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Ideal_Rock
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I am not engaged...yet but will be soon
but FF and I have already started discussing possibilities for our future wedding. We have not began any formal planning but have bookmarked venues to check after the proposal and have been tossing around ideas.
During one of our little chat sessions a while ago I mentioned the possibility of getting married in Europe, all my extended family live there except for one cousin that lives on the other side of this country and how wonderful (should our family agree) it would be to get married there. Apart for my late mother and I who went back in 89/90 my sister and dad have not been back in 38yrs (my niece has never been) and when we would plan to get married it would be 40yrs since they have all seen each other in someways I see this as a great opportunity to have my family reunited again.
We plan while on our trip later this year to check out churches and venues discreetly and see if it is a viable option. FF thinks it is really romantic and is all for the idea, actually he would love to elope but I don't want to get married without my family or his - to me family is really important. When we returned we would have a massive backyard informal BBQ with friends (whom I also love and are important as well) and celebrate that way
. I don't know how many friends would attend, it is a bit much to ask people to come to Europe for a wedding though on the other hand it could be an excuse to go on a holiday as well.
The other option is to get married here locally, the place I have fallen in love with MAY close this year they can't confirm (you can see it here) yet but it fits with my fairytale wedding. I would be able to have all my friends and our immediate family (it is not a viable option for my extended family to travel here due to expense) and have my princess day. I love this idea and would without a doubt be able to have my princess day. The venues around here are so-so there are a couple of really nice ones and a fair few are quite expensive for what they are. The cost would be quite high (to me anyway) and I would estimate that it would be around 30k++ for one day (which would pay for a fantastic holiday in Europe). The older I get (I am 2
I have issues justifying that 100% for one day. I guess also hearing friends that have gotten married saying nothing changes it just the same as before I wonder why people pay all that money to feel the same.
In saying all that having a D.W (or planned elopement as I like to refer to it) doesn't mean I can't have a princess day I guess logistically it would be a little different but still possible. But I wonder if I would regret not getting married here either. I guess like most girls I have had this day planned for a long time and how it is meant to be and now that I get closer I am not so sure either way. FF is happy as long as I am happy (he is a doll and I adore him) but he is more inclined to go the D.W I am sure.
I can't decide 100% yet it would really be whether our families here are willing to go OS and I can see pro's and con's to each, I think if I could have all my family and friends in the one place this would be a non-event.
Sorry for the long-winded ramble, I guess if you were in this situation what would you choose?
ETA: Thank you so much for reading and you deserve a cookie if you made it the whole way through

During one of our little chat sessions a while ago I mentioned the possibility of getting married in Europe, all my extended family live there except for one cousin that lives on the other side of this country and how wonderful (should our family agree) it would be to get married there. Apart for my late mother and I who went back in 89/90 my sister and dad have not been back in 38yrs (my niece has never been) and when we would plan to get married it would be 40yrs since they have all seen each other in someways I see this as a great opportunity to have my family reunited again.
We plan while on our trip later this year to check out churches and venues discreetly and see if it is a viable option. FF thinks it is really romantic and is all for the idea, actually he would love to elope but I don't want to get married without my family or his - to me family is really important. When we returned we would have a massive backyard informal BBQ with friends (whom I also love and are important as well) and celebrate that way
The other option is to get married here locally, the place I have fallen in love with MAY close this year they can't confirm (you can see it here) yet but it fits with my fairytale wedding. I would be able to have all my friends and our immediate family (it is not a viable option for my extended family to travel here due to expense) and have my princess day. I love this idea and would without a doubt be able to have my princess day. The venues around here are so-so there are a couple of really nice ones and a fair few are quite expensive for what they are. The cost would be quite high (to me anyway) and I would estimate that it would be around 30k++ for one day (which would pay for a fantastic holiday in Europe). The older I get (I am 2
In saying all that having a D.W (or planned elopement as I like to refer to it) doesn't mean I can't have a princess day I guess logistically it would be a little different but still possible. But I wonder if I would regret not getting married here either. I guess like most girls I have had this day planned for a long time and how it is meant to be and now that I get closer I am not so sure either way. FF is happy as long as I am happy (he is a doll and I adore him) but he is more inclined to go the D.W I am sure.
I can't decide 100% yet it would really be whether our families here are willing to go OS and I can see pro's and con's to each, I think if I could have all my family and friends in the one place this would be a non-event.
Sorry for the long-winded ramble, I guess if you were in this situation what would you choose?
ETA: Thank you so much for reading and you deserve a cookie if you made it the whole way through