You''re always a kid to your parents

[purrfectpear]

I''m 56. My mom calls me this morning because I live 10 blocks from the beach in SoCal, and she heard about the earthquake in Chile and the resulting potential for tsunami. Like I wouldn''t know how to pack a car and leave with the dog if it was needed?

Have you noticed that you''re never quite grownup to your parents, no matter how old you are?

Honestly, it was cute

 

[HollyS]

You''re never too old to be mothered (or have a secret desire for a little mothering). I think that''s what I miss the most since my mother''s passing in ''03. No one can ever treat you like your mommy did. . . and get away with it.

 

[qtiekiki]

Yes you''re and will always be a kid to your parents. I know I am, and I have two babies of my own. I never really understood it until I had my own kids.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/27/2010 5:42:15 PM
Author: qtiekiki
Yes you're and will always be a kid to your parents. I know I am, and I have two babies of my own. I never really understood it until I had my own kids.

Ditto QT. I was sick this past week and my mom comes rushing over to make home made chicken soup. Not like I can't take care of myself, but it makes her happy so I ooh and ahh and thank her profusely and eat. Then of course, I tell her I feel SO much better because of the soup.

And I do this because I know I'll want to baby my kid until the day I die.

 

[cara]

That''s why sometimes its so good to go home and get the kid treatment from your kid-deprived parents (favorite foods, etc.) And not so good to have everyone''s old habits supremely annoy you in that way that only family can.

 

[icekid]

Moms are the best!

They know how to make everything better.

 

[MissMina]

My Mom flat out told me years ago "When I''m 80 you''ll still be my daughter" Well she passed that milestone neMy Mom flat out told me years ago "When I''m 80 you''ll still be my daughter" Well she passed that milestone nearlarly a decade ago but continues to look after my welfare in her own special way

I too get the weather warnings. I think she checks my weather before she gets her own and her storm tracking
would put NWS to shame

She sends me envelopes full of articles she has clipped from the paper because she thinks I don''t get enough news from TV and the Internet and coupons for things she thinks I should try. When I call she reads "helpful" articles to me over the phone.........for an hour.

When I visit and she has to go out she gives
me detailed instructions for making lunch. I don''t
know how she thinks I eat the rest of the year.

Despite all this, I know that there will come a time when I will miss being mothered.

 

[MissMina]

Sorry for the glitch.
I did not type that twice.

Mother...............
Was that you ???????

 

[Maisie]

I get the same treatment but it''s from my dad, not my mother. I love it. I can tell he does too.

 

[janinegirly]

So true. I remember my mother talking to my father and referring to my sister and I saying "the children do not want to do that". It just sounded so funny..my sister is in her late 20''s and I''m in my mid 30''s!

 

[packrat]

Mom calls me and JD "The Kids" or "You Kids". I still call my mommy and daddy when I need help/advice on stuff, and I always call mom when I''m sick. And Gramma still checks on mom when she''s sick. I call mom and ask her to make me certain meals b/c I just can NOT do it the same way, and no matter how hard JD tries, he can''t either. Dad rolls his eyes and says "Spoiled. Never met anyone so spoiled in my life" But we ALL know that daddy spoils his little girl too.

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 2/27/2010 6:37:49 PM
Author: packrat
Mom calls me and JD ''The Kids'' or ''You Kids''. I still call my mommy and daddy when I need help/advice on stuff, and I always call mom when I''m sick. And Gramma still checks on mom when she''s sick. I call mom and ask her to make me certain meals b/c I just can NOT do it the same way, and no matter how hard JD tries, he can''t either. Dad rolls his eyes and says ''Spoiled. Never met anyone so spoiled in my life'' But we ALL know that daddy spoils his little girl too.

This is totally me! There are just some things my mommy and daddy do that no one else can.

 

[Smo]

PP, so true! I love going to my mum and dad''s house and being fussed over! Whilst we were renovating our apartment, I stayed at their house for a week so that I could study for exams. I loved it! My dad would bring me breakfast every morning, all my clothes were washed, and mum would constantly bring me snacks and study treats or a glass of wine in the evening! I kinda didn''t want to go home to my construction site apartment!

