somethingshiny
Ideal_Rock
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I''m sorry to post such a horrible topic, but I really need some advice.
My best friend just told me her little girl (10) was inappropriately touched on the school bus last week by a 6th grade boy. Clothes were on the whole time, but he pinned her in the bus seat and rubbed a lot on the inner thigh area. She was scared, nervous, and "disgusted". It was very upsetting to her for the day before she told her parents. She knows it was wrong, knows she didn''t cause it, etc. She obviously doesn''t want to ride the bus anymore, but other than that, she seems to be doing fairly well now. She also told her mom that she first told her little friend. The friend said that he did it to her, too. (the friend never told anyone) The police haven''t been involved because her parents thought it wasn''t "private parts" so the police wouldn''t do anything about it. Also, my friend doesn''t want her little girl to be known as the "molested girl" or anything, because we do live in a small town. Currently my friend is trying to decide how to go about discussions with the school. She wants to keep the boy away from her daughter and thinks the buses should be monitored (they aren''t if they''re "in town buses".) We''ve also discussed trying to get some sort of assembly to tell the children about "inappropriate touching" that includes more than "private parts." But, who knows what will come of that.
I told DH and I told him the boy''s name. He called his friend to make sure, but it turns out this kid is DH''s friend''s (co-worker) nephew. DH''s friend actually had the kid living with him for several months (his mom gave up on him )and sent him back to his mother''s after the kid had molested their 8yr old daughter (full-on molestation). They had the police involved, and at that time (last year) the police said he was too young to do anything about.
So, this kid obviously has problems. Knowing the extent of his mother''s inability to cope with him, I feel very sorry for the kid. I think he needs help, not just ignored. It seems he''s been passed around a lot because no one knows what to do. His mother refuses to see what he does, she just insists that he''s a rowdy boy and he will grow out of it. (He''s also been physically abusive to his sibling and mother which is why he moved out of their home to begin with) At this point, I think the only way to HELP the boy is to have him put in a juvenile detention home where he can have some boundaries, guidance, and counseling while he gets his education and grows up.
I don''t know what to do to help my friend or her little girl. I don''t think the little girl should have to be the poster child for this subject, but I do think it''s necessary to do something to prevent the boy from doing it again. (she''s at least the third girl he''s messed with) I can''t help but wonder what he''s going to do in 2 or 3 years.
So, after all this emotional rambling, any advice?? I''m at a loss on what to do....
TIA
My best friend just told me her little girl (10) was inappropriately touched on the school bus last week by a 6th grade boy. Clothes were on the whole time, but he pinned her in the bus seat and rubbed a lot on the inner thigh area. She was scared, nervous, and "disgusted". It was very upsetting to her for the day before she told her parents. She knows it was wrong, knows she didn''t cause it, etc. She obviously doesn''t want to ride the bus anymore, but other than that, she seems to be doing fairly well now. She also told her mom that she first told her little friend. The friend said that he did it to her, too. (the friend never told anyone) The police haven''t been involved because her parents thought it wasn''t "private parts" so the police wouldn''t do anything about it. Also, my friend doesn''t want her little girl to be known as the "molested girl" or anything, because we do live in a small town. Currently my friend is trying to decide how to go about discussions with the school. She wants to keep the boy away from her daughter and thinks the buses should be monitored (they aren''t if they''re "in town buses".) We''ve also discussed trying to get some sort of assembly to tell the children about "inappropriate touching" that includes more than "private parts." But, who knows what will come of that.
I told DH and I told him the boy''s name. He called his friend to make sure, but it turns out this kid is DH''s friend''s (co-worker) nephew. DH''s friend actually had the kid living with him for several months (his mom gave up on him )and sent him back to his mother''s after the kid had molested their 8yr old daughter (full-on molestation). They had the police involved, and at that time (last year) the police said he was too young to do anything about.
So, this kid obviously has problems. Knowing the extent of his mother''s inability to cope with him, I feel very sorry for the kid. I think he needs help, not just ignored. It seems he''s been passed around a lot because no one knows what to do. His mother refuses to see what he does, she just insists that he''s a rowdy boy and he will grow out of it. (He''s also been physically abusive to his sibling and mother which is why he moved out of their home to begin with) At this point, I think the only way to HELP the boy is to have him put in a juvenile detention home where he can have some boundaries, guidance, and counseling while he gets his education and grows up.
I don''t know what to do to help my friend or her little girl. I don''t think the little girl should have to be the poster child for this subject, but I do think it''s necessary to do something to prevent the boy from doing it again. (she''s at least the third girl he''s messed with) I can''t help but wonder what he''s going to do in 2 or 3 years.
So, after all this emotional rambling, any advice?? I''m at a loss on what to do....
TIA