Would you wear a bad karma band?

[reader]

I have my grandmother''s 18K wg wedding band, and it only fits my left ring finger now, and am only considering wearing it as my Ritani set slides on my left hand, and this would keep the rings from rolling. (I lost a bit of weight recently)

The background is horrible for this ring though. My grandmother got married at 16 with a 18K white gold pawnshop band. (She was pregnant.) The marriage was violent. When my mother was five, the my mother''s grandmother came over and gave every girl in the family a ring except my mom, the baby. My mom cried, and my grandmother took off her wedding band, gave it to her, and said it didn''t mean much to her anyway. It never really fit my mom, but somehow, unlike her sisters, she didn''t lose the ring.

When I turned 16, I got the band, along with a white gold band dad tried to give mom for her 25th anniversary, but they were fighting so much by then...I used to wear them flanking my yellow gold class ring. I starting dating a guy at 18, and mom took the ring back from me. My own marriage later that year turned out violent, and I had to move back home at 20. Mom and I starting warring again, and I moved out...but on the day I moved I took the band, showed her very clearly that I was leaving the house with it on and that was that.

A few months later, she had a heart attack, and her sisters took her jewelry to their homes, and the only things I have that are family pieces for my daughter to inherit are this ring, and a tiny rose gold cross.

Mom did call asking for the ring back some years ago, and I told her it was safe, and would be passed to my daughter when she was old enough and that her sisters were not getting their hands on it.

Mom and I stopped speaking a year ago over another issue. The grandmother in question died before I was born.

Would you wear the band, if it were you?

 

[susimoo]

Reader, tough question.

I am not sure if I would want to wear it but I know I would want to keep it. I don''t believe jewellery holds bad karma, but if every time you look at the piece on your hands it reminds you of bad thoughts, a good day it does not make.

If you are religious ( I am not but it is only a thought) maybe you could have the piece blessed by your priest/ minister etc. This may appease the bad thoughts.

Otherwise it would probably sit in my jewellery box as a reminder of the previous owners. Perhaps given some time it may lose its negative connotations.

 

[jewelz617]

I really don''t believe in bad jewelry karma...

If it makes you feel better, I think the suggestion to have it blessed is a good one. With each new owner comes a chance to give the item good history.

 

[Maisie]

I believe that we learn behaviours from our parents. You said there was violence in your grandmother''s marriage, then again in your mother''s? I wonder if you and your mother and maybe your grandmother were drawn to violent men, purely because its what you were used to seeing everyday? If this is the case then the ring shouldn''t be blamed. We all make wrong choices and its not always down to something we own.

 

[Tuckins1]

I believe you make your own karma. It wouldn''t phase me, but I can see how it might be a little unnerving to someone else considering the family history.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

Would I wear it? Maybe. I believe that Karma comes from within and is merely projected onto inanimate objects. If you only see this ring as a source of conflict and pain, then don''t wear it. If you can see it as the tough times that you''ve been through and all the strength, courage, and knowledge you''ve gained along the way then wear it. Allow good karma to flow through your small piece of history.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I would certainly wear "bad karma" rings - but only if they didn''t create negative thoughts in my own mind - if they were a bad karma removed from my own life if you know what I mean? If the ring doesn''t cause you pleasure and happiness, I wouldn''t wear it. Would you consider using the gold to create another, new piece with different symbolism?

 

[Indylady]

Hmmn...

I am so sorry to hear about the violent relationships this ring has seen; however...I don''t really see anything wrong with the ring. Actually, just the fact that its made it so far and through so many generations without being lost, sold, broken, etc. means that it must have a strength of its own, and that''s how I would see it.

Rings see the best of times and the worst of times. And that''s ok. I''m sure even the ''best'' marriages have low points, and even the rings from those marriages see those moments. I would wear it, and definitely at least keep it.

 

[lulu]

If I liked it I''d wear it. Rings don''t cause bad karma, people do.

 

[reader]

I love the ring. It is supercomfortable, and the design is odd! Would love to know more about it. Thanks for the vote of confidence...

 

[Hest88]

I think rings symbolize as much as you want them to symbolize. In your case, your ring can be about hope for a better future, or a reminder of lessons learned from their relationships and your past one, or just be a symbol of the connection between women in same family--regardless of how turbulent the relationship actually may be.

Or...it can just be something pretty you don''t have to shell out money for!