Erin
Ideal_Rock
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Just wanted to say HI to all ma sistaaaaz!!!
Today is a big day for me. I waited for the guy forever to propose. Next month would have been six years (I'm almost 32) and he moves out today...I move out this weekend!
Waited and waited as our relationship slowly went downhill. It was as if he didn't care to make time for us anymore (big red flag). I hung on longer because, well, maybe there was no engagement but we had made plenty of promises to each other and I wasn't going to give up that easy. So he temporarily moved out last October into a furnished apartment with the intention of a separation. This was in order to take time apart and really get back in touch with whether or not each other was who we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with.
Turns out, he decided I am. I decided he's not. It's been a grueling three months of him telling me everything I ever wanted to hear and more and basically just coming down to the final gut feeling of - but you never did this when we were together. It takes you losing me to decide you want me? That just doesn't sit well with me. Perhaps I'm taking on the philosophy - the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. It would be a big risk jumping back into this and frankly I just don't want to.
I've found since our separation that I have lots of friends. Turns out I wasn't balancing that very well when I used to wait around for him to give me the attention I wanted. Turns out I'm a natural at golf. Turns out there are plenty of guys who know how to treat women. Turns out I'm infinitely happier by myself than I've been with him. I can't believe I wanted to be with someone who didn't make me happy just because we had already invested so much and promised already.
Girls who are waiting - and I mean frustrated beyond understanding - really take a look at whether or not the reasons are legitimate for the delay. Turns out for us - the delay only prolonged the fact that we're not for each other.
Love reading the "Finally He Proposed" stories, ladies. Keep 'em coming!!! Hopefully one day I'll have one to share.
Erin
Today is a big day for me. I waited for the guy forever to propose. Next month would have been six years (I'm almost 32) and he moves out today...I move out this weekend!
Waited and waited as our relationship slowly went downhill. It was as if he didn't care to make time for us anymore (big red flag). I hung on longer because, well, maybe there was no engagement but we had made plenty of promises to each other and I wasn't going to give up that easy. So he temporarily moved out last October into a furnished apartment with the intention of a separation. This was in order to take time apart and really get back in touch with whether or not each other was who we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with.
Turns out, he decided I am. I decided he's not. It's been a grueling three months of him telling me everything I ever wanted to hear and more and basically just coming down to the final gut feeling of - but you never did this when we were together. It takes you losing me to decide you want me? That just doesn't sit well with me. Perhaps I'm taking on the philosophy - the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. It would be a big risk jumping back into this and frankly I just don't want to.
I've found since our separation that I have lots of friends. Turns out I wasn't balancing that very well when I used to wait around for him to give me the attention I wanted. Turns out I'm a natural at golf. Turns out there are plenty of guys who know how to treat women. Turns out I'm infinitely happier by myself than I've been with him. I can't believe I wanted to be with someone who didn't make me happy just because we had already invested so much and promised already.
Girls who are waiting - and I mean frustrated beyond understanding - really take a look at whether or not the reasons are legitimate for the delay. Turns out for us - the delay only prolonged the fact that we're not for each other.
Love reading the "Finally He Proposed" stories, ladies. Keep 'em coming!!! Hopefully one day I'll have one to share.