Wedding 9 days and hyperventilating

[Gypsy]

Family emergencies, people (including me) ill with fevers and sore throats, people going to the ER, John on medical leave from work, FMIL still not able to walk much (had open heart surgery two weeks ago) catering count all wonky and $1000 over what we were expecting (have to calculate that out and double check the numbers), work won't let up (working 14+ hours at at time). My co-workers are slightly insane and driving me there (with a lot of help).

I think I'm having a panic attack.

 

[Linda W]

Gypsy, you poor little thing. I hope things get better soon. I am sorry you and John aren''t feeling well and hugs to you.

Everything will work out fine, just you wait and see sweetheart.

Love and a big hug to you.

Love, Linda xoxoxoxox

 

[Gypsy]

Thank you very much Linda. I needed that. I''m just having a very bad day. Grandpa''s sick, having bad medication reactions, I''m sick... everyone is sick in one way or another. I just am so overwelmed. And now the catering count thing. I saw the bottom line and almost passed out. There has to be a mistake. Seriously. I''ve been keeping tight track of this.

 

[Linda W]

Have them double check everything. Did you ever hear from the people you left a message too?

I am sure everyone will be healthy by the time your beautiful wedding comes around.

 

[Sabine]

Awe, Gypsy, I can''t believe your wedding is so close! I''m sorry things are so stressful, but you will get through this and everything will work out and your wedding will be amazing! Try to relax as much as possible, delegate what you can, and don''t worry about the things you have no control over!

 

[Gypsy]

HI Linda,
Yes, they apologized for the ''confusion'' they were rsvping to mutliple weddings for september and got the invitations confused. *Shrug* I guess it happens, right? I''m gonn have my MOH double check the numbers today. Just after I take a nap. I think maybe it will be more manageable after some sleep. Stalker Kitty was serenading us last night, all night. She''s part siamese. Pretty too.

Hi Sabine... I am delegating with respect to wedding planning. It''s the rest of life I can''t seem to delegate. I don''t know if that makes any sense. I have a stray cat stalking me too, and she''s breaking my heart cause I can''t take her in as my very own. Will find a place for her though. Just as soon as my fever breaks and I feel a little better.

((HUGS)) and thank you for the support and sympathy.

 

[isaku5]

I''m so sorry to read that you and some family members are under the weather

, and believe me, I know what overwhelmed feels like especially if you''re "under the weather". Been there, done that and will probably do it again

You have planned this wedding to a T, let it unfold (after your chat with the caterer

). You won''t believe how well everything will fall into place.

Enough of the stressing and the feeling of being overwhelmed. So many brides-to-be (and their mothers!) are posting their worries here, and then a while later we get gorgeous pics of a jubilant bride and groom just totally blissing out as the day is over.

So here''s the remedy: You and John should have a lovely meal or seven accompanied by good wines that soothe the soul. Heal, my dear, heal.

 

[icekid]

Hang in there, Gypsy. It sounds like you have a lot of craziness going on... but just think, a bit over a week and you and John will finally be married

Everything else will fall into place (keep telling yourself that

)

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Take a nice, long, super indulgent bubble bath...read a good book for a while...close your eyes and really rest...and lean on those closest to you.

In 9 days you''ll be the happiest girl in the world...but until then, try to relax and enjoy the anticipation. Let the MOH and other BM''s help manage your personal stress.

And as far as the sick family members go...esspecially your FMIL...I hope everyone is feel much better come your big day!

 

[AmberGretchen]

Oh honey - just breathe. It will get better. I second the long bath and good book suggestions, also, lots of fruits and veggies and fluids - you gotta take care of yourself.

Just focus on how blissful you and John will be once you''re married and how glad you will be to have all this be over. I have faith - I know that your wedding will be stunning and you will be a glowing, happy, gorgeous, and most importantly, married

bride

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Oh man!!! Please have a glass of wine and take a deep breath..and throw in a bubble bath and some chocolate!!

((Hugs)) I am so sorry things are going crazy right now.

 

[Skippy123]

Oh Gypsy, I am sorry, that is a lot of stuff going on, prayers and good thoughts outgoing. Try taking deep breaths and focusing on you and your sweetie! HUGS

 

[Harriet]

It will be okay. Remember how nervous I was? I was perfectly calm on the day itself and things were perfect.

 

[pjean]

Yay, you''re sick now! It''s perfect timing! Now you''ll be all healthy for the wedding.

Ok, I admit you have to really want to see the silver lining there, but it''s there, I promise!

I hope you can find the time to take care of yourself. The wedding will take care of itself from here on out - that''s the reward you get for all your planning. See how you were right about the catering count?!

We''re pulling for you, Gypsy.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

No kidding. I am at nine days, still don''t know who''s coming, my FI is trying to quit smoking and bitchy, I am working and taking classes full time, I just learned one relative may have fatal cancer, another has MS and my childhood cat is not doing so well. My nice meds are out because of my insurance switch having problems. Do you have any adivce date twin? Is this really supposed to be the happiest time of our lives?

 

[risingsun]

Gypsy~you''ve had a lot on your plate this year. I''m sending a truckload of PS dust your way

 

[Maisie]

You poor thing. Don''t stress. I know its easier said than done but try. Take time out to just relax and spend time with John. Being ill now means you will be 100% healthy by the time your wedding is here. Try to switch your brain off from wedding stuff and rest.

