Anyone else not...

[HappyCat]

...celebrate valentine''s day? Nothing against those who do of course...what could be better than a day that celebrates love! FF and I have just never really had any connection to the holiday. Just wondering if we''re the odd couple out here.

Hope everyone is having a lovely week!

HappyCat

 

[Lauren8211]

Right there with you. FF and I have never celebrated Valentines Day. Just not our "thing" and you''re definitely not alone. I know a lot of couples that aren''t really into it.

However, we will sometimes use it as an excuse to go out to dinner when we should be saving money!

 

[tlh]

No, I''ve never been into it. I don''t like chocolates, and I think flowers are a waste of money. GASP, am I even a woman??? BUT I LOVE ME SOME BLING! (ahh sweet redemption!)

No, my DH and I do not celebrate valentines day. I mean, he might get some school night nookie

... but other than that... No.

 

[Bia]

Not that into it. First of all, who the hell wants to go out to dinner on V-Day? Its CHAOS! At least in NYC.

And the whole chocolate heart and teddy bear thing? Not into that at all.

We do exchange cards (if we remember

), and usually he''ll bring a really beautiful bouquet of flowers home (IF he remembers

). Other than flowers and a special "Happy V-day Babe! I love you..." that''s all she wrote.

We''re in love 365 days a year (granted, some days more than others) so V-Day just isn''t a big deal in our home. But for those who do celebrate (I know a few women who consider V-Day their favorite holiday!), that''s awesome. Just not our thing.



Now Superbowl Sunday...that''s a different story

I think we get more romantic over sports than anything else.

 

[sklingem]

Not our thing. My credo: "A special day is any day you want to be special" Yeah!!! Plus we will be staying in a cabin on V-day with a bunch of other people, which is somewhat detrimental to romance, LOL!
R.

 

[KatM]

i''m not moved much by valentine''s day. we do celebrate a little, but just because i happen to like flowers and chocolate, and for some reason it never occurrs to bf to get those things at any other time of the year. so i exploit the date to get something i like anyway, lol. bf likes it because he gets presents too. we both just like presents, so any excuse is good enough for us! one year i remember going to a sports bar and eating grilled cheese with him and his buddies. i remember thinking that that should be upsetting...but it really wasnt at all. i like grilled cheese.

 

[Inanna]

FI and I are not into Valentines day at all. It''s a cheesy Hallmark holiday IMHO. Plus I don''t like chocolates, I''d much rather receive flowers any other day "just because" (and NOT the V-day cliched red roses), and I think "Valentine''s Day Jewelry" is hideous (i.e. Zales 10k heart pendant with teeny tiny I3 diamonds).

 

[princesss]

BF and I don't really do anything for it. Our anniversary is about two weeks before it (tomorrow!!!!), so normally we just combine them. This year it looks like we'll be exchanging gifts around V-day since neither of us really has cash right now. But I do like the day to be acknowledged in a small way (flowers or something, as long as there are no roses), and I love doing something small but unexpected for him.

 

[JSM]

We don''t really celebrate it either. We might go out to dinner that particular year if finances are okay, but nothing else. Our first Valentine''s Day together I told him not to waste his money on getting me a gift, and I won''t do the same. He loves me for it!

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

BF and I used to..but have sorta stepped out of it. I love chocolate...so might get some now and then, but defintely not upset or anything if i dont. Also, BF''s bday is Feb 24th...so i normally go all out for that rather then doing something on v-day.

 

[absolut_blonde]

We don't make a big deal out of it. Last year, he cooked me dinner and that is what we will be doing again this year. I'd much rather stay in than brave a busy restaurant. I am going to bake him some heart-shaped shortbread as well. That's about it. No expensive gifts or anything. Basically just another excuse to get a bit spoiled!

And I found a funny but naughty card to give him

 

[trillionaire]

I love to celebrate our love, and will take any excuse to do it!

However, I think V-day can be anything you want it to be. We typically do traditional things, but this year we are keeping it low key and cooking for each other at home. (one year we did fondue at home and movies, but it was still fantastic!) We do bubble baths or massages, or slow dancing in the dark, anything that is about us.

Anyway, to illustrate that we will do anything that involves us being/working together, this is our V-day ''09 project... http://www.instructables.com/id/Build-a-Talk-box-inside-a-Toilet-Plunger/

I am going to split up the list and make it like a thrift store scavenger hunt, and SO won''t know WHAT we are making. (see video) Then when we both get home, I am going to surprise him by telling him the project, then we are going to make it together, then make funny music videos with our homemade voice synth. It will be the best V-day ever, and I am super stoked! He''s going to LOVE it!

last year we had a $40 cap on v-day spending, including food. SO made me lovely origami roses in a bouquet and wrote me beautiful poems. I cried, and it was absolutely lovely!

 

[sammyj]

Date: 1/27/2009 12:01:17 PM
Author: trillionaire
I love to celebrate our love, and will take any excuse to do it!

