Am I being sensitive?

[wsu12]

Today is my 30th Birthday. I have yet to receive a phone call from any family members aside from my Mom (parents divorced). Last year my father did not call AT ALL(No, we are not estranged). I think that explains the paranoia that I am feeling?

Please be kind, I know how blessed I am. It really hurts that my brothers, sisters and grandparents, etc. have not called.

 

[yssie]

Happy birthday!!!




Your birthday's not over - they've got time yet

::HUGS:: while you're waiting!

 

[iheartscience]

First of all, Happy Birthday!

No, I don''t think you''re being sensitive-my feelings would be hurt, too. I know it shouldn''t matter, but I think because of the holidays people tend to get overwhelmed and it probably slips their mind more often than it would if it was at another time of year. I hope your birthday was still good!

 

[MakingTheGrade]

If it makes you feel any better, my parents routinely get my age wrong when they talk to their friends, and have on occasion forgotten my birthday even when I was a kid and living at home. And I'm an only child! They always felt bad when sometime in the afternoon I'd have to remind them, haha. I know they love me, they just got frazzled sometimes.

I think people just get busy sometimes and lose track of these things. I know my husband doesn't remember anyone's birthday but his and mine. He never remembers to call his siblings or his parents on any of their birthdays, EVER. He loves them dearly, he just doesn't think of birthdays as a big deal I guess.

So I wouldn't take it to heart too much. You could also have your hubby call and say something like "FSU is 30 today, thought you might want to wish her a happy birthday". I'm sure they would love to say hi to you, they probably were just busy with the holidays that they forgot.

 

[kenny]

It is possible they are being thoughtful.
Some of us don't want to have milestone birthdays pointed out like 30, 40 50 etc.

Also, I only pay attention to the birthday's of kids and my SO.

 

[gardengloves]

Happy Birthday, sweetie.

 

[Kaleigh]

Happy birthday!!! No I don''t think you are being sensitive. I hope they call before the night is done. HUGS!!!!

 

[wsu12]

Date: 12/27/2009 5:39:47 PM
Author: kenny
It is possible they are being thoughtful.

Some of us don''t want to have milestone birthdays pointed out like 30, 40 50 etc.


Also, I only pay attention to the birthday''s of kids and my SO.

What''s ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.

Moving on...Wine in hand

.

 

[kenny]

Date: 12/27/2009 5:51:13 PM
Author: fsu1227
What's ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.
Moving on...Wine in hand

.

Ah yes, wine. Excellent idea; I'll think I'll join ya.
Cheers.

Oh, and Happy Birthday!

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 12/27/2009 5:59:24 PM
Author: kenny

Date: 12/27/2009 5:51:13 PM
Author: fsu1227
What''s ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.
Moving on...Wine in hand

.

Ah yes, wine. Excellent idea; I''ll think I''ll join ya.
Cheers.

Oh, and Happy Birthday!

Drinks are on me!!!! How''s that??

When I was 10 my Dad forgot my birthday. I had seen him in the morning before school. I was waiting for him to say wow you are 10,but nothing. I said anything special about today?? He said nope business as usual. And went back to reading his paper.

I went to school, feeling sort of blah. My Mom didn''t say anything to me either. But that''s not unusal for her.. She was still in bed.
I had a houselkeper that drove me to school.

Anyway at lunch time, the teacher came up to me, and handed me something. She said, Your dad is beside himself that he forgot today is your birthday so he sent you a telegram.

That made me smile.

Family can forget. I am hoping they get in touch with you soon.

 

[April20]

Date: 12/27/2009 6:24:21 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 12/27/2009 5:59:24 PM
Author: kenny

Date: 12/27/2009 5:51:13 PM
Author: fsu1227
What''s ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.
Moving on...Wine in hand

.

Ah yes, wine. Excellent idea; I''ll think I''ll join ya.
Cheers.

Oh, and Happy Birthday!

Drinks are on me!!!! How''s that??

