I just found your post and I swear I think we are the same person!
I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years and living together for over 1. When he asked me to move in, I KNEW this would happen, so I said that I needed a timeline. He told me he would know within a year. (notice how he gave HIMSELF that timeline)
Well, it''s been a year and guess what?....NOTHING! Everytime I''ve tried to bring it up he says the same thing: he''s not ready and changes the subject. I am extremely frustrated as well. I am 28, but he is only 25, so I know that is part of it. Like you, I want to be married before I am 30, but that''s not going to happen.
After a lot of thinking, I''ve decided that constantly bringing it up and harping on him is making it worse (his parents and our friends actually bug him about it more than I do). he is currently building a house and it will be a while before it is ready, so we will likely have to move in with our parents when we sell our current house until the new one is ready.
I''ve decided that I won''t move back in with him unless I have a ring on my finger, and if there is no proposal by the new year, I''m done. We''ve had the discussion a thousand times and he knows where I stand. So I won''t bring it up any more and leave it at that.
If you find anything that works, let me know!!!
p.s. to make matters worse, his 20 year old sister just got engaged. So I definately won''t be having a wedding until 2008! And we''ve been together longer than they''ve known each other
I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years and living together for over 1. When he asked me to move in, I KNEW this would happen, so I said that I needed a timeline. He told me he would know within a year. (notice how he gave HIMSELF that timeline)
Well, it''s been a year and guess what?....NOTHING! Everytime I''ve tried to bring it up he says the same thing: he''s not ready and changes the subject. I am extremely frustrated as well. I am 28, but he is only 25, so I know that is part of it. Like you, I want to be married before I am 30, but that''s not going to happen.
After a lot of thinking, I''ve decided that constantly bringing it up and harping on him is making it worse (his parents and our friends actually bug him about it more than I do). he is currently building a house and it will be a while before it is ready, so we will likely have to move in with our parents when we sell our current house until the new one is ready.
I''ve decided that I won''t move back in with him unless I have a ring on my finger, and if there is no proposal by the new year, I''m done. We''ve had the discussion a thousand times and he knows where I stand. So I won''t bring it up any more and leave it at that.
If you find anything that works, let me know!!!
p.s. to make matters worse, his 20 year old sister just got engaged. So I definately won''t be having a wedding until 2008! And we''ve been together longer than they''ve known each other