hippi_pixi
Brilliant_Rock
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So some back story: I am australian and my partner is indian. he was born in india but his family moved out to Aus when he was 2 years old. his parents had no idea i existed for the first ~6 years because he was expected to have an arranged marriage. In January my partner told them aout me and for the next 6 months they didn't want to meet me. both families met in June and straight away the wedding was brought up. me and my family would organise and pay for the australian wedding and they would organise and pay for the wedding in india.
I was fine with this but now that we started organising the australian wedding my future mother in law is DEMANDING that we have the indian wedding first. i mean my partner and his mother have been on the phone yelling about it for days now and hes coming to me begging me to give in.
2 reasons i want the australian wedding first. I'm planning the australian wedding myself for september next year and having a dress custom made. i can't just disappear for weeks before my wedding. i get food poisoning at the drop of a hat so i'm already dreading that. and i would like to do it once the australian wedding is done so i can relax and maybe honeymoon exploring india.
also the petty part of me thinks the first wedding is the real wedding and the second wedding is just a party. I'm SURE that this is exactly why my mother in law wants the indian wedding first. she hasn't said why or mentioned a certain date or time of year as to why she wants it first. she just wants it before the australian wedding.
the devil on my shoulder is saying stand up for what you want! this is your wedding she's trying to bully you because in her culture i should roll over and do anything she says. the angel on my shoulder is saying in the end what difference does it make to keep the peace. any thoughts?
I was fine with this but now that we started organising the australian wedding my future mother in law is DEMANDING that we have the indian wedding first. i mean my partner and his mother have been on the phone yelling about it for days now and hes coming to me begging me to give in.
2 reasons i want the australian wedding first. I'm planning the australian wedding myself for september next year and having a dress custom made. i can't just disappear for weeks before my wedding. i get food poisoning at the drop of a hat so i'm already dreading that. and i would like to do it once the australian wedding is done so i can relax and maybe honeymoon exploring india.
also the petty part of me thinks the first wedding is the real wedding and the second wedding is just a party. I'm SURE that this is exactly why my mother in law wants the indian wedding first. she hasn't said why or mentioned a certain date or time of year as to why she wants it first. she just wants it before the australian wedding.
the devil on my shoulder is saying stand up for what you want! this is your wedding she's trying to bully you because in her culture i should roll over and do anything she says. the angel on my shoulder is saying in the end what difference does it make to keep the peace. any thoughts?