Same here! But, like others, I''m not into chocolate or teddy bears and while I love the beauty of flowers, I HATE having to clean up after them once they wilt and die. We don''t do anything extravagant for v-day...I typically make a homemade card for my BF and I don''t think we''ve ever exchanged gifts. It''s just an excuse to be totally selfish as a couple and make a day (or two or three) about US and not have to worry about anything else. This year is a 4-day weekend for me and a 3-day weekend for him (yay for Family Day!) so we are making the most of it.

 

[caribqueen]

This may sound weird, but I think it''s the years whe V-day falls on a weekday that men feel pressure to send their GF flowers at work and the women can walk around with their head held high, because all of their co-workers know they got flowers on a Hallmark invented day. It''s all about show isn''t it?

I do think that because it falls on a Saturday this year, a day when most people are not at work or in the company of others in a formal setting, it''ll be less "pomp and circumstance." Personally, I don''t care for a teddy bear or some huge piece of chocolate. A nice dinner at home or out (to do our part for this horrible economy) will do me just fine.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/27/2009 11:50:33 AM
Author: princesss
BF and I don''t really do anything for it. Our anniversary is about two weeks before it (tomorrow!!!!), so normally we just combine them. This year it looks like we''ll be exchanging gifts around V-day since neither of us really has cash right now. But I do like the day to be acknowledged in a small way (flowers or something, as long as there are no roses), and I love doing something small but unexpected for him.

me too! last year, I stole his car and thoroughly cleaned and vacuumed it while he was sleeping. Totally unexpected, but he really appreciated it!

 

[ckrickett]

I dont make a HUGE deal out of it.
Like dinner and maybe a card works for me.

It lost its luster for me. I really loved Valentine''s Day when i was younger and you would make those cardboard mailboxes in class and you would give everyone the valentines day cards that you got from the drug store. You know the ones, the "My Little Pony" or GI JOE if they were out of girly ones

and you would write "From" on all the ones you gave to the girls in your class and "Love" to all the boys!

Man I miss those days!

 

[princesss]

Date: 1/27/2009 12:24:16 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 1/27/2009 11:50:33 AM
Author: princesss
BF and I don''t really do anything for it. Our anniversary is about two weeks before it (tomorrow!!!!), so normally we just combine them. This year it looks like we''ll be exchanging gifts around V-day since neither of us really has cash right now. But I do like the day to be acknowledged in a small way (flowers or something, as long as there are no roses), and I love doing something small but unexpected for him.

me too! last year, I stole his car and thoroughly cleaned and vacuumed it while he was sleeping. Totally unexpected, but he really appreciated it!

I love that idea! I may have to steal it from you sometime soon...

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/27/2009 1:09:35 PM
Author: ckrickett
I dont make a HUGE deal out of it.

Like dinner and maybe a card works for me.


It lost its luster for me. I really loved Valentine''s Day when i was younger and you would make those cardboard mailboxes in class and you would give everyone the valentines day cards that you got from the drug store. You know the ones, the ''My Little Pony'' or GI JOE if they were out of girly ones

and you would write ''From'' on all the ones you gave to the girls in your class and ''Love'' to all the boys!


Man I miss those days!

Maybe you can revive the idea...

You can both make boxes (like, shoe boxes), and leave them out for a few days before V-day, and on V-ay, you guys could open your boxes and see what treats you got! It could be really fun and cute, especially with a price limit, like $10-20. you can get all kinds of candies and homemade cards, pictures, etc.

I think it would be adorable!

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 1/27/2009 1:26:15 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 1/27/2009 1:09:35 PM
Author: ckrickett
I dont make a HUGE deal out of it.

Like dinner and maybe a card works for me.


It lost its luster for me. I really loved Valentine''s Day when i was younger and you would make those cardboard mailboxes in class and you would give everyone the valentines day cards that you got from the drug store. You know the ones, the ''My Little Pony'' or GI JOE if they were out of girly ones

and you would write ''From'' on all the ones you gave to the girls in your class and ''Love'' to all the boys!


Man I miss those days!

Maybe you can revive the idea...

You can both make boxes (like, shoe boxes), and leave them out for a few days before V-day, and on V-ay, you guys could open your boxes and see what treats you got! It could be really fun and cute, especially with a price limit, like $10-20. you can get all kinds of candies and homemade cards, pictures, etc.

I think it would be adorable!

OMG!!! I LOVE that idea!

I might have to go to the craft store and pick up some stuff!

 

[fieryred33143]

Valentine''s day is a lost concept in my household.

Our very first year together (we had been dating for 9 months at this point) he shows up to my apartment for dinner on Valentine''s Day. I, being the great cook that I am, ordered ribs haha. He shows up with a bookbag and pulls out this funky teddy bear and says "I got you a bear"

I almost peed on myself and told him that it was ok...we can skip Valentine''s day and we have.