 

[packrat]

I lived at home until I was 27 and then JD and I got married. I remember being sick and I was..25 I think. Never been so sick in my entire life, and I remember not being able to sleep and crawling into bed w/mom and tossing and turning and crying, and she stayed up w/me all night.

And when I decided to move to AZ to live w/my gramma, that''s the only time I''ve seen my dad cry-he didn''t even cry (in public anyway) when Grampa died. And after 2 months when I wanted to come home, I called and said "Daddy I want to come home" and he said "Ok Wee One, I''ll make the arrangements right now".

My parents frustrate me at times but I love them and I know they love me. They treat JD like a son too.

 

[jewelz617]

My mother is awesome. But the funny thing is, we had no relationship until I was 24 years old and I had a baby of my own. Now she comes over and chats over coffee, we go shopping together, we talk on the phone almost every day. She loves to babysit and thinks being a grandma is the greatest thing ever. I think me having a baby was the best thing for our relationship. I appreciate her so much more (because motherhood is TOUGH!) and now I understand why she was so smothering all those years. And in turn she has seen me mature into a person she is very proud of.

She always says "You''re still my baby" and I get it now. I know that no matter how old I live to be, my daughter will always be my baby whom I want nothing more than to love and protect.

 

[lulu]

Very jealous of you ladies who still have moms!

 

[Miss Sparkly]

Date: 2/27/2010 6:29:00 PM
Author: Maisie
I get the same treatment but it''s from my dad, not my mother. I love it. I can tell he does too.

Same here. My never failed to remind me of how she never wanted a child

. My dad on the other hand is AMAZING

I wish I could do so much more for him - like buy him the Tuba he really wants - however $30,000 is just a bit out of my budget

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 2/27/2010 8:47:04 PM
Author: lulu
Very jealous of you ladies who still have moms!

Awww, I''m sorry your mom has passed.

Believe me, I think every day how fortunate I am to have both parents alive when so many of my peers do not. It was the main reason I took a temporary relocation assignment last year so I could spend time with them. I miss them a lot. By the way, my mom actually packed my lunch every day for the first month when I was staying with them until my corporate housing was ready.

I really dread the day that I''m an orphan

 

[packrat]

Date: 2/27/2010 8:47:04 PM
Author: lulu
Very jealous of you ladies who still have moms!

I''m sorry lulu! I can''t imagine not having my parents, and I think I will be very lost w/out them.

 

[kama_s]

This thread makes me sad.

I see my husband''s mum do all sorts of very motherly things to him. Makes me happy and envious at the same time. I do get a bit of mothering from her too, but I guess it''s nothing like a mother''s love. Although, I suppose I wouldn''t know....

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 2/27/2010 9:54:58 PM
Author: kama_s
This thread makes me sad.

I see my husband''s mum do all sorts of very motherly things to him. Makes me happy and envious at the same time. I do get a bit of mothering from her too, but I guess it''s nothing like a mother''s love. Although, I suppose I wouldn''t know....

I feel the same. My mom was never there for me, but I do know how loving my kids has turned that all around. My Nanny was my mother figure and miss her a lot.

She would be the one to call all worried and all. Loved that even if it was a little much. But loved it just the same.

 

[marcy]

Very true. Kind of sad though I am now becoming the mom to my mother.

 

[stci]

I love this thread. I lost my father when I was 18 and it was terrible.

My mom is adorable!

(((HUGS))) nice Lulu! I feel your pain...

 

[Dandi]

Firstly, sincere condolences to those who have lost parents, I can't begin to imagine what it must be like.

Only a few weeks back DH was interstate for 10 days, so I decided to pack up and stay with mum and dad for that time (I brought the dog with me too!

) I slept in my old room in the house I grew up in, and mum bought and made all my favourite meals, ensuring there was plently left over to take to work for lunch the next day. She even made me pancakes for breakfast on my day off, bless her little cotton socks.

I must say I did wake up a bit disoriented and confused a couple of times until I realised where I was, and why

 

[Girlrocks]

My mom still calls me every day when I have a cold to see how I am feeling. But now she also calls every day if one of the kids or DH isn''t feeling well. 6 people in a house-usually someone has SOMETHING at my house! So she calls a lot-just to see how we are feeling. Very cute!

