will you let friends borrow your jewelry...

[Dancing Fire]

dress or handbag ?

 

[suchende]

Depends entirely on the friend! One of my college roommates, all of the above, any time. The other, none, ever.

 

[TravelingGal]

Dress, sure. Handbag, sure. No one would want to borrow any that I own though.

Jewelry, mostly no because most of it is hugely sentimental to me and I don't have a lot. Certain pieces cannot be replaced. The few pieces that I have which aren't sentimental...sure, because it's insured!

 

[iugurl]

A dress - yes! A purse... maybe. I only have a few as I buy mostly purses that are $150-200 which I consider a lot for a purse. Jewelry - probably not. I only have a few pieces besides my engagement/wedding rings. I have 2 RHR, 1 pair of hoops, and I am about to purchase a diamond pendant. They all mean a lot to me, as the 1 RHR, hoops, pendant are anniv presents! Plus they are expensive! They are each almost or above $1000 which is a lot for me. They are insured, but still... I really don't want them to be treated roughly or lost. I might let my sister or mom borrow something, as they are pry the only ones I trust.

 

[diva rose]

Dress - depends on their size - I'm a size 0 so they need to be a size 0 to borrow my clothes. I would lend them everything except the dress my hubby bought me for his graduation.

Handbags - yes except for three bags my husband bought me as 'firsts' e.g. our first valentines together, birthday and when he reached a certain goal. I would be heartbroken if something happened to those bags.

Jewellery - yes except for my engagement ring, wedding ring, anniversary bracelet, anniversary watch, first christmas/valentines gift from hubby (silver necklace and ring).

So basically I would lend my close friends my items regardless of how expensive there are as long as there are no sentimental attachments to them.

 

[Jennifer W]

Yes. Other than my very sentimental pieces (wedding set, maternity band) I'd be happy to. Dresses and bags? Sure. I have loaned them things like that many times. I have awesome friends and they return the favour. It's only stuff, after all.

 

[Imdanny]

Would you let a friend borrow your watches? I haven't thought about this before but since you asked... jewelry and watches can get banged up by accident very easily, so no I'd rather know what scratches and dents there are were caused by me. Sorry if this makes me a terrible person.

 

[mayerling]

Yes, except for my wedding set. Having said that, I've never borrowed friends things and nobody's ever asked to borrow mine.

 

[missy]

Absolutely. In fact, my sister borrows my clothes occasionally (usually dressy stuff) and I am thrilled it is put to use as I rarely have any occasions to go to these days. Same with my friends who are my size. And I would feel fine about lending jewelry except for my ER and Wedding band and my black opal ring. Everything else is up for grabs LOL (temporarily that is!). It makes me happy to see others enjoying these things!

The only jewelry I have ever borrowed is from my mom. I would be too nervous to borrow anyone else's jewelry just in case something happened! I rarely borrow jewelry from my mom anyway for the same reason.

 

[MishB]

Clothes, shoes and handbags, all the time with my sister and BF. My sister and I have stuff on short, medium and long term loan to each other all the time. We're the same size (including shoes) so we often swap clothes. She comes to stay with us when she is in town on business, and I will put a whole outfit together for her out of my wardrobe, including jewelery.

No one has ever asked to borrow my jewelery, but I would lend something to a good friend for a special occasion. I have a lovely pair of diamond earrings and a vintage Mikimoto pearl necklace that would be perfect for a wedding.

 

[iLander]

My DD borrows all of these things, no problem. She is hesitant to borrow my "real" jewelry, though, even if I try to push a nice necklace on her for a dance or whatever.

Anyone else? Heck, no! No one gets to borrow any of my jewelry. I blame myself, since I lost an earring my grandmother loaned me once (luckily, it was paste and silver, not diamonds) and it happened so easily that I didn't even know about it until I got home.

Shoes, purses, sure, no problem. Take 'em. My DD and I borrow clothes back and forth all the time, and it's pretty frequently that we'll look at each other and say "Aren't those my pants?" Many times one of us will say "That looks better on you than on me", and whoever looks better in it gets to "keep" it.

It's a good system.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

I wish that I could borrow clothes! My chest is far larger than any of my friends though so nothing will fit me I've been attached to the same handbag for four years now and I would never lend out my jewelry. I made that mistake with my Mom and she kept it saying that it was hers all along and she only asked to borrow it so she could take it back Thief!

 

[Attached]

Want to borrow a dress no problem, but handbags and jewel no way. Some handbags are expensive to replace and most jewelry are irreplaceable because of sentimental value behind them.

 

[iheartscience]

I'd let my sisters borrow a dress or a handbag, but I wouldn't like it. I'd probably let them borrow my non-diamond jewelry, too, as long as it wasn't super sentimental. But no to friends borrowing stuff.

Basically I'm on Team Not Share, mainly because my sisters (especially my twin sister) love to borrow my stuff and in the past have ruined things by staining them/stretching them out and then washing and DRYING them. (I don't machine dry anything because dryers ruin your clothes.)

I think people should only wear their own clothes and shoes...and if you love something I have, go buy it for yourself!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Under no circumstances.

 

[soocool]

Only to my sister or DD, but then I borrow their stuff. DD loves shoes and if I need a pair of heels for an evening I borrow hers since I do not own any. I also like DD's handbags and if she is nice enough she lets me borrow them. Unfortunately too much of an age difference to borrow her clothes, though I did walk out of the house with her jacket on and did not realize it.

 

[Amethyste]

A client of mine jokingly asked me if she could borrow my pear for her wedding as "something borrowed". She made it sound like a joke but I think she was seriously hoping I'd say "sure" ... I did say that my insurance policy would cover a loss if the ring is worn only by me... Awwwwww...

But yes! I have lent purses, shoes, other misc. jewelry items... I am not that attached to things, just my engagement ring. That I am not being able to share...

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Never...

Last time I lent out any clothes was in high school!

 

[Haven]

I'd let my sisters borrow a dress or a handbag, but I wouldn't like it. I'd probably let them borrow my non-diamond jewelry, too, as long as it wasn't super sentimental. