cbs102
Brilliant_Rock
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as i sit here typing this i realize that people are going to probably pick this apart.. but i am so upset and i don't really think that i have a right to be,....
backstory:
my fiance and i are from different states... when we met through mutual friends, i knew right off the bat that he had been married and has a daughter. so yes, i have known this even before we started dating. we did the long distance thing and we both talked in length about the fact that IF the relationship were to last, i would have to leave my state and join him in his. he cannot move because of said daughter and i understand that. part of the reason why i love him is because he is an amazing father....
so.. i quit my job.. leave my friends and family and a place that i LOVE and i move in with him.. the first few months were rocky.. we were getting used to each other and i was getting used to having a little one around.. and i was dealing with her jealousy issues. i also found it hard to give up every other weekend because we had his daughter there. ( i was an independant girl who did not have to live my life according to anyone before i moved). it seemed to me that i was being selfish if something came up on a weekend we had her and i wanted him to switch..I would find myself in tears all the time... i felt that i could not verbalize the feelings i had because after all-- this is his child- and who am i to say anything...
months have gone by. things have been better because we are on a schedule. thruth be told, i still long for our weekends alone but i do love his daughter enjoy when she is there...
last night he tells me that he is going away with his father both of our "free weekends" and then we will have her 3 weeks in a row in october and also for thanksgiving... i feel so upset and anxious.. i am crying as i type this
... i am so upset but i know that i am not justified for feeling this way. that i knew going into this that he had a daughter... i guess i am just selfishly realizing that life as i knew it is no longer and that life now is being lived for said child.
i am now bracing myself for the pouncing.. i was just venting...
thanks for listening -er reading
backstory:
my fiance and i are from different states... when we met through mutual friends, i knew right off the bat that he had been married and has a daughter. so yes, i have known this even before we started dating. we did the long distance thing and we both talked in length about the fact that IF the relationship were to last, i would have to leave my state and join him in his. he cannot move because of said daughter and i understand that. part of the reason why i love him is because he is an amazing father....
so.. i quit my job.. leave my friends and family and a place that i LOVE and i move in with him.. the first few months were rocky.. we were getting used to each other and i was getting used to having a little one around.. and i was dealing with her jealousy issues. i also found it hard to give up every other weekend because we had his daughter there. ( i was an independant girl who did not have to live my life according to anyone before i moved). it seemed to me that i was being selfish if something came up on a weekend we had her and i wanted him to switch..I would find myself in tears all the time... i felt that i could not verbalize the feelings i had because after all-- this is his child- and who am i to say anything...
months have gone by. things have been better because we are on a schedule. thruth be told, i still long for our weekends alone but i do love his daughter enjoy when she is there...
last night he tells me that he is going away with his father both of our "free weekends" and then we will have her 3 weeks in a row in october and also for thanksgiving... i feel so upset and anxious.. i am crying as i type this
i am now bracing myself for the pouncing.. i was just venting...
thanks for listening -er reading