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So...
I met this woman at a networking event who prepares taxes for a living. She seemed like she knew what she was talking about so I set up an appointment with her over the phone.
I was a little bit hesitant at the beginning of the conversation because I didn''t realize she would be asking me a lot of very specific questions about how much money I made, etc. Now that may seem silly since she''s a tax preparer and that''s what they deal with, but in my mind, I was just going to be finding out a little bit more about how she works, etc.
I really should have told her "I don''t feel comfortable answering these questions yet" but I didn''t, so I answered a lot of them and hated every minute of it. Completely my fault. Anyway I started warming up to her about 30 minutes in because she did seem to know what she was talking about and pointed a couple of things about my previous tax return that made sense.
So I allowed the conversation to keep going because I wanted to see if I felt I could trust her - and I don''t know how, but we got into talking about having kids and how I''m not sure I want any, etc. We had a nice conversation but it ended up dragging almost a full two hours.
At one point she tells me how she can tell I''m a very genuine person and how she''d like to spend more time with me and be my friend. I kind of ignore the comment and kept on talking but then at the end of the call, she repeated it again. I told her I was flattered, thank you, but didn''t return the sentiment. It''s like what am I supposed to do with that?
I realize I may have fueled the fire by allowing the conversation to go into a personal nature - but I had no idea it would make her think I wanted to be "friends". Not to mention, I hate the phone, and I don''t do even 10 minute conversations, much less 2 hour ones, unless it''s something out of the ordinary. I ended up telling her I had an appointment and had to go, otherwise I think she would have stayed on the phone.
So now I''m kind of turned off to using her to prepare my taxes because I feel it has gone beyond business. Then there are times when I think I should be able to still use her since she''ll probably be very good and I should just deal with the friends thing as it comes - but I can just picture going to her home office and having her turn it into a chatting feast or doing that on the phone too and I dread even the thought of that. But now I''m feeling like damn - why did I tell her all that stuff about my finances if I end up not even using her, you know? I hate people knowing my business!
So I''m just wondering what you guys would do...
I met this woman at a networking event who prepares taxes for a living. She seemed like she knew what she was talking about so I set up an appointment with her over the phone.
I was a little bit hesitant at the beginning of the conversation because I didn''t realize she would be asking me a lot of very specific questions about how much money I made, etc. Now that may seem silly since she''s a tax preparer and that''s what they deal with, but in my mind, I was just going to be finding out a little bit more about how she works, etc.
I really should have told her "I don''t feel comfortable answering these questions yet" but I didn''t, so I answered a lot of them and hated every minute of it. Completely my fault. Anyway I started warming up to her about 30 minutes in because she did seem to know what she was talking about and pointed a couple of things about my previous tax return that made sense.
So I allowed the conversation to keep going because I wanted to see if I felt I could trust her - and I don''t know how, but we got into talking about having kids and how I''m not sure I want any, etc. We had a nice conversation but it ended up dragging almost a full two hours.
At one point she tells me how she can tell I''m a very genuine person and how she''d like to spend more time with me and be my friend. I kind of ignore the comment and kept on talking but then at the end of the call, she repeated it again. I told her I was flattered, thank you, but didn''t return the sentiment. It''s like what am I supposed to do with that?
I realize I may have fueled the fire by allowing the conversation to go into a personal nature - but I had no idea it would make her think I wanted to be "friends". Not to mention, I hate the phone, and I don''t do even 10 minute conversations, much less 2 hour ones, unless it''s something out of the ordinary. I ended up telling her I had an appointment and had to go, otherwise I think she would have stayed on the phone.
So now I''m kind of turned off to using her to prepare my taxes because I feel it has gone beyond business. Then there are times when I think I should be able to still use her since she''ll probably be very good and I should just deal with the friends thing as it comes - but I can just picture going to her home office and having her turn it into a chatting feast or doing that on the phone too and I dread even the thought of that. But now I''m feeling like damn - why did I tell her all that stuff about my finances if I end up not even using her, you know? I hate people knowing my business!
So I''m just wondering what you guys would do...