My mom and dad have both been diagnosed with cancer in the past 6 months only 1 month apart. With all of their treatments that they are undergoing and all of the worrying I am doing about them, and yet they still call me over the sniffles...it''s true, you are a parent til the end!

 

[ksinger]

My mom insisted I CALL her after we''d spend the day together and I''d drive home. I had to call her to let her know I''d gotten home OK. (We lived...10 miles? apart) And if I forgot, she''d call ME to be sure I got home alright. At 40-something it was a bit irritating/endearing all mixed up. Of course I always did it without complaint. How hard is something like that really? Now I''d give just about anything to have her call me and bug me or gripe me out or .... talk about anything at all....

Seriously though, they know you aren''t children. Or they do if you actually get the opportunity and give the time to get to know them as equals later in life. Those little things are just carryovers from the past to help remind you both. The hardest part of it is becoming THEIR parent in the end. It subverts the seemingly natural order of things, and slaps any last vestiges of childhood so far out of you that they''ll never come back....

 

[LtlFirecracker]

Yes.

I bought my father a GPS for Christmas. During the holidays, I decided to drive from Sacramento to Napa to look for a wedding venue. My father first told me I could use the GPS...great I thought.

Than he spent about 2 days playing with it, programming all of the venues into it, just to make sure I had them, and warning me about the 2 lane roads in Napa. I think he thought I really could not figure out my way around an area.

By time the trip came, I was ready to get out of the house for 2 days....

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 2/27/2010 8:47:04 PM
Author: lulu
Very jealous of you ladies who still have moms!

Both my parents are gone! I went for years feeling a bit weird when I''d see moms of my age with their kids and their moms, too, going shopping at the mall or wherever. Or, if my friends talk about doing something with their mom. Basic things like baking bread or doing after Christmas sales. My dad died when I was 16 and my mom disappeared and is presumed dead.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 2/27/2010 6:01:52 PM
Author: cara
That''s why sometimes its so good to go home and get the kid treatment from your kid-deprived parents (favorite foods, etc.) And not so good to have everyone''s old habits supremely annoy you in that way that only family can.

This is so true - and unfortunately I definitely do the latter.

I can''t stand to be treated like I''m still 10...calling when I get home, being taken care of while I''m sick, all that stuff. I am so NOT into people taking care of me.

I know I should appreciate those kinds of things more but I find it hard.

Guess I''m in the minority here - I''m sure your parents love so much that you''re willing to let them "parent" you once in a while, even though they''re fully aware you''re adults. You guys inspire me to try to be more accepting.

 

[ksinger]

Date: 2/28/2010 4:09:09 PM
Author: CJ2008

Date: 2/27/2010 6:01:52 PM
Author: cara
That''s why sometimes its so good to go home and get the kid treatment from your kid-deprived parents (favorite foods, etc.) And not so good to have everyone''s old habits supremely annoy you in that way that only family can.

This is so true - and unfortunately I definitely do the latter.

I can''t stand to be treated like I''m still 10...calling when I get home, being taken care of while I''m sick, all that stuff. I am so NOT into people taking care of me.

I know I should appreciate those kinds of things more but I find it hard.

Guess I''m in the minority here - I''m sure your parents love so much that you''re willing to let them ''parent'' you once in a while, even though they''re fully aware you''re adults. You guys inspire me to try to be more accepting.

Unless your parents are genuinely treating you like a child - and from what I can tell from the posts here - it is more the little things we''re talking about - the annoying/endearing things, DO try to be more accepting. And try to get to know your parents as people, if you can. I don''t know how old you are, but I do know it seems to be easier to accept that "parenting" after you''ve established your own independence quite well. At that point it is not threatening, it''s just kind of sweet. Believe me, just like parent wails that children grow up too soon, you wake up one day and are shocked to see your parents are OLD. And then they are gone, and you miss them terribly. So if your mama wants to send you home with food, or fuss over you a bit when you''re sick, let her!