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So "D" and I were talking tonight, after she had got back from a 1 week trip to visit a gal-freind and think things over and the key points of the converstation went like this:
We were talking about a trip I was planning that she had been invited on; the question was did I pick her up and drive here out west and back; or did I fly her out west and back - spending our time together out west (my vacation is longer than hers - and I will be driving 2.5 days each way to get there and back).
Since I just spent and unespected $5000 (cash) on the van money is a little tight.
"So, I said, discussing the cost of the airline ticket, would you rather I pick you up and spend the money on a marriage liscense." (don''t know why I slipped in the line on the marriage liscense).
She said "Yes."
I paused, and carefully and nicely said "Thank You".
"Why" says she.
I said "You just told me you would marry me."
"Didn''t you know that"
"No"
"So much for good communication" says she.
I then said. "you know, if you are going to marry me, but am not quite sure of when yet, I consider that you are engaged to me."
She says "I guess so."
"I guess it is time to get you a ring" says I. (we have a long discussion on the ring - I can''t afford to get her the ring I want due to that $5000 (and I will not buy the ring unless I can pay for it), but am willing to get her a simple small engagement ring and upgrade later to the project ring I am working on - she is agreeable to the concept).
"Don''t get it yet" she says. I''m not realy ready to commit to marrying you...
We talk further.
She says that she would wear the ring if I got it (but did not guarantee that she would wear it all the time and tell the world).. She does not want me to spend my money untill she is sure that she will definietly marry me (although she says she want''s to marry me, but something is not right to say truely yes yet).
Argggghhhh
Any advice....
I meet her or pick her up in 1 week. Should I have a simple engagment ring with me?
Perry
We were talking about a trip I was planning that she had been invited on; the question was did I pick her up and drive here out west and back; or did I fly her out west and back - spending our time together out west (my vacation is longer than hers - and I will be driving 2.5 days each way to get there and back).
Since I just spent and unespected $5000 (cash) on the van money is a little tight.
"So, I said, discussing the cost of the airline ticket, would you rather I pick you up and spend the money on a marriage liscense." (don''t know why I slipped in the line on the marriage liscense).
She said "Yes."
I paused, and carefully and nicely said "Thank You".
"Why" says she.
I said "You just told me you would marry me."
"Didn''t you know that"
"No"
"So much for good communication" says she.
I then said. "you know, if you are going to marry me, but am not quite sure of when yet, I consider that you are engaged to me."
She says "I guess so."
"I guess it is time to get you a ring" says I. (we have a long discussion on the ring - I can''t afford to get her the ring I want due to that $5000 (and I will not buy the ring unless I can pay for it), but am willing to get her a simple small engagement ring and upgrade later to the project ring I am working on - she is agreeable to the concept).
"Don''t get it yet" she says. I''m not realy ready to commit to marrying you...
We talk further.
She says that she would wear the ring if I got it (but did not guarantee that she would wear it all the time and tell the world).. She does not want me to spend my money untill she is sure that she will definietly marry me (although she says she want''s to marry me, but something is not right to say truely yes yet).
Argggghhhh
Any advice....
I meet her or pick her up in 1 week. Should I have a simple engagment ring with me?
Perry