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your own personal cheerleader?

I guess this is more of an "in honor of" the upcoming Valentine''s day
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I sent over an email to Mr. Fiery because I''m really frustrated with my job and my boss at the moment (long story). He sent back an email telling me that "he''s just threatened because he knows you can do a much better job than he can."

This is not true. My boss is phenomenal at what he does and I consider him a mentor.

But having my own personal cheerleader is awesome
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. Even when I don''t really need a pep rally, it''s nice knowing there''s someone who wants to give you one anyway.
 
Haha! Yes. DH feeds my ego.

But he also kicks my butt when I''m being whiny and not proactive enough.

"You are smarter than everyone I know, but you can''t just sit on your butt and whine! DO something about it"

Done and done.
 
Yes, DH always tells me how awesome I am and supports me even when I feel like I'm doing a bad job at something.

eta: Especially anything athletic. I am in no way athletic, but DH always tells me how good of a job I'm doing. I know he's lying, because he's good at everything and it's clear I have no coordination, but I love him for saying it
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Date: 2/11/2010 12:07:59 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Haha! Yes. DH feeds my ego.

But he also kicks my butt when I''m being whiny and not proactive enough.

''You are smarter than everyone I know, but you can''t just sit on your butt and whine! DO something about it''

Done and done.
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My hubs is the same way. He''s supportive, but doesn''t baby me in some ways. He''ll play the tough love card on occasion.
 
Absolutely! And I hope I do as much for him. I can trust him to lay it out straight when I am in the wrong, and when I''m not? I know he''s the person that will cheer me in and stand by my side.
 
I''m a bit upset at my husband right now, so I''m obviously going to be baised in my response! He''s usually always amazing, my biggest supporter ever. BUT, I have a HUGE interview on Tuesday and I have a mock interview with someone this afternoon. He''s been away for the last 2 weeks for work, and last evening I asked him if he could listen to some of my responses and critique them (he runs a public internet company, so he frequently interviews people for positions). He goes on to tell me I should figure this out on my own because only I know best how to answer the questions. Um, yes. I get it...but I would''ve loved to get a second opinion - even if we are in different fields!

He''s never like this, I think he was just probably tired and exhausted. I remember when the week before my thesis defence, I practised my 1 hour presentation on him some 10 times - he was getting quite into clinical pharmacology towards the end.

I guess I''m just incredibly nervous about this interview. The position is a bit overwhelming and I think I might be underqualified for it...
 
Yes! My husband is my champion and I am his.
 
Best of luck, Kama. Hope everything goes smoothly!

I don''t think my DH is my "personal cheerleader." He''s the type that thinks self confidence should come within. Sometimes this makes it hard for me to be motivated. If he compliments me, it''s after I''ve done whatever it is I''ve done. Like, for example, if I make plans to do-up a part of the yard, he won''t say it''ll look great. Once it''s done, then he says, it looks good. Maybe that is why I haven''t done any yard work in a few months.
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Date: 2/11/2010 12:39:57 PM
Author: kama_s
I''m a bit upset at my husband right now, so I''m obviously going to be baised in my response! He''s usually always amazing, my biggest supporter ever. BUT, I have a HUGE interview on Tuesday and I have a mock interview with someone this afternoon. He''s been away for the last 2 weeks for work, and last evening I asked him if he could listen to some of my responses and critique them (he runs a public internet company, so he frequently interviews people for positions). He goes on to tell me I should figure this out on my own because only I know best how to answer the questions. Um, yes. I get it...but I would''ve loved to get a second opinion - even if we are in different fields!

He''s never like this, I think he was just probably tired and exhausted. I remember when the week before my thesis defence, I practised my 1 hour presentation on him some 10 times - he was getting quite into clinical pharmacology towards the end.

I guess I''m just incredibly nervous about this interview. The position is a bit overwhelming and I think I might be underqualified for it...
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Good luck with the interview! Hopefully your DH agrees to help - I know that would be a big help to me.
 
Thanks MC and El!
 
I have to be honest and say he''s nowhere near as good of a cheerleader as I am. I was always there to go over the pros and cons over each firm he was interested in, I researched them on my own, I gave him encouragement over interviews, and I still continue to support and encourage him with school. DH on the other hand will support whatever career decisions I make by saying "sure if that''s what you want you should do it." Not quite the same.....
 
Oh he definitely is but he knows to not give the tough love because I just don''t have a thick enough skin for it yet (although that''s improving)

Him, he needs that kick in the butt but the difference is that he has the thickest skin of anybody I know.
 
I am def his. He is a little more reserved with praise. If I do well at something he will say that he is proud, but other than that there is no excitement. When I am not doing well at something or have to do something that is not my forte he tells me I will be great. He is really encouraging then. If I begin to whine and feel sorry for myself he does not tolerate it, at all. He is kind of harsh, but I know that he loves me and that is the way that he thinks is best so he really is trying the best he can. I think sometimes because we are so close he forgets that I am a girl and I get hurt feelings and I am not just like him.
 