 

[violet02]

Hoo boy Gypsy... if I have anything positive left in me right now I''m sending some of that your way. **HUGS**

 

[tberube]

Sweetie - everything will be okay. Even if everything doesn't work out perfectly, it will be okay. Things have a way of working themselves out, you'll see. I had a huge zit on my cheek and hurricane Hannah came for a visit on my wedding day, and the hotel threw away the top tier of my wedding cake...but everything was still okay. Just calm yourself, have some green tea for that sore throat, and do your best to relax. It'll be wonderful, and I cannot wait to see the pics.

And, brazen irish hussy, this goes for you too.

 

[Octavia]

Aww, Gypsy, I''m sorry you''re having a rough time. I''m just going to echo the good wishes everyone is sending your way, and I hope that you and your family get healthy very soon. BIG HUG.

 

[ladypirate]

Just wanted to send some *hugs* your way--I''m so sorry you''re sick and under so much stress. I''m sure this will all sort itself out and your wedding will be WONDERFUL!

 

[iluvcarats]

Oh Gypsy

I wish there was something that I could do for you!
I am sending you lots of dust and big hugs!
It will all be ok.

 

[Gypsy]

You guys are just so wonderful. I''ve been self absorbed, not responding to anyone''s posts, and absent for weeks now and when I''m falling apart, you all come in to shore me up. I don''t know what I would do without the support. I''ll be a better friend after the wedding I promise.

I got some good rest yesterday, one of my aunts made me soup, I had lots of liquids and tea. And today I''m feeling a little better. The fever is down as well. I have to go pick my dress up from the cleaners that are pressing it. But otherwise I''m just resting today. Okay, so not ONLY resting. I have three contracts to get done before Monday. But I will pace myself on those.

I''ve got two cats sitting on my right now. Stalker Kitty is outside with John. I''ll work on giving her her own thread in Hangout. Anyone who wants or needs a great cat in the Bay Area, please let me know.


Thank you all for the PS dust, and well wishes. You are the most amazing bunch I know. Thank you for sharing your stories. I''m sorry I''m not responding individually, I have read all of your posts and they all touched me. (HUGS))

IrishBrazen... advice? Well, if you haven''t already, start cutting things out. I''ve cut out a bunch of stuff, lovely details that no one but me is going to notice the lack of. I went to the MD yesterday and he refilled my Xanax, so I''m gonna be popping those like sugar pills... I have an anxiety disorder and have for years though, so this is reallyu flaring all that up. If you have anything similar, get thee to a doctor and see about getting some temporary help. After the wedding I''m cutting the Xanax out of my life. Um, probably not the advice you were looking for. I think the day of will be the happiest day, as for the days before. I guess it''s like labor, when you see the baby the pain becomes a distant memory??? I hope.

Caterer and I were both off. The count is someone in the middle. I can handle that.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Please don''t call yourself a bad friend. Please get busy and overwhelmed and sometimes you need a break even! There''s nothing wrong with that! ((Hugs)) Glad to hear things are doing a bit better.

 

[Gypsy]

Thank you honey, I am feeling better. Do need to go and pick up my dress though. I cancelled my pedicure, manicure appointment for the day and re-scheduled to Friday (first day off before wedding).

You''re right I know, you break even. I just feel bad because everyone is going through stuff, Ike, family problems, health problems, wedding problems.

(BIG HUG SARAH!)

 

[bee*]

ok first, breath. In 9 days time, you''ll be a beautiful bride and married to your handsome groom. Everyone will be happy and healthy and you''ll be having a great time! I can''t believe it''s only 9 days away!

 

[Gypsy]

Hi bee* thank you honey. I can''t believe it''s so close either. ((HUGS))

Can some shake a rainstick or something over me to like dispell bad vibes?

I went to pick up my dress today and I tried it on and... the girls are um... bursting out. I''ve had problems with my cycle recently so the OBGYN had me take my pills straight through missing this months cycle and right now is when I''d be having it so... my um chest is like well, bigger than normal. The dress fit fine, except right at the bust. And it''s a deep V. And it looked awful. Not like X rated but like... the dress was cutting into me and you could see it. Right at the bust.

Um... anyone know a way to make the girls deflate?

Help?

 

[doodle]

gypsy, stop panicking. with your stress levels, your boobs might be trying to ESCAPE!

seriously, if you have to, get a minimizer bra to suck the ladies in, but if you think they''re busting out and larger than usual just because of issues with your cycle, it may mellow out before the wedding anyway, so don''t worry about it too much. you''re going to be GAAAAAWGEOUS!

 

[bee*]

no problem Gypsy!!

And for the dress problem-definitely a minimizer. They work wonders!

 

[Gypsy]

Hey all, feeling less stressed today. Sorry I''ve been such a spaz. About the dress... I can''t wear anything under it for the girls. It''s just not designed that way. Will have to just hope that they go back to normal.

I have to NOT try the dress on today. If I do, I''ll just panic again. Whatever happens next week happens.

Grandpa is feeling better. John''s still the same. Stalker Kitty hates brooms. My fever is gone and my goal for the day is to not OD on codiene.

((HUGS TO EVERYONE)) Sorry to be such a stress freak.