When I was 10 my Dad forgot my birthday. I had seen him in the morning before school. I was waiting for him to say wow you are 10,but nothing. I said anything special about today?? He said nope business as usual. And went back to reading his paper.

I went to school, feeling sort of blah. My Mom didn''t say anything to me either. But that''s not unusal for her.. She was still in bed.
I had a houselkeper that drove me to school.

Anyway at lunch time, the teacher came up to me, and handed me something. She said, Your dad is beside himself that he forgot today is your birthday so he sent you a telegram.

That made me smile.

Family can forget. I am hoping they get in touch with you soon.

I watched 16 Candles the other night- totally reminds me of that movie.

 

[junebug17]

Aw sweetie, I''m sorry you''re feeling a little sad on your birthday! Sometimes people lose track of what day it is, big hugs to you and Happy Birthday!

 

[swingirl]

Happy Birthday!! I honestly only expect my immediate family (husband and kids) to shout it out to me. All other greetings are appreciated but not expected, especially since I don't always remember to reciprocate.

PS Birthdays around the holidays are the pits!! I have one, too.

 

[Sizzle]

Date: 12/27/2009 5:33:06 PM
Author:fsu1227
Today is my 30th Birthday. I have yet to receive a phone call from any family members aside from my Mom (parents divorced). Last year my father did not call AT ALL(No, we are not estranged). I think that explains the paranoia that I am feeling?

Please be kind, I know how blessed I am. It really hurts that my brothers, sisters and grandparents, etc. have not called.

Happy Birthday! The BIG 3-0! No you are not being overly sensitve! Your siblings and father should have called! But like others have said, it being the holidays, perhaps it just slipped peoples minds.. I''m sure it''s not becasue they don''t care. Yes, you are fabulously blessed, but its ok to be sad when others aren''t as attentive as you would have liked. Hopefully they will make it up to you soon.

 

[asscherisme]

I don''t think you are being overly sensative. I turned 40 this year and my brother completely forgot my birthday. It was really hurtful especially since there was such a HUGE deal made out of his 2 years ago. Its not like he was late, he just forgot. And I never brought it up to him because he would then accuse me of being petty so I never said a word. Its been months but I still find it kind of hurtful that he forgot

So I totally get where you are coming from. Happy birthday. And your mom remembered

 

[joflier]

Awww - I''m sorry. ((hugs)) I''m one of those that''s bad with calling. I''ll remember the day before. And the day after. I have the best of intentions, but always seem to get sidetracked. Hopefully you get some calls. And if not, revel in the happiness of great friends that did remember. Don''t let it get you down - tomorrow is a new day. Happy birthday!

 

[vc10um]

Date: 12/27/2009 5:59:24 PM
Author: kenny

Date: 12/27/2009 5:51:13 PM

Author: fsu1227

What''s ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.

Moving on...Wine in hand

.

Ah yes, wine. Excellent idea; I''ll think I''ll join ya.

Cheers.


Oh, and Happy Birthday!

**Pours glass of wine**
**Toasts FSU''s 30th birthday**
**Sips yummy wine**

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Happy birthday!

My grandmothers do not know/remember my birthday. Ever. Neither does my father. Sometimes my siblings also forget. Is it disappointing? Maybe for a few minutes but I quickly remind myself that the world does not revolve around me and I choose not to carry around unnecessary resentments. Life is a lot easier when you drop your expectations. No one can ever meet those 100% of the time. No one. So enjoy your birthday. Just because they forgot does not mean they love you less.

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 12/27/2009 9:53:01 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Happy birthday!

My grandmothers do not know/remember my birthday. Ever. Neither does my father. Sometimes my siblings also forget. Is it disappointing? Maybe for a few minutes but I quickly remind myself that the world does not revolve around me and I choose not to carry around unnecessary resentments. Life is a lot easier when you drop your expectations. No one can ever meet those 100% of the time. No one. So enjoy your birthday. Just because they forgot does not mean they love you less.

Great post!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/27/2009 9:59:18 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 12/27/2009 9:53:01 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

Happy birthday!


