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Are some settings too "engagementy" to be worn as a RHR?

carbonfan

carbonfan

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I'm back again with another question for you guys! As you may recall, I am trying to decide on a RHR setting for a slightly elongated antique cushion. Victor will be creating the setting, and I am currently torn between a 5-stone with trapezoids and bullets or Victor's amazing Vintage French Halo. I love both settings and am just trying to decide if the 5-stone would look too "engagementy" to be a viable RHR. If so, that makes the decision quite easy! :lol: I just haven't seen many 5-stone rings of this type, so I am not sure how they are typically worn. I can definitely picture the Vintage French Halo as a RHR, but I am less familiar with the 5-stone. If it really is perceived as more "engagementy" then perhaps I can save this idea and spring for an alternate e-ring at some point. All opinions are welcome, so please feel free to let me know what you think!! :D

Here are some photos of the two settings I am thinking about. Just to be clear, the first 5-stone posted below is one of Leon's but I will be having Victor create his version of this. The second photo is Victor's Vintage French Cut Halo. Victor has a beautiful five-stone with an emerald cut center on his site so I am posting that for reference as well, but I think it is helpful to envision the center stone, so I wanted to include Leon's photo as well, as this is more representative of the type of center stone I would be using.

LM r5854 (cushion with trapezoids or half moons and bullets).jpg VC vintage french cut halo.jpg VC trapezoid and bullet five-stone-ring.jpg
 
I'm with Austina, 1 and 3 look like engagement rings. Number 2 looks more like a rhr. I like them all.
 
I like them all. #3 looks the most like an engagement ring to me. If you really like that style but are concerned about an engagement ring look what about having the center stone set EW instead of NS?
 
Agree with austina...the 5 stone rings highlight the center stone and to me that seems more engagementy. Something about an ornate halo to me goes either way especially when there's an airline. However, I think you should get what screams to you most bc you'll be wearing it! Who cares what someone else thinks it looks like?! I love that VC halo setting though :love:
 
Another vote for #2.
 
I actually don't think a RHR has to look a certain way, or to be a specific style to be worn on the RH. I would wear a solitaire on my RH, and not give two thoughts about it. I believe the ring must match your style, and look any way YOU would like it. All 3 are beautiful, and would work on either hand. Bling is bling. Wear it all, anywhere you like! :mrgreen2:
 
I feel the opposite. Halos, to me, are more of a trendy ering. 5 stones are more classic RHRs.
 
A few years ago, I would've said #2 is the least ngagementy one, now the fancy halos seem to be the most popular e-ring trend. I'd say any of those are just fine for an RHR.
 
Anything goes I think, but I would still pick the more detailed setting just to be fun for a right hand ring, but I wear my 2.2 OEC solitaire on my right hand and my more cluster setting in my left so what do I know!
 
I also vote for #2; the other two, while beautiful, do strike me as engagement-y.
 
I wear my cushion solitaire as a rhr and it is a simple solitaire, very much like an engagement ring. I love it. I have never gotten any comments re it being on the wrong finger. I would def not worry about it and choose the ring you like best.
 
I think anything goes...my Mom wears a 3 stone RHR and I never thought anything of it. I think with a 5 stone ring that the right proportions may
make me think less/or more engagementy. Like with the 3rd setting the center stone really stands out. With the first setting the center stone to
side proportions are closer so the center does not stand out as much.

Again, though, I think anything goes. Get what you like and wear it as a RHR. Nobody makes up the rules but you.
 
I used to always wonder about this and finally came to the conclusion that as long as it's comfortable and doesn't catch on to things or prevent me from doing practical things, I will wear it on my right hand. That said, I have sometimes gotten questioned as to why I'm wearing two Engagement rings. My response: Bc they are pretty. But I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes I do feel it's too much. Like I'm wearing too many diamonds. So I reach for my diamond rhr's a lot less. But I think it's just me. I don't think I ever notice other people wearing rings that seem too Engagementy. In fact, I once saw a young girl wearing a solitaire on her right hand middle finger and it looked fabulous!
 
I agree with the above comment....two is better than 1 engagement ring. #3 is spectacular.
 
I love them both. I feel you can wear whatever you want wherever you feel comfortable. Personally, as a right handed person, I prefer a much less fussy ring on the RH than the LH.
I vote get the one you love the most! Beautiful inspiration rings!
 
I agree with everyone else - they are all beautiful and I wouldn't think it strange to see any if those styles worn as a right hand ring.

Of the three, number 2 is the most beautiful to me personally. But then I have it saved for (hopefully!) future use, so I would say that!
 
