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2 weeks til wedding, wedding band not here, help!

distracts

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So I ordered my fiance's wedding band several months ago. Before I confirmed, I asked when it would be done - before even giving them my wedding date. They said it would be done and to me in the middle to end of March. I confirmed no later than the end of March? And they said absolutely not. Now, because I am STUPID, I didn't get this in writing. Yes, I know, I really should know better.

It is now a week into April and no ring. Every time I have called, they have said "oh, we're keeping an eye on it, it'll be done soon" and REFUSED to give me any sort of exact date or anything, and then suddenly get "busy" and hang up. My wedding is in TWO WEEKS, and most of the week of the wedding no one will be home to accept the package! I get so frustrated at the run-arounds I'm being given on the phone that I can't figure out what to say. I MUST have the wedding ring by the end of next week or I will have to order/purchase a backup ring (probably order because he is a size 12.5, which is rarely carried). And if I have to order a backup ring I will have to use my fiance's money or my parents' money to do so because I blew all my money on THIS ring. wah.

I know some of you are amazing at knowing what to say in these sorts of situations. I would like to call again on Monday and ensure I receive the ring by Friday, or at the very least no later than Monday. ALSO it really needs to be perfect now, because I am on high alert for any deficiencies. I just don't know what to say except boo company I hate you now.

The things I have thought over so far that may be useful for you to know:
1. While not a jeweler often recommended on Pricescope, they have occasionally been mentioned here, though I can't figure out if anyone has actually ever bought anything from them. So a long post from me will possibly be the only substantial thing on Pricescope about them.
2. They have all of one Yelp review, so whatever I write will be half of everything about them on Yelp. The Yelp review is the second link in their google search results.
3. I am not unwilling to do a chargeback, but when do I initiate? If it's not here after the rehearsal dinner, or the morning after the wedding? If I wait until after the honeymoon, it will be dangerously close to the 60-day limit from when I paid.
 
Go on eBay and buy a cheap but nice looking ring now. It will get there next week. He can use it as a travel band. I have travel bands for my husband as his wedding band was expensive and I can't risk damage or lost. So travel bands do come in handy and won't be wasted money.
 
E-weddingbands.com. they are fast!
 
I'm sorry to hear about all this stress! I've found that if a store's giving you a run around, sometimes you have to give them a little motivation and stand firm. In your case, I'd call them on Monday and speak to the manager/owner. Explain that you've been calling for weeks and have been getting nowhere. Tell them if it's not in by Friday, and not to your satisfaction, you'll initiate the chargeback and post reviews. Simple, to the point, and leaves no room for them to wiggle any further

It'll give them a firm final date that'll spare them all that hassle. Just in case, I'd order a simple band like the others have suggested, as a just in case measure. Good luck, and keep us updated on what happens!
 
Distracts you are so upset. It will be okay. I got married using my mother's ring as something borrowed and wore mine after the ceremony. Someone else suggested an inexpensive. Stuff happens and to ruin your day over something you can't control is so sad.
 
I had no idea e-wedding bands had fast shipping. I've picked out one there, one at Rio Grande (3 days to me with "regular" shipping), and one at Amazon with Prime shipping, and I'll let the fiance pick which among them for his travel band, or whatever. (The "so I won't die of anxiety" band?)

This whole thing is just extra annoying, I think, because the ring did literally cost me two and a half months of pre-tax pay, I saved up FOREVER, for it, and it cost more than anything else I've ever bought (well, it was equal with one of my cars but more than the other). So in the world of my money, it is a huuuuuuuge purchase. I am remaining more or less chill with everything else about the wedding (for instance... we just had a fairly last-minute change of caterer, and that didn't perturb me). But THIS, argh. Well, this and the wedding dress.
 
I think I need to see this band you ordered! He definitely needs a back up band because he shouldn't wear one this expensive all the time. I really recommend a tungsten band as his back-up band because he can wear it when the other might get damaged.

http://www.tungstenworld.com/

My son-in-law chose that for his actual wedding band.
 
If it makes you feel any better, my wedding gown wasn't ready until midnight before my wedding. I was at the stupid seamstress 2AM before my wedding sorting out my dress and it still didn't fit right. It all works out in the end :)
 
I had a similar situation as charmy, my mother in law talked me into allowing her to make my bridesmaid dresses (yes I know I'm an idiot) she delivered them to us at the rehersal dinner and NONE of them fit when my bridesmaid tried them on, and the slip hung lower than the actual skirt! :errrr: My poor mom and grandmother stayed up all night making alterations. It was very hard to smile the next day when she kept commenting on how well the dresses fit everyone and what a fantastic job she did! :angryfire: Not to mention that she used my bridesmaids fabric to make HER mother of the grooms dress and HER slip didn't hand lower than HER skirt! So tacky, she looked more like a bridesmaid than the grooms mother. In hindsight, no wonder the marriage didn't last. I could not stand this woman. :rolleyes: Anyway, blah blah blah, I'm just rambling. It's been awhile since I thought about this and how much I still dislike her so I needed to vent. *deep cleansing breath.....negativity out* rant over!