My grandmothers do not know/remember my birthday. Ever. Neither does my father. Sometimes my siblings also forget. Is it disappointing? Maybe for a few minutes but I quickly remind myself that the world does not revolve around me and I choose not to carry around unnecessary resentments. Life is a lot easier when you drop your expectations. No one can ever meet those 100% of the time. No one. So enjoy your birthday. Just because they forgot does not mean they love you less.

Great post!!

Thanks Lisa. I forgot to mention my family is fabulous. They are wonderful people but life gets in the way and I no longer expect them to remember all that is important to me. We are human and make mistakes. I am sure I also forget things that are important to them.

 

[FrekeChild]

Happy Birthday!!!!

My dad would probably forget except for the fact that for 2010 I decided to prevent it by writing mine and FI''s birthday in his brand new planner.

And my brothers never remember, and never do anything, so I choose to not acknowledge theirs.

Passive aggressive? I think so. But regardless I still think of them on their birthdays and wish them well. I really doubt that is what is going on with your fam though!

How about another drink? Dirty martini sound good?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

No, you''re not being sensitive...that''s hurtful. But, to be honest, my Grandmother could never remember my birthday. I would be sure to sarcastically thank them for calling your birthday next time you speak, in a tongue and cheek way of course. Sometimes humor can be a big wake up call for people. You can nicely remind them that it matters to you without getting "into" it.

Maybe they are planning something on the side, the old we-forgot-your-birthday-but-planned-this-big-whatever...

See how it plays out.

 

[Haven]

Happy birthday!!!!

 

[Mara]

Aww Happy Birthday. I expect my Mom at least to always acknowledge my bday, and she typically calls me the same hour I was born to leave a message. She'll usually also remind my sisters to call or text or something too.

That said, I agree in general with Tacori about people and expectations. Everyone has their own life to lead and we don't always have an idea on what people are dealing with in their lives on a daily basis.

But yeah I figure Mom will always acknowledge...and usually my hub remembers too.

Hahah other than that, it's a free for all. Oh and my Grandma has not remembered my bday on it's actual day for almost 3 years now...she's just getting older.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I would urge against any snarky or passive aggressive comments. You are hurt and that''s understandable so I would be an adult and tell them in a nonemotional, calm, clear way. Otherwise you would be acting like a child and more than likely they will be defensive and match your tone. Is it really worth it? Would you rather be right or happy? Sometimes you can''t be both. Regardless hope you are having a great night.

 

[Skippy123]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, hope you get something sparkly for your 30th

CHEERS!!!

 

[vip0802]

Date: 12/27/2009 9:27:32 PM
Author: vc10um

Date: 12/27/2009 5:59:24 PM

Author: kenny

Date: 12/27/2009 5:51:13 PM


Author: fsu1227


What''s ironic about this is that my close friends phoned me bright and early this morning. Which I am OVERJOYED about

. They are wonderful.


Moving on...Wine in hand

.

Ah yes, wine. Excellent idea; I''ll think I''ll join ya.


Cheers.



Oh, and Happy Birthday!

**Pours glass of wine**

**Toasts FSU''s 30th birthday**

**Sips yummy wine**


HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

happy birthday fsu! i''m sorry your family members haven''t called, and i don''t think you''re being sensitive about this at all. hopefully, they''ll call soon and i hope you had a great b-day nonetheless!

cheers to you! oh wait, i''m out of wine though. hmm...how about Bailey''s on the rocks?

 

[Blackpaw]

Im so sorry FSU, this sucks

but Happy Birthday anyhoo, enjoy being spoiled by your DH

 

[Luckyeshe]

Happy birthday, FSU! Hope you had a wonderful day! I don't think you're wrong for being sensitive about the lack of calls from the family, but I hope you had a great day anyways!

 

[wsu12]

Thank you PS friends. My father did indeed call, I did not bring up his dodgy behavior. I acted like the 30 year old woman that I now am. Had a great night that included a wonderful meal with my husband and friends, even a cigar!

Thanks again! It was lovely coming home to read such nice sentiments.