cantwait4life
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 3, 2008
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Thank you to everyone who has responded.
I''m not going to get into a debate on the pot smoking because I, like some on here, don''t have a problem with it.
As someone mentioned above, my biggest issue is his lack of motivation to do anything with his life. As HollyS mentioned above, he smokes and therefore cannot take the urine test that some employers require.
A little more background info to help with questions:
He did stop last year for 8 months while looking for another job. Prior to stopping for those 8 months, he did smoke every day, multiple times a day. When he stopped for those 8 months, he felt much better. His breathing was better, his health was better, and he had more energy. However, without an education he wasn''t getting offers any better than where he was already working.
He doesn''t smoke every day like he used to. He smokes 2 to 3 times a month. However, you don''t need to smoke every day to a) be addicted or b) fail the urine test.
He has been in his job (a reservation agent) for 5 years. He''s one of the top salesman there and makes a heavy amount of commission.
Our bills are split 50/50, he helps pay down debt, and he takes care of the home.
The problem I have with him is the future. What happens when we have children, God forbid something happens to me, and then he has to be the sole provider. How will he be able to do that? It''s his lack of motivation and fear of failure that bothers me. Take me for example. When I worked in sales before finishing college, it took me 6 months to move into an asst. manager position and 5 months after to become a general manager. He''s been there for 5 years and still holds the same title. Why? Because he isn''t motivated enough to raise his hand when a supervisor position is open. And if he does raise his hand and they require a drug test, he will fail and then what? He loses the supervisor opportunity AND his current job? And then there''s the school thing. I know that school isn''t the only way to make money. I know that so many people can be successful without going to school. However, for someone that has no other option, school is the best solution. He had no support growing up and his family wanted him to work right out of high school instead of go into college. Now, he fears he''ll pay for school and fail. He''s gone through the process of applying and choosing classes three times already and each time chickens out. His job has a tuition reimbursement program that he can use to pay for the courses but he''s holding himself back.
To be honest, I think he has a fear of changing. I still don''t know what I''m going to do but I appreciate all the responses.
I''m not going to get into a debate on the pot smoking because I, like some on here, don''t have a problem with it.
As someone mentioned above, my biggest issue is his lack of motivation to do anything with his life. As HollyS mentioned above, he smokes and therefore cannot take the urine test that some employers require.
A little more background info to help with questions:
He did stop last year for 8 months while looking for another job. Prior to stopping for those 8 months, he did smoke every day, multiple times a day. When he stopped for those 8 months, he felt much better. His breathing was better, his health was better, and he had more energy. However, without an education he wasn''t getting offers any better than where he was already working.
He doesn''t smoke every day like he used to. He smokes 2 to 3 times a month. However, you don''t need to smoke every day to a) be addicted or b) fail the urine test.
He has been in his job (a reservation agent) for 5 years. He''s one of the top salesman there and makes a heavy amount of commission.
Our bills are split 50/50, he helps pay down debt, and he takes care of the home.
The problem I have with him is the future. What happens when we have children, God forbid something happens to me, and then he has to be the sole provider. How will he be able to do that? It''s his lack of motivation and fear of failure that bothers me. Take me for example. When I worked in sales before finishing college, it took me 6 months to move into an asst. manager position and 5 months after to become a general manager. He''s been there for 5 years and still holds the same title. Why? Because he isn''t motivated enough to raise his hand when a supervisor position is open. And if he does raise his hand and they require a drug test, he will fail and then what? He loses the supervisor opportunity AND his current job? And then there''s the school thing. I know that school isn''t the only way to make money. I know that so many people can be successful without going to school. However, for someone that has no other option, school is the best solution. He had no support growing up and his family wanted him to work right out of high school instead of go into college. Now, he fears he''ll pay for school and fail. He''s gone through the process of applying and choosing classes three times already and each time chickens out. His job has a tuition reimbursement program that he can use to pay for the courses but he''s holding himself back.
To be honest, I think he has a fear of changing. I still don''t know what I''m going to do but I appreciate all the responses.