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So, my little one is due August 9th and we''ll be using my MIL as our primary childcare. We discussed this with the ILs before we even TTC and MIL offered and is thrilled that she''ll have so much time with our little guy. We''re going to feel it out but the plan is she''ll do full time care at our house until he''s a year old and then we''ll probably try 2 days a week at daycare. My SIL, who is a teacher, and has a son who will only be 7 months older than ours has offered summers as well.
MIL is really a great lady. She''s one of those women that really put all she had into raising her own children and she and FIL are just really good to us in general. MIL is recently retired and a bit bored to be honest. Her excitement over the pending arrival of her first bio-grandchild is way more than I could have imagined. In fact, it''s bordering on kind of nutty in some cases - I think a lot of this due to the fact that this is the only thing she has to focus her energy on right now. In the preggo thread, I mentioned that she even has her own baby "registry".
She created a wish list on amazon of all things baby. Child-rearing books, bedding, gear etc. They also created a full nursery in there house that they had professionally done and will "unvail" to us in a few weeks. You get the point - she''s REALLY into this.
Anyway, back to the point of my post...I''m looking for tips on how others manage a situation where their parents or ILs are primary caregivers. I''m honestly a little nervous that I have to come home to MIL EVERY DAY. With daycare, you can pop-in, pick up your kid, say a friendly hello and goodbye and be on your way...not so much when your MIL is in your living room. Do those of you in the same situation find it difficult? I''m a little worried because MILs enthusiasm now is through the roof so I can only imagine what''s going to happen when our little man is actually here! I''m very confident that MIL will do things like keep the schedule we set and feed the LO the food we set out etc. so my only really concerns are the amount of time that I''ll have to spend with her and how it''ll affect our schedule and how to not let the little things (hopefully there will only be *little* things) get to me.
For the record, please understand that I realize that we are EXTREMELY lucky that DHs parents want to be so involved and, for us, this is far preferable to day care. I''m just a little worried that, after a few months of hanging out with MIL every day, I may find it a little difficult to keep the above in perspective.
MIL is really a great lady. She''s one of those women that really put all she had into raising her own children and she and FIL are just really good to us in general. MIL is recently retired and a bit bored to be honest. Her excitement over the pending arrival of her first bio-grandchild is way more than I could have imagined. In fact, it''s bordering on kind of nutty in some cases - I think a lot of this due to the fact that this is the only thing she has to focus her energy on right now. In the preggo thread, I mentioned that she even has her own baby "registry".
Anyway, back to the point of my post...I''m looking for tips on how others manage a situation where their parents or ILs are primary caregivers. I''m honestly a little nervous that I have to come home to MIL EVERY DAY. With daycare, you can pop-in, pick up your kid, say a friendly hello and goodbye and be on your way...not so much when your MIL is in your living room. Do those of you in the same situation find it difficult? I''m a little worried because MILs enthusiasm now is through the roof so I can only imagine what''s going to happen when our little man is actually here! I''m very confident that MIL will do things like keep the schedule we set and feed the LO the food we set out etc. so my only really concerns are the amount of time that I''ll have to spend with her and how it''ll affect our schedule and how to not let the little things (hopefully there will only be *little* things) get to me.
For the record, please understand that I realize that we are EXTREMELY lucky that DHs parents want to be so involved and, for us, this is far preferable to day care. I''m just a little worried that, after a few months of hanging out with MIL every day, I may find it a little difficult to keep the above in perspective.