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blissfulbride

blissfulbride

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My husband and I just passed by a jewelry store .A beautiful ring caught my eye,so for the heck of it we when inside and I asked to see it. The price was 1100 but was on sale for 795. Now this ring is stunning. The ring is a fashion cushion yellow topaz in 4ct, but is the splitting image of a canary diamond. It''s set on a white gold paved band and I''m inlove with it.

My husband is worried that, because the size is so much larger then my 2.05 radiant engagement ring with two side sides in .50cts. That I will favor this new one and no longer want to wear the original, but I told him that they are completely too different looks and it''s not even a diamond. The problem is that the ring is so convincing, and is one hell of a sparkler. Im sure you get the picture!

I just wanted to get some advice from thoughs who have purchase another engagement ring. Did you feel differently about the first one and no longer wear it or do you switch from time to time, depending on your mood or event. I look at it as my want to be ring, because we would never be able to afford a 4ct canary diamond. Plus I would never wear it to work or around people who know me only because its not realistic at all ( we do well but we arent doing that well)lol. To strangers I could totally pull it off or on the weekend and to nice events.

Im so inlove with it, and im torn I don''t want to make the wrong decision and then find out that I love 4ct more and never wear my real engagement ring. Please help. I cant stop thinking about that beauty.
 
umm, I have a few, some colored stone rings and a couple of diamonds as well. I switch it up. I save my very first engagement ring so that I can pass that down to my daugthers, so its still apart of the family. I don''t wear it at all and we won''t give it up either. DH is ok with that. When I first started to look at upgrading my ring, I was a bit torn but in the end, its the relationship I have with my husband the ring is just a nice perk for us
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Blissful, are you looking to 100% replace your original e-ring or just wear this one on occasion in place of the other? I sort of see where your husband is coming from. My husband would be totally peeved at me if I asked to do this, but we''ve only been married since July and engaged for 2 years before that. He supports an upgrade, around year 10 or so. Your concern strikes close to home for me as well because I know I have an amazing ring willed to me in the future. I''ve often thought about how I''d manage wearing what''s so clearly an e-ring (2ct EC in platinum setting with baguettes) on my right hand, and I don''t like the thought. However, DH isn''t cool with the idea of me wearing someone else''s engagement ring on my left hand, regardless of whether the other person was my grandmother. I''m also not big on pretending I''m something I''m not or that I have something I don''t, even if it''s only for special event or the weekend.

I''m sure the ring is gorgeous and I think the price is fair for a right hand ring. Why not get it as a RHR and then play around with it for awhile. For all you know, your husband might like the look of a larger stone on your hand and let you wear it on your left or even suggest an upgrade!!! Do you have a birthday or anniversary coming up where you can ask for the ring as a gift?
 
BLissful, Do you really want to wear it on your left hand? I would wear it as a RHR and keep your engagement ring on your LH...
 
Well It would be a christmas gift to myself lol I never bought myself anything this holiday. I could tell he''s not crazy about the idea and told me to instead get myself another chanel bag. lol
 
If it''s the stone that you really like, why not have it set into a shockingly gorgeous "canary" pendant?
 
Well then buy it for yourself and wear it on your right hand. I don''t think many people here would buy themselves an engagement ring....
 
I think you should listen to your husband. If it will hurt him to wear this ring instead of your ering then you should buy it as a right hand ring.

And come back and show us lots of pictures when you get it!!
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well I just look at it as a fun jewelry piece. im so torn and im so inlove it with. im going to have to sleep on it
 
+1 for a rockin right hand ring! It''s the best of all worlds because you can have it, wear it everyday (as well as your e-ring) AND hubby wont be upset :D
 
If you love it as much as you say, and you can afford it, buy it for your right hand...and enjoy it :)
 
That sounds like an amazingly gorgeous ring! I can tell how much you love it!

I would get it as a RHR! One thing to mention is, lots of jewelry can look ASTOUNDING under jewelry store lights. Did you take it outside to see it in different lighting scenarios? I'm thinking that while the topaz might look sparkly, luscious and blinding under the jewelry store lights, it won't be as believable as a canary diamond in other lighting scenarios. Also, it is quite large and it's hard to mimic a diamond's sparkle at that size in natural light and etc. And then you might not love it as much. Canaries have that magical diamond sparkle; there's nothing quite like it. So if you're loving it for that reason, you might not love it in real life when the topaz doesn't perform the same way outside the store. The last thing I want you to do is to spend a lot on something you might not love as much in real life scenarios.

But if this ring sings to you, get it! Take it to the window and outside if you can, though! It does sound wonderful.

