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Some background: divorced mom of four, ages 2 4 8 and almost 11 (on my own with them for since the youngest was 3 weeks old). I''m 39, and he''ll be 40 right before Christmas. Know my bf for 22 years, have been great friends, and started talking about entering into a courtship back on St. Patrick''s day, 2007. We finally started the courtship in July, and pretty much know we''ll be getting married next October. It''s the timing of the engagement that I have no clue about, and its driving me nuts!
SOME men (not all), just don''t get how even a simple wedding takes a lot of planning. To make it worse, I''m not the type of person to just fly by the seat of my pants. I like making plans, budgeting, etc. (I''m sure many of you LIW can relate!), and he''s the polar opposite when it comes to that. That being said, we are kinda old fashioned in some ways. Because of the children, we will not "live together" until there is a ring on my hand, and it will be within a few months of us getting married (we''re on the same page with that).
He says the proposal is getting close, but he also said in a round about way he wouldn''t do it at Christmas. But he''s already talked to my oldest about proposing, and told him he would be doing it soon. ARGH!!! The not knowing is KILLING ME! To top it off, I already know he''ll be using his mother''s engagement ring (sweet and I am so honored, but I work with diamonds and jewelry, so to not have a say is pretty ironic and funny to me, lol), so I not only know what the ring looks like, but have already tried it on a few times at his sister''s urging to make sure it fits.
So add me to the list of sweetly tormented LIW''s!
SOME men (not all), just don''t get how even a simple wedding takes a lot of planning. To make it worse, I''m not the type of person to just fly by the seat of my pants. I like making plans, budgeting, etc. (I''m sure many of you LIW can relate!), and he''s the polar opposite when it comes to that. That being said, we are kinda old fashioned in some ways. Because of the children, we will not "live together" until there is a ring on my hand, and it will be within a few months of us getting married (we''re on the same page with that).
He says the proposal is getting close, but he also said in a round about way he wouldn''t do it at Christmas. But he''s already talked to my oldest about proposing, and told him he would be doing it soon. ARGH!!! The not knowing is KILLING ME! To top it off, I already know he''ll be using his mother''s engagement ring (sweet and I am so honored, but I work with diamonds and jewelry, so to not have a say is pretty ironic and funny to me, lol), so I not only know what the ring looks like, but have already tried it on a few times at his sister''s urging to make sure it fits.
So add me to the list of sweetly tormented LIW''s!
It''s so sweet that your boyfriend talked to your daughter about it, and I understand why you both want/plan to wait until you''re engaged to move in. Best of luck and keep us posted!
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