Treasure43
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Ladies, I'm looking for some advice. I have 4 girls in my wedding party, including my FSIL. I went to college with my MOH and another BM so they know each other. My other BM has met the other two girls once or twice. So they all know each other, except for my FSIL. FSIL met my MOH once. My MOH has tried to include her in the planning because my FSIL said that she really wants to get to know me better and be a part of things. However, whenever she emails my FSIL, my FSIL always writes back with some excuse of why she can't come.
Instead of a bachelorette party I wanted the bridal party and I to go to the beach. FSIL said she was too old for bachelorette parties (she's 2 and said she couldn't come to the beach weekend. Which is fine and I understand it might be akaward because she doesn't know the other girls very well and they all know each other. We're then coming back for the shower (which FSIL is coming to). Then, I asked the bridal party if they wanted to go out for a drink with a few friends of mine who aren't in the bridal party. I thought it would be low key and give them a chance to get to know each other a little before the wedding. MOH emailed FSIL and asked her about the drinks. FSIL replied that she had family in town and couldn't come. Now I know this is true, but a part of me is wondering if she feels like my MOH is inviting her out of obligation. FSIL and I are very different and aren't that close, however I'd like to get to know her better. I was wondering if I should write FSIL an email and say that I would love for her to come out and have drinks with us but I understand if she can't. It just seems odd that she says she wants to be very involved in everything, yet keeps saying no.
It's so interesting because before anything was planned she kept saying how she hoped my MOH and I would include her in things (of course we would, she's a BM!) but when she gets asked she's always got an excuse. She made a HUGE deal about how she didn't know if she had time to do the food for the shower, after making a HUGE deal about worrying if she would be included in the shower or not and saying she really wanted to help. Then she made a huge deal because I'm not picky and all I said I wanted was mimosas and bagels, anything else would be awesome but that was really all I wanted to make sure I had. She then complained and said no one would want mimsosa with brunch (after I'd told her I"m not the biggest fan of breakfast food). Honestly, I don't care what mimsosas go with...I only wanted to make sure I had that and bagels and you're going to complain and say it doesn't go?
Just looking for some advice on how to bridge the gap...
Instead of a bachelorette party I wanted the bridal party and I to go to the beach. FSIL said she was too old for bachelorette parties (she's 2 and said she couldn't come to the beach weekend. Which is fine and I understand it might be akaward because she doesn't know the other girls very well and they all know each other. We're then coming back for the shower (which FSIL is coming to). Then, I asked the bridal party if they wanted to go out for a drink with a few friends of mine who aren't in the bridal party. I thought it would be low key and give them a chance to get to know each other a little before the wedding. MOH emailed FSIL and asked her about the drinks. FSIL replied that she had family in town and couldn't come. Now I know this is true, but a part of me is wondering if she feels like my MOH is inviting her out of obligation. FSIL and I are very different and aren't that close, however I'd like to get to know her better. I was wondering if I should write FSIL an email and say that I would love for her to come out and have drinks with us but I understand if she can't. It just seems odd that she says she wants to be very involved in everything, yet keeps saying no.
It's so interesting because before anything was planned she kept saying how she hoped my MOH and I would include her in things (of course we would, she's a BM!) but when she gets asked she's always got an excuse. She made a HUGE deal about how she didn't know if she had time to do the food for the shower, after making a HUGE deal about worrying if she would be included in the shower or not and saying she really wanted to help. Then she made a huge deal because I'm not picky and all I said I wanted was mimosas and bagels, anything else would be awesome but that was really all I wanted to make sure I had. She then complained and said no one would want mimsosa with brunch (after I'd told her I"m not the biggest fan of breakfast food). Honestly, I don't care what mimsosas go with...I only wanted to make sure I had that and bagels and you're going to complain and say it doesn't go?
Just looking for some advice on how to bridge the gap...