Date: 2/11/2010 12:39:57 PM
Author: kama_s
I''m a bit upset at my husband right now, so I''m obviously going to be baised in my response! He''s usually always amazing, my biggest supporter ever. BUT, I have a HUGE interview on Tuesday and I have a mock interview with someone this afternoon. He''s been away for the last 2 weeks for work, and last evening I asked him if he could listen to some of my responses and critique them (he runs a public internet company, so he frequently interviews people for positions). He goes on to tell me I should figure this out on my own because only I know best how to answer the questions. Um, yes. I get it...but I would''ve loved to get a second opinion - even if we are in different fields!

He''s never like this, I think he was just probably tired and exhausted. I remember when the week before my thesis defence, I practised my 1 hour presentation on him some 10 times - he was getting quite into clinical pharmacology towards the end.

I guess I''m just incredibly nervous about this interview. The position is a bit overwhelming and I think I might be underqualified for it...
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Hugs Kama. I hope you get the position and lots of dust to you!
 
He''s my cheerleader and usually he''s like a big shot of calm the hell down.

I tend to come from a family of over-reactors, so when I start freaking out about health insurance or potty issues, he''s the one that will tell me "Honey, everything is fine. Breathe."
 
I wish.
 
Lots of luck, Kama! Let us know how it goes!

My DH is a great cheerleader. He always boosts me up to do what I want to do and is there for me if/when it goes wrong. He is his own WORST cheerleader though - he has a tendency to get very down on himself when he fails at something, though I do my best to keep him afloat.
 
Dh and I totally cheer one another on. He''s my biggest fan, and I''m his.
 
He''s very encouraging, and also the only person who is effective at kicking me in the butt...
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I''m stubborn, but I swear I am weak for this man and he can get me to do darn near anything! We push each other as we work towards becoming the power couple that we are meant to be
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My husband is a subdued person in general, but he certainly does let me know he has faith iny my abilities, he also kicks my butt when I''m doubting myself. I am not someone who seeks out or wants verbal praise, he needs it a lot more than I do, and sometimes I forget that. It is so true that a few kind words go a long way. I try to compliment him at least once and day.
 
He''s a great supporter but knows balance - which I love. If I am making a mistake or if I am on the cusp of handling an issue in a manner which could compromise my reputation in some way shape or form, he will tell me. I do the same with him.
 
Heck yes! He is my number one fan and is always there for me.
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The nice thing is though, he will also politely tell me when I'm being unfair or silly about something.
 
My husband is definitely my own personal cheerleader. I''m harder on him than he is on me, but I think he''d say that we both cheer each other on.
 
Absolutely. A couple of times, I''ve overheard him talking to someone else about my accomplishments, and his pride was very touching. He truly believes I can do anything. That can be a little frustrating at times - there are some things I can''t do, after all!

I try to do the same for him. He''s something of a dreamer, so I do inject a little realism every now and then. Not so much about his abilities as about the steps he would need to take to make his dreams come true. I know, however, that he can do just about anything he sets his mind to.
 
He is mine and I am his. He''s soooo supportive of me, so upbeat and positive. I always try to do the same for him. He loves that I listen to all the business concerns. I don''t mind, many times I see what needs to be done more clearly than he does, LOL!!!
 
For sure. DH is always on my side no matter what. And if I am wrong, he will find a nice and gentle way to tell me so.
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Date: 2/11/2010 12:07:59 PM
Author: elledizzy5


Haha! Yes. DH feeds my ego.


But he also kicks my butt when I''m being whiny and not proactive enough.


''You are smarter than everyone I know, but you can''t just sit on your butt and whine! DO something about it''


Done and done.
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This is my FI to a T and I love him for it!
 
Date: 2/11/2010 12:07:59 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Haha! Yes. DH feeds my ego.

But he also kicks my butt when I''m being whiny and not proactive enough.

''You are smarter than everyone I know, but you can''t just sit on your butt and whine! DO something about it''

Done and done.
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Thritto this. DH is very supportive but also doesn''t let me get away with much.

I was interviewing for jobs and really liked one but it required a larger amount of responsibility than I had ever had or frankly felt ready for. I told him I was thinking of taking the other job b/c it was "safer" and he kicked my butt. He said "You are actually going to NOT take a job b/c it scares you? That''s WHY you take a job b/c it will challenge you. You''re too smart to be safe." He was right, I was ashamed, took the "scary" job and it was the best decision I made.

I also have a secret dream career and DH knows about it. The other day he emailed me with this whole game plan on how to set up a home office and steps for me to take to accomplish this goal.
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The reason this made my heart melt is 1) I make a ton of money now and this new "career" I would make very little and might never make a living at it; and 2) it requires a certain amount of talent and he has no idea if I have that talent, but he just believes in me 100%.

Fiery, R did good. Go home and give him some lovin''.
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He is my #1 cheerleader and I am his!

Best of luck on your interview, kama_s!
 
Date: 2/11/2010 1:08:23 PM
Author: PinkAsscher678
He''s my cheerleader and usually he''s like a big shot of calm the hell down.

I tend to come from a family of over-reactors, so when I start freaking out about health insurance or potty issues, he''s the one that will tell me ''Honey, everything is fine. Breathe.''
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Yup, to every word
 
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