slg47
Ideal_Rock
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milkidentification|1335767520|3183820 said:slg47|1335766239|3183810 said:proposals work best when both parties are on the same page.
girl wants surprise ring--girl gets surprise ring--yay!
girl doesn't want surprise ring--girl doesn't get surprise ring--yay!
so...which would your lady prefer? a surprise ring that you pick out or a ring that she has input in? 9.5k is a LOT of money to spend on something that you're not sure about!
as a side note...her having input in the ring does not mean the proposal is not a surprise. I designed my ring and selected my diamond, and my proposal was a complete surprise![]()
personally for me, I wanted the ring with the proposal since that //to me// made it more 'official'. we already knew we wanted to get married
also, I assume you have discussed marriage at some point? so asking her about rings would not spoil the surprise? ultimately it really boils down to what is best for you as a couple and what will make you guys the happiest![]()
I appreciate your feedback as well as other members feedback. My girl would definitely want a surprise knowing her. I thought I had this all worked out but each member has a different approach which makes it difficult to find my way. I'm going to go to the mall with her and just stroll by some jewelry to check it out and see if I can get a feel on what she likes as well as find out her ring size.
that sounds good-definitely get her ring size! also note if she likes solitaire/three stone/pave...what shape...etc. once you get her preferences figured out we can help you find some options that fit her style and your budget