are you the only one?

[vslover]

No one in my circle of friends has upgraded at all. We''ve been married 3 years (all got married around the same time) and I''ve upgraded several times and no one else has at all. It makes me feel kind of weird...anyone else the only one upgrading? The only one wearing any diamonds at all other than original engagement rings is ME! It feels kind of weird and sometimes I feel a little...bad. Make me feel better. lol

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 12/28/2007 10:38:09 AM
Author:vslover
No one in my circle of friends has upgraded at all. We''ve been married 3 years (all got married around the same time) and I''ve upgraded several times and no one else has at all. It makes me feel kind of weird...anyone else the only one upgrading? The only one wearing any diamonds at all other than original engagement rings is ME! It feels kind of weird and sometimes I feel a little...bad. Make me feel better. lol

I will try to!

Maybe not everyone in your circle has the diamond gene! Some would rather upgrade cars, houses, stuff other than diamonds, so as your Hubby is agreeable and you are happy, that is all that matters - upgrade away!

 

[ringabling]

don't feel bad, we all have different priorities/wants. A lot of your friends may never ever upgrade.
3 {"a few"} upgrades in 3 years is sort of often though, and 3 yrs married isn't too long a period of time. I bet one or more will upgrade over the next 7-10 yrs or so. A lot of people do it at a big anniversary interval. . . we planned to, I had no idea it would 8 instead of 10 yrs!


eta:
I'm the only one in my cirlce that has upgraded as well. And My friends have all been married more like 10 yrs. The closest thing to an upgrade any of my friends have gotten is having her setting switched from white gold to plat.
I will say though, the ones I'm closest too all have relatively large rings, it's very liely they'll never upgrade.

 

[Rhea]

No one in DH''s group of friends is married yet and several of my friends who are married have very young children - so no upgrades there. My friends think about it and discuss it. DH and his friends find the idea appalling. I''m guessing that after DH''s friends have been married for several years that it''ll become a bit more "normal". Problem is here people get married much later.

I''ve now changed my ideas as to what I want - more smaller items of jewellery rather than a upgraded e-ring.

 

[marcy]

I don''t know many people that upgrade their rings. I don''t think many people care that much. I have the dominant need jewelry gene though so I''m always looking for something new.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 12/28/2007 2:02:30 PM
Author: marcyc
I don''t know many people that upgrade their rings. I don''t think many people care that much. I have the dominant need jewelry gene though so I''m always looking for something new.

I too have this gene

I have been married two and half months and I''ve upgraded 3 times!! (I know this sounds crazy)

I upgraded my original ering a few weeks after we got married. I put the original stone in a three stone setting. Then a month and a half after that I got a new ring altogether. I''m sticking with this new ring for a LOOOONG time by the way.

So, I say, Upgrade AWAY!

 

[LadyAmythyst69]

We bought my original ering with the plan to upgrade when we could afford it. But I never would have altered that ring! I love it. The only reason I "upgraded" is because I couldn''t fit into my ring anymore & it couldn''t be sized up due to the engraving. If I could still fit my original ering I would probably still be wearing it - with a nice diamond ring on my right hand as well.

 

[lyra]

I have upgraded in small ways twice from my original, and in a big (and likely final way) once. I also like to change other big things like houses, repainting the house several times, etc. It was said in my family that all members had the "wanderlust" gene. I think I get bored easily or maybe it''s the long winters here, who knows. My SIL upgraded once that I know of. None of my other friends even consider jewellery at all, for shame!

 

[fabcrab]

I''ve only upgraded once and being in my early twenties most of my friends are not even engaged let alone married. But the ones who are engaged are a little judgemental about my upgrade because they tend to be a lot more sentimental than I am. Oh well to each their own! The way I look at it, my ering and wedding band is an on going project, just like how my hubby adds performance parts to his car.

 

[diamondringlover]

I do not know anyone who has upgraded their wedding rings, except for me and it took me almost 20 years to scrape together enough money to do it, but since PS I wanna upgrade again

 

[Maisie]

Where I live its just not the done thing to upgrade. If I ever mention my upgrades people just look at me like I am mad.