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Date: 1/8/2010 3:42:12 PM
Author: Maisie
I think you should listen to your husband. If it will hurt him to wear this ring instead of your ering then you should buy it as a right hand ring.

And come back and show us lots of pictures when you get it!!
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Ditto this! I would hate to hurt my husbands feelings over a piece of jewelry.
 
I would get it as a RHR too.

My reason is that I like to wear my most expensive piece of jewelry the most often and on my left hand, and I don''t like to try to fakey things.
 
Date: 1/8/2010 4:48:20 PM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 1/8/2010 3:42:12 PM
Author: Maisie
I think you should listen to your husband. If it will hurt him to wear this ring instead of your ering then you should buy it as a right hand ring.

And come back and show us lots of pictures when you get it!!
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Ditto this! I would hate to hurt my husbands feelings over a piece of jewelry.
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Me, too.


It would make a stunning RHR, though!!
 
It's a good deal and if you love it? buy it girl.
DH is not interested in upgrading my e-ring [his mother's stone] over the years I have purchased several sets and he doesn't mind it, they are all loved equally and get switched often. Do wear my wedding band with all of them though [img]http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/images/smilies/2.gif[/img]
 
Date: 1/8/2010 3:29:41 PM
Author: Bella_mezzo
BLissful, Do you really want to wear it on your left hand? I would wear it as a RHR and keep your engagement ring on your LH...
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Ditto
 
Date: 1/8/2010 6:23:36 PM
Author: EHR2009

Date: 1/8/2010 3:29:41 PM
Author: Bella_mezzo
BLissful, Do you really want to wear it on your left hand? I would wear it as a RHR and keep your engagement ring on your LH...
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Ditto
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Yep.
 
Get it and wear it as a RHR.
 
Ideally, buy it for yourself and wear it as a RHR. If you really want to wear it in place of your e-ring occasionally, ask for it as a gift. That way it would also be from him and you can wear either, knowing that they were both from him and they both make you happy. One could be your “everyday” ring, and the other is your occasional “dress up” ring.
 
I''m with Mobinvera. Also, remind him that a topaz is a lot softer than a diamond, and not so good for every single day.

I also have 2 e-rings, the first is a ruby that is getting damaged! So I usually wear a wide rose gold band on the left that he bought as a travel ring for me, and my diamond set I bought for myself on the right, or a pink diamond halo he bought on the right.
 
If you love it that much, then it''s a no brainer, go get that beauty!!
 
Date: 1/8/2010 3:14:51 PM
Author:blissfulbride
I look at it as my want to be ring, because we would never be able to afford a 4ct canary diamond. Plus I would never wear it to work or around people who know me only because its not realistic at all ( we do well but we arent doing that well)lol. To strangers I could totally pull it off or on the weekend and to nice events.
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So you''re hoping people will mistake it for a canary diamond? People in-the-know will never mistake a yellow topaz for a canary diamond. In fact, I don''t think 95% Pricescopers would think a yellow topaz is a canary diamond.

If you want an honest opinion, I think it''s a little odd that you want to replace your original engagement ring with a yellow topaz you hope to pass off as a canary diamond in order to fool strangers (i.e. "to strangers I could totally pull it off" but to your family and coworkers you wouldn''t dare because it''s not "realistic").

I think fashion jewelry is for fun, not for trying to come off as something you''re not. Why not wear it as a fun RHR?
 
My wife''s ER was her mother''s and grandmothers which I purchased from her mother 16 years ago.

When we upgraded a few weeks ago, I asked if she really wanted to keep her ring. Her comment was that she would never wear the smaller ring and would never even look back once it was traded in for the new one.

I asked her this AM if she missed the old one (mailed Monday) and she said kiddingly, she did not even remember what it looked like but was having trouble waiting for the new one to arrive (next week).

Since you have 2 "different" stones and the price is not over expensive, I would buy it and wear on your occasions that warrant. But, if you want to fool people, the only one you will be fooling, is yourself.

Good luck with your choice.
 
Buy it and wear it as RHR! thats what i''d do! and the post lots of pics so the rest of us can drool over it... :)
 
Yup, this seems like an easy one. RHR.
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(Also, fwiw, I''m with the group that says you should love the ring for what it is, and not because you think it''ll pass as a canary diamond. It won''t. A topaz doesn''t look much like a diamond at all. But it''s a beautiful stone in its own right, and deserves appreciation on its own merits.)
 
I wouldn''t wear it instead of the diamond - but in addition to it on my right hand.
 
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