I suspect they know simply from our address. I don''t see why I should apologise for our success/ what we have, particularly since we''ve worked our a**** off for what we have. We certainly haven''t had it handed to us on a silver platter. So why should we feel bad? But on the other hand, do you think I should tone down my bling?
All opinions and comments are welcome, however brutal!!