 

[prettylnpink419]

My BF and I definitely do celebrate Valentine''s Day...when we can afford it. Last year he bought me a battery for my laptop...very practical, not really romantic but I needed it so I thought it was sweet. Plus I got flowers the week before for no reason. Last year I painted a neat bowl from a local pottery place. I painted it red with pink hearts and in white it said "101 Reasons" and I filled the bowl with candy and also 101 reasons why I loved him. We spent the night reading through them all and talking about them. He still has the bowl and whenever he is having a tough time he will randomly pull out reasons and read them to remind him how much I love him. I really liked the idea and he loved it. I think it will be something we''ll have forever.

This year I was holding something that didn''t come in for Christmas to give him for Valentine''s Day, it was a car part...not really romantic but something he really wanted. But he lost his job yesterday and was feel really down so I gave it to him last night to make him feel a little better. Plus I figured he''ll have the time to install the part now as well. Also, with him not having a job now, I wouldn''t want him to feel bad if he didn''t have anything for me and I had something pretty expensive for him. I''m sure this year Valentine''s Day will be very low key and we won''t do much. I''ll probably jus tmake dinner and we''ll eat by candlelight vs. going out and we''ll probably just exchange cards.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/27/2009 4:29:48 PM
Author: prettylnpink419
My BF and I definitely do celebrate Valentine''s Day...when we can afford it. Last year he bought me a battery for my laptop...very practical, not really romantic but I needed it so I thought it was sweet. Plus I got flowers the week before for no reason. Last year I painted a neat bowl from a local pottery place. I painted it red with pink hearts and in white it said ''101 Reasons'' and I filled the bowl with candy and also 101 reasons why I loved him. We spent the night reading through them all and talking about them. He still has the bowl and whenever he is having a tough time he will randomly pull out reasons and read them to remind him how much I love him. I really liked the idea and he loved it. I think it will be something we''ll have forever.

I made a jar like that for SO last year, and he also really enjoyed it! He still has it, and sometimes when we are on the phone, he will pull some out and read them.

 

[Tuckins1]

Nope. We do not celebrate Valentine''s day. It''s a made up holiday and we don''t want to waste money on more gifts... (My hubby buys me stuff all the time anyways

) We might go out to dinner (nothing fancy) or something, but no gifts- no big deal.

 

[misskitty]

I''m not sure if we''re doing any celebrating this year, but I''ve been looking for an excuse to get him a good bottle of Scotch.

The real shame is that neither of us like sweets. I love baking, and I''d totally go Martha Stewart on this holiday if anyone would eat the treats. Maybe I''ll surprise the office

 

[jcarlylew82]

actually, with E this is teh first time i really am celebrating Valentines day continuously! All we do is go out for dinner - no gifts.

 

[MishB]

Not not usually, our wedding anniversary is the 5th Feb, and DH''s birthday is the 28th, so there''s not much excitement left over for Valentine''s Day.

 

[Rhea]

We don''t celebrate by making a big deal of it, but we often cook together and watch a rented movie together. I suppose that we do celebrate it by spending time together. We don''t spend money, go out, or exchange presents though.

 

[supergirl10]

Date: 1/27/2009 10:57:59 AM
Author: tlh
No, my DH and I do not celebrate valentines day. I mean, he might get some school night nookie

... but other than that... No.

Haha this cracked me up!

 

[Pandora II]

Valentine''s Day is:

- an excuse for men to thing they only need to make one romantic gesture a year

- a way to make people who are single, divorced and widowed - and who are unhappy about their situation - feel even more crap and lonely than usual.

- a way to make the unpopular kids at school feel just a little bit worse than they normally do.

- a way for the greetings card/florist/jewellery/chocolate industries to make a shed-load of $$$$

I HATE valentine''s day with a vengeance.

DH and I do celebrate the 14th February as it represents the 6 month mark in any one year - this year it will be 4.5 years since we met. We don''t go out for dinner or anything, but it is a special day by sheer chance.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/28/2009 6:15:45 PM
Author: Pandora II
Valentine''s Day is:


- an excuse for men to thing they only need to make one romantic gesture a year


- a way to make people who are single, divorced and widowed - and who are unhappy about their situation - feel even more crap and lonely than usual.


- a way to make the unpopular kids at school feel just a little bit worse than they normally do.


- a way for the greetings card/florist/jewellery/chocolate industries to make a shed-load of $$$$


I HATE valentine''s day with a vengeance.


DH and I do celebrate the 14th February as it represents the 6 month mark in any one year - this year it will be 4.5 years since we met. We don''t go out for dinner or anything, but it is a special day by sheer chance.

Wow, I am amazed at how strongly people feel about V-day!

When I was single, I called it self-indulgence day. I would tell everyone I cared about how much I loved them, then I would do whatever I wanted, including eat cookies or chocolate for breakfast, or spend an extravagant amount making a meal to share with friends... I would dress up and basically remember to love ME, because I''m pretty cool!

Even when I had a bf that basically did nothing for V-day, I celebrated Self-Indulgence day and had the best V-day ever (pre-current BF)! Actually, I think I will start doing that again, since SO and I rarely spend V-day together.

I guess I like creating my own traditions

... not much of a traditionalist...