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I need advice. It never crossed my mind that I'd have to teach a 13 year old how to use the bathroom, but here we are.
A hadn't been flushing consistently and we all share the same bathroom. (We have 3, but one is more conveniently located and is much nicer than the rest.) I've noticed that she doesn't use toilet paper. At first, I thought it was just before showering (like maybe she'd been told she didn't have to then) but now I know it is all the time. I've seen some suggestion in her clothing that this may also be the case when she poops too.
She's gotten much better at flushing since I talked with her about this. I explained (quietly -- it was just me and her around) that using toilet paper is a very important thing. It keeps her from stinking at school. If she doesn't wipe, she'll have a bit get in her underwear and it could leave her smelling. I also explained infections to her and how very uncomfortable they are.
So now she's flushing and I had figured she was using toilet paper. Well.... this morning, I replaced an empty roll before she got up for school. She used the toilet twice before leaving the house. When I went in after she was gone, I found that the brand new roll hadn't been touched.
I don't know what to do. The toilet paper is of very high quality, within easy reach of the toilet, and always filled. There should be no reason for her not to use it.
I can't just ask her because she won't be honest about this (tried that already before she got consistent in flushing) and I certainly can't go in the bathroom with her and watch.
Ideas?
I've got her going to the dr for a physical in the next couple of weeks. Should I mention to them and let them address? Would that leave her worried about talking to the dr about other stuff she may need as a teenage girl?
A hadn't been flushing consistently and we all share the same bathroom. (We have 3, but one is more conveniently located and is much nicer than the rest.) I've noticed that she doesn't use toilet paper. At first, I thought it was just before showering (like maybe she'd been told she didn't have to then) but now I know it is all the time. I've seen some suggestion in her clothing that this may also be the case when she poops too.
She's gotten much better at flushing since I talked with her about this. I explained (quietly -- it was just me and her around) that using toilet paper is a very important thing. It keeps her from stinking at school. If she doesn't wipe, she'll have a bit get in her underwear and it could leave her smelling. I also explained infections to her and how very uncomfortable they are.
So now she's flushing and I had figured she was using toilet paper. Well.... this morning, I replaced an empty roll before she got up for school. She used the toilet twice before leaving the house. When I went in after she was gone, I found that the brand new roll hadn't been touched.
I don't know what to do. The toilet paper is of very high quality, within easy reach of the toilet, and always filled. There should be no reason for her not to use it.
I can't just ask her because she won't be honest about this (tried that already before she got consistent in flushing) and I certainly can't go in the bathroom with her and watch.
Ideas?
I've got her going to the dr for a physical in the next couple of weeks. Should I mention to them and let them address? Would that leave her worried about talking to the dr about other stuff she may need as a teenage girl?