 

[strmrdr]

Date: 12/28/2007 5:30:37 PM
Author: diamondrnglover
I do not know anyone who has upgraded their wedding rings, except for me and it took me almost 20 years to scrape together enough money to do it, but since PS I wanna upgrade again

Around here the 20th anniversary maybe 10th in some cases 1ct upgrade is somewhat common otherwise its pretty much no one does it.

 

[milton333]

10 or 20 year anniversary might see an upgrade in my neck of the world. Of course, with marriages not lasting like they used to . . .

Honestly, I don''t know anyone who has upgraded, and I''ve been married 10 yrs, engaged 13. Some have changed their settings, and added side stones, though. Lots of yellow gold changing to WG or plat.

Hubby was pretty upset that I was serious about upgrading, even though I''ve brought it up before. I think a lot of men are, the whole ring-buying thing was a traumatic, peril-fraught experience for them, it seems to upset them to think you''re throwing all that away. Of course, my dh came around to the idea that, well, we''re not 19 anymore, and I have to wear a ring every day that is substantially smaller than what is typical for my professional world and social circle. However, I kept the original diamond, and will re-use it in something else (pendant or rhr), because it is somewhat sentimental, and a unique diamond (a branded cut that''s no longer sold, 100 facets). I plan to upgrade my new diamond again, at least once more.

I''ve been a bit alarmed by some people who have gone through a half dozen diamonds and/or settings in a year, though, and have to wonder what is prompting the upgrade fever. Having the perfect diamond will not fix anything wrong with life or relationship, which is something that I can''t help but think when I see it.

I think most people get other diamond or gemstone jewelery, rather than fuss with changing around their e-ring.

 

[vslover]

Actually, I guess I''ve never really upgraded...we''ve just added and bought more diamonds. lol. I still have all the originals and have changed them into earrings, right hand rings, etc.

 

[sera]

Here on PS, upgrades are common... out in our real-world-little-circle, not so much. Being uncommon, yeah, the nonPSer will look at you as odd... people think it''s crazy I helped pick out the diamond and am searching for the setting with my FI. Whatev.

It''s less common on PS to have upgraded several times in 3 years, but there''s a few here who have.

I know of one person who got an upgrade, and that was because her band got mushed.
My mom is thinking about one.

I haven''t upgraded since I''ve only had my ring one month, lol. I don''t know whether I ever will, but I don''t have any issues doing it.

 

[Haven]

We have friends who have been married for ten years and she''s upgraded multiple times, but other than that I haven''t seen any upgrades outside of PS. I''m newly engaged so no upgrade here, but FI has been saying "you can always upgrade to that!" when we go on the hunt for wedding bands and see something fabulous.

I wouldn''t let others'' decision affect the way you view your upgrades--like other posters have said, some of us have the jewelry gene and some don''t. I''m pretty sure I''ll spend more money on jewelry during my lifetime than most (if not all) of my friends, but they each have their own little interests that get paid into, and so to each their own, right?

 

[Lynn B]

I am the only person among my circle of friends and co-workers who has ever upgraded. And they all pretty much think I''m crazy. I guess it''s true, you either have the diamond gene or you don''t!

I started out with a 1.53 and upgraded a few years ago to my current 2.36 and if money were no object (which unfortunately it IS!), I would be upgrading again one day to a ~3.5''er (or more).

But unless a rich relative (which I do not have) dies and leaves me a fortune, or I win the lottery (which I do not play) - that probably ain''t ever gonna happen!

DANG!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I have one or two friends and a sister who have purchased larger diamond rings they wear on their right hand, but have kept their original e-rings. Another bought the most beautiful Alexandrite instead of a diamond and had it custom set. These rings usually represent a milestone of some sort--significant BD or anniversary.....

cheers--Sharon

 

[BigDiamonds]

People look at me like I''m crazy when I talk about upgrades, especially my desire 1 yr anniversary upgrade.

It really is a personal thing; some people want to spend their money on other things, some people are sentimental about their original ring, and some people just don''t care at all.

I do see some settings that look like 15-25 year upgrades, but they usually still have smaller stones.