hawaiianorangetree
Ideal_Rock
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It''s my daughters 10th birthday in a few weeks and she is having a party. She has invited 13 out of the 29 kids in her class, a fairly even mix of girls and boys, but there were two girls that i specifically asked her not to invite and now i am feeling guilty about it.
These two girls live around our area and although i do not encourage the friendship between them and my daughter they are usually around most weekends, out the front, knocking on the door and asking my daughter to come play with them. The reason i don''t encourage the friendships is because both girls don''t come from very nice homes. They have no manners, boundaries or any idea of what is acceptable behaviour. This isn''t their fault, this is their upbringing. I found that when my daughter hung around them, their attitude would wear of on her a bit. So although i don''t stop her from playing with them (they come to us, she never goes to them) I don''t encourage it either and that''s why i asked her not to invite them to the party. (yes i am aware of the contradicion in my words even as i write them).
So one of the girls just knocked on the door looking for K and the guilt hit me about not inviting them. It''s really not their fault they are like this but at the same time i don''t really want her around my daughter, but not enough to flat out tell her to go away becasue i know it is not her fault her mother cut her hair off to about half an inch long with kitchen scissors because she couldn''t get rid of the nits (yes it is a form of abuse i know).
The other girl is just generally a handful, she invited herself to stay one night even though she had never even been to our house before (yes, her mother let her stay at someones house that she had never even spoken too before) she comes from a family of 8 and is pretty starved of attention. She ended up breaking the bedroom window the night she stayed.
So should i invite the 2 girls even though i don''t want to encourage the friendship becasue i feel sorry for them or should i just stick to my original decision?
It''s my daughters 10th birthday in a few weeks and she is having a party. She has invited 13 out of the 29 kids in her class, a fairly even mix of girls and boys, but there were two girls that i specifically asked her not to invite and now i am feeling guilty about it.
These two girls live around our area and although i do not encourage the friendship between them and my daughter they are usually around most weekends, out the front, knocking on the door and asking my daughter to come play with them. The reason i don''t encourage the friendships is because both girls don''t come from very nice homes. They have no manners, boundaries or any idea of what is acceptable behaviour. This isn''t their fault, this is their upbringing. I found that when my daughter hung around them, their attitude would wear of on her a bit. So although i don''t stop her from playing with them (they come to us, she never goes to them) I don''t encourage it either and that''s why i asked her not to invite them to the party. (yes i am aware of the contradicion in my words even as i write them).
So one of the girls just knocked on the door looking for K and the guilt hit me about not inviting them. It''s really not their fault they are like this but at the same time i don''t really want her around my daughter, but not enough to flat out tell her to go away becasue i know it is not her fault her mother cut her hair off to about half an inch long with kitchen scissors because she couldn''t get rid of the nits (yes it is a form of abuse i know).
The other girl is just generally a handful, she invited herself to stay one night even though she had never even been to our house before (yes, her mother let her stay at someones house that she had never even spoken too before) she comes from a family of 8 and is pretty starved of attention. She ended up breaking the bedroom window the night she stayed.
So should i invite the 2 girls even though i don''t want to encourage the friendship becasue i feel sorry for them or should i just stick to my original decision?