I agree with the others, I'd purchase a Tungsten backup ring. DH has one and actually prefers it over his actual WB. Just a caution though, my DH is a contractor and can't wear his to work because of the difficultly in cutting or breaking it over if his hand is injured. I've been told that it's quite common for emergency personnel to have to appropriate tools these days and DH actually has the tools he would need in his tool box, but it's something to consider....

So so sorry that you are having to stress over this instead of enjoying the moment. It's such a special time and if this is the worst thing that comes up, then your a lucky bride. I have no doubt that everything will resolve itself. Sending dust your way!!
 
diamondseeker2006|1365338287|3421878 said:
I think I need to see this band you ordered! He definitely needs a back up band because he shouldn't wear one this expensive all the time.

It's not super-expensive in jewelry money, but super-expensive in just-out-of-school-young-political-staffer money! It's 5k, and wouldn't be that expensive if his finger wasn't stupidly large and long so we had to get the widest one.

I am calmer now. Maybe. For the moment anyway.
 
I think $5k is a majorly huge amount for a man's wedding band! Does it have a lot of diamonds? The Tiffany platinum band a lot of men get is $2050 in a 12.5, so I am assuming yours must have diamonds! Or maybe it is something like Van Craeynest with a lot of hand work?

http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?mcat=148204&sku=GRP00370&selectedsku=14764429&cid=288152&search_params=s+5-p+13-c+288152-r+101323340-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t&fromgrid=1

6mm, 12.5, $2600:

http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?mcat=148204&sku=GRP00365&selectedsku=14765077&cid=288152&search_params=s+5-p+13-c+288152-r+101323340-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t&fromgrid=1
 
Distracts,

I think the more wedding related snafus before the wedding means the less obstacles day of, and the more effortless, enjoyable and perfect your wedding. Trust me.... Firsthand experience :wavey:
 
I agree with a back up band; Stuller has titanium and 'contemporary metals' bands in the $50-$200 range and lots come in half sizes. Find a local jeweler who can order it in overnight for you so you can not worry about there being any snafu on your wedding day and just concentrate on getting a straight answer from your vendor!

And I agree with the advice to set a deadline and stick to it the next time you speak with them. Good luck!
 
Couple of thoughts:

As others have said you need to get real angry with this jeweler, speak with the owner and give him/her ultimatum if ring not ready by this Friday.

As others have said, buy a band from eweddingbands.com as a backup and don't wear it unless the othter one does not arrive, I believe they have a 30-day return policy, so return it if the original piece does not arrive.

That is pricey for a mens ring. Would love to see a picture of this ring.

I disagre with some others that he should not wear a $5K ring on a trip, I think you need to enjoy it, why put it in the drawer if you are traveling. Only exception would be if you are traveling to known section of the world that you know has some risks. If it is a $5k ring and yours is costly, then insure them both for piece of mind. Good luck and hope your rings arrives on time.


Dont' know what width you want but, 6mm is $79,
http://www.e-weddingbands.com/store/titancf6info.html
 
My hubby and I have relatively inexpensive 14k travel bands. I love when we pull those ones out, it means another adventure!
I'm so sorry this jeweller is causing so much stress for you. Do call them or go in person to tell them how angry and upset and disappointed you are, and give them a firm deadline (like someone upthread suggested) for when you'll ask for a refund.

I too would love to see a picture of this ring. :))
 
$5k for a man's ring is expensive. I wonder if the jeweler is having trouble with the custom design and is actually having someone else create it.
 
Don't worry, when it arrives there will be pictures galore. If I show a pic, many of you will know who the vendor is pretty quickly, I think, and I'd prefer not to blast them until they actually deserve it, rather than when I am worried they may deserve it in the future. But all will be revealed. And my final pics + review will include this little snafu.

And it may be a little overpriced - I couldn't really tell because it is platinum, size huge, and the widest and thickest they make it. Buuuuuut it was the one my fiance liked MOST even when I showed him similar but more reasonably-priced ones. And I want him to have a ring that he loves as much as I love mine. (And don't worry - it'll definitely be going on the insurance policy with my rings as soon as it gets here!)
 
Right before I was going to call them, they called me to say it was done! It should arrive Thursday morning!!!!!!

SO STOKED

Thank you guys for calming me down so I didn't lose my head over this!
 
RELIEF!!! that's great news Distracts - right under the wire... but it will be there on time! yay!!
 
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