Wedding asking my girls

[kstar512]

So I decided how I am going to ask my bridal party to be in my wedding. I am going to have them all over for a barbeque and ask them together. I decided to give each bridesmaid a card and either one of these two books,
http://www.amazon.com/Bridesmaid-Guide-Etiquette-Parties-Fabulous/dp/0811833003/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1226015485&sr=8-1 or this one,

http://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Wear-Again-Celebration/dp/0811850528/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1226015485&sr=8-15 . Which one do you guys like better? Which would you rather recieve.

I found some really cute Flower Girl Paper dolls to give my two flower girls, and this book for my ring bearer.
http://www.amazon.com/Ring-Bearer-Laura-Godwin/dp/078685510X/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1226015690&sr=8-15 . I was wondering if anyone knew of any ideas for my JR. bridesmaids, they are about 11 and am not sure they would appriciate either of the gifts. They are kind of in that in between age. Any ideas?

 

[Smurfysmiles]

maybe you could present them with some colorful flowers or a cute necklace? i''m trying to think of what i liked when i was that age...maybe a cd of their favorite band or some neat lip gloss?

 

[JerseyGrl81]

Very cute ideas! I would go with the second book you picked for your bridesmaids. I would stay away from books about ediquette, they might take it the wrong way. As for the 11 year olds, why don''t you give them something they can wear at the wedding? I also know from being a teacher that girls that age love handbags, a little clutch could be cute.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 11/6/2008 7:26:59 PM
Author: JerseyGrl81
Very cute ideas! I would go with the second book you picked for your bridesmaids. I would stay away from books about ediquette, they might take it the wrong way. As for the 11 year olds, why don''t you give them something they can wear at the wedding? I also know from being a teacher that girls that age love handbags, a little clutch could be cute.

you took the words right out of my mouth on all counts!!!!! Esspecially about the first book--they could be offended, and makes you seem pretty serious and kind of boring...the other book, about the dresses, is a good laugh and sets the tone for fun times ahead!!

 

[Rock Your Socks]

Date: 11/6/2008 7:41:00 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

Date: 11/6/2008 7:26:59 PM
Author: JerseyGrl81
Very cute ideas! I would go with the second book you picked for your bridesmaids. I would stay away from books about ediquette, they might take it the wrong way. As for the 11 year olds, why don''t you give them something they can wear at the wedding? I also know from being a teacher that girls that age love handbags, a little clutch could be cute.

you took the words right out of my mouth on all counts!!!!! Esspecially about the first book--they could be offended, and makes you seem pretty serious and kind of boring...the other book, about the dresses, is a good laugh and sets the tone for fun times ahead!!

I agree too, i think the first book is almost too ''pushy'' too soon. Let it sink in to your girls they are going to be bridesmaids.

I think if a few weeks from now you are talking to them about different aspects of your wedding and they seem utterly clueless as to what you expect of them, then maybe then you could give them each a book on bridesmaids and their duties.

Also in my opinion i think you probably shouldn''t give them anything straight away other than a nice card, because in all honesty that does kind of sets the tone and expectation for you to shower gifts on your bridal party straight away and therefore they will expect you to do this to some extent all througout the planning process. I would be careful but thats just my opinion.

RYS

 

[kama_s]

For a second when I read the subjct line I thought you were talking about your tata''s

I second not giving the books right now - it sounds a tad bit too pushy. I also would prefer receiving the second book for the BM''s over the first - it''s never polite to give people advice on etiquette (unless asked). For your jr BMs, how about this book?

If you want a funky way of asking them to be part of your WP, maybe make everyone a card with something special and unique to your friendship? Or perhaps a day out - one with your BMs and then give them the card at dinner and another with the younger ones....jr bm''s would LOVE a cute manicure! And maybe you can take the youngest ones out for an icecream/movie?

 

[kstar512]

Thanks everyone for all the replies. I was worried about the first book not being a good idea. I see where you guys are coming from and will stick with the second one. I just thought the way it was written was really cute. I wouldn''t want my bridesmaids to think I was expecting to much of them though, because that is not the point at all.

Kama_s- I hadn''t seen that book, that would be really cute for my Jrs. I think they would really enjoy getting their nails done, they are all really girly. lol sorry about the subject, I really didn''t think about it.

 

[Clairitek]

My opinion is probably the opposite of the others. I would choose the book on etiquette and I personally wouldn''t be offended if I received it. I would probably just think that etiquette is something that matters to the bride and that it was simple guide- not that she think I am rude or have poor manners. It just seems more useful than the other book. I take it that you don''t want to get both? (Sorry if you already mentioned that in another post- I didn''t read every response) The second book does look funny though.

As for the flower girls/Jr bridesmaids- I echo whoever said to get them something to wear at the wedding (if you know at this point what sort of items would compliment your theme).