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marymm|1299363925|2865669 said:Thinking about it, most of the compliments I receive on my rings (from people I don't know) are from food servers or sales clerks -- I am always thrilled - sometimes it is a quick "your ring is so beautiful / sparkly" and sometimes they want to know what kind of stone (usually one of my Tanzanites) - but one person said "wow, your husband must really want people to know you're married" about my ER - I said "thank you" as a reflex but later I thought it was a strange way to phrase a compliment and maybe it wasn't?
But the other day I was on the subway (NYC) and I noticed a woman's classic emerald-cut solitaire - it wasn't a diamond but I couldn't get a good look to see what kind of colored gem it was - I glanced over several times (basically when I glimpsed movement out of the corner of my eye) hoping to catch a better view -- and then I noticed she moved the ring around so the gemstone was facing her palm and only the shank was viewable! I'm not sure if she noticed my looks and freaked out, or if she usually does this on the train and just had forgotten to turn it before. I would have been too far away to compliment her, and I was wearing gloves so my rings weren't visible... but still I wondered if my glances had creeped her out into turning her ring.
So I'm with the people who say the environment they're in often guides whether they offer a compliment or not -- I don't want to make people afraid or nervous, and I definitely don't want to make people feel so insecure they don't wear their jewelry.
I'm a behind the counter "sales clerk" complimenter (is that a word? ), not really a sales clerk, but similar atmosphere, I've found it's easier to compliment somebody from my posistion because they don't think I'm crazy or trying to rob them, most people will just take the compliment easier when there is no hint of a threat.