The modern right hand ring trend is the result of a highly successful De Beers ad campaign starting in 2004 urging women to "declare their independence."

So I say stop worrying about what is an "appropriate" for a right hand ring, be independent and just buy what you like!
 
I wear engagement-type rings on my right hand all the time. Do what makes you happy, the helll with what anybody thinks.
 
I think you should go with what you like... My choice would be the halo, not because I think it looks more RHR-ish, necessarily, but because I like it best. ;-)

ETA: they are all gorgeous, so you really can't go wrong... just need to decide what you'd rather have on your right hand. :)
 
HDer said:
The modern right hand ring trend is the result of a highly successful De Beers ad campaign starting in 2004 urging women to "declare their independence."

So I say stop worrying about what is an "appropriate" for a right hand ring, be independent and just buy what you like!
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YUCH. That was my thought when that ridiculous campaign started and most of the rings soundly deserved an overwhelming YUCH. They reminded me of so much of the fashion world, designed by people who enjoyed making things the average woman would never want or wear.

Now that reality has set in and the ladies who want right hand rings have weighed in, the styles are both more wearable and completely unregulated.

Put me FIRMLY in the camp saying that you should wear what YOU want and not be restrained by someone else's opinion of what is acceptable for you to wear as a RHR. If it is as beautiful as YOU think it is, then people will be too busy admiring it to criticize the design.

Years ago, one of my clients bought a new much bigger engagement ring and took her original and sized it to fit her right hand. Sometime later she told me that she had expected to answer questions about two wedding rings by saying that, "Now I am twice as married."

I asked her why she did not say that.

She replied, "Because no one ever asked me."

Wink
 
nala said:
But I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes I do feel it's too much. Like I'm wearing too many diamonds.
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This seems.. so wrong - that this could be a thing! :lol-2:

I love the french cut halo and think you can't go wrong with a lovely deco-style halo for RHR. But I love that baguette-traps combo too. It does look more classically engagement-y but also that's not really a bad thing is it?
 
Thanks everyone! This has been tremendously informative, and I love that so many different opinions abound… that in itself is refreshingly liberating! I have been known to buck a few trends and societal norms in my time, so even if there were any widely-accepted “rules” about RHRs I could easily be swayed to throw them out the window! But I like to know when these rules exist (at the very least so I can consciously choose to ignore them!), so I was curious to know what PSers thought about RHR styles in general.

And @Wink, I absolutely love that story! That is a classic. I would totally use the “twice as married” line if anyone were to ask me! :dance:

So here are some of the takeaways that I have gleaned from this discussion:
  • When it comes to RHRs, anything goes, “engagementy” or otherwise!
  • Victor’s Vintage French Cut Halo. Is. Amazing. (Honestly, I couldn’t agree more! :love:)
  • In jewelry as in life, be true to yourself. Wear what you love and make no apologies… who cares what anyone else thinks? (Now I have Destiny’s Child’s “Independent Women” going through my head in a perpetual loop…)
In light of all of this I would be incredibly comfortable wearing any of these styles as a RHR. At the end of the day I truly adore both the 5-stone and the Vintage French Cut Halo, so I will select one of them at this juncture and add the other one to my wish list for a future anniversary. :D Feel free to keep the opinions coming, but in the meantime, thank you again for chiming in!!
 
I think it is all up to you - what do you like? I think all 3 rings are lovely and I wouldn't think a thing if I saw them as a RHR. Wear what makes you happy.
 
I see lots of people wearing what appears to be two engagement rings, or two wedding bands, or even two wedding sets.

I always just assume that one set was their mother's, or mother's in law, or grandmother's, etc.

Also, some people do just wear their wedding rings on the right hand. ;)2
 
I also must include: I do not believe there is any "ring etiquette" pertaining to the "unmarried" hand. I can't possibly imagine it being "fashionably faux pa" to wear a solitaire or a halo ring on the "unmarried" finger. Jewelry is jewelry! It is meant to be worn by its owner in confidence, and as a statement! Make your statement, @carbonfan! Make it loud & proud!!! :lol-2:
Your two top contenders are mine; we share quite a bit of similar taste, you & I. I cannot wait to see your finalist!!! ;)2
 
All of them look like e-rings to me. For right hand rings, I think of stones all the same size, or rings without stones. Just goes to show how opinions are all over the place. Wear whatever you wanna. Just own it. :mrgreen2: And if I had two of VC's creations, I'd probably wear them as much as I could. I'd have a right hand middle finger ring, pinkie ring, thumb ring...
 
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