allycat0303
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I really need to vent, and get some advice. Ok, so my boyfriend is a good guy, he''s really amazing, etc., but there''s this thing he does periodically that makes me crazy!! Once in a while (like every 6 months) he''ll call at the last moment and cancel plans he made with me. For example, yesturday he told me that we would spend the night together we practically never see each other because I''m always studying. Most of the time, I''ll just sit next to him while he watches TV, and I''ll studying. This is what our lives consist of. So he tells me to study during the day today, and we''ll watch a movie together tonight. So I get up at 5:00 am, and start studying. I took a quick break to surf pricescope but aside from that I study all day, and I''m super excited to see him, he finishes work at 4:00. So he calls me at 4:30 to tell me, he won''t be coming because one of his friends just called him, and he''s going to play baseball. Now seriously, he plays baseball 2 times a week during the WHOLE summer, and it''s hockey on Sunday, so this isn''t a matter of "it''s a guy''s night out"
Now of course, my guy isn''t perfect, he does full of things that I''m sure would drive a girl crazy, but this is the one thing that I REALLY take personally, and it hurts my feelings. It''s like plans with me aren''t important, and that his friends are more important. Now this has been an ongoing thing in our relationship. At the beginning, it used to happen all the time (like every week) but now it''s a rare occurence. It''s just he kNOWS how I feel about it (we broke up for 2 months 4 years ago because of this issue and have had countless talks about it) AND when we got back together he promised me it would never happen again. Of course it did, not at an alarming frequency but just enough to make me wonder if he takes promises seriously. I know it sounds totally benign, but for me this is a potential deal breaker. I''ve tried talking it out (explaining it rationally), yelling at him (a lot less rational), but he just doesn''t seem to get it.
I always take this pet peeve personally, but I think I''m taking it really hard because he''s been really mean to me this week (his uncle died of cancer) and I know he always deals with grief by getting really irritable and angry. He''s been lashing out at me all week and I''m just at the end of my patience. If he would cry and be sad, I can handle that, but this constant "I''m annoyed at you" makes we wonder how were going to handle the rest of my life.
I''m just feeling overburdened at this point. So besides from just venting, my question is, do any of you gals have boys that can push your buttons sometimes? And b) Have you successfully dealt with an issue concerning your boyfriend that is recurrent?
Thanks ladies!
Now of course, my guy isn''t perfect, he does full of things that I''m sure would drive a girl crazy, but this is the one thing that I REALLY take personally, and it hurts my feelings. It''s like plans with me aren''t important, and that his friends are more important. Now this has been an ongoing thing in our relationship. At the beginning, it used to happen all the time (like every week) but now it''s a rare occurence. It''s just he kNOWS how I feel about it (we broke up for 2 months 4 years ago because of this issue and have had countless talks about it) AND when we got back together he promised me it would never happen again. Of course it did, not at an alarming frequency but just enough to make me wonder if he takes promises seriously. I know it sounds totally benign, but for me this is a potential deal breaker. I''ve tried talking it out (explaining it rationally), yelling at him (a lot less rational), but he just doesn''t seem to get it.
I always take this pet peeve personally, but I think I''m taking it really hard because he''s been really mean to me this week (his uncle died of cancer) and I know he always deals with grief by getting really irritable and angry. He''s been lashing out at me all week and I''m just at the end of my patience. If he would cry and be sad, I can handle that, but this constant "I''m annoyed at you" makes we wonder how were going to handle the rest of my life.
I''m just feeling overburdened at this point. So besides from just venting, my question is, do any of you gals have boys that can push your buttons sometimes? And b) Have you successfully dealt with an issue concerning your boyfriend that is recurrent?
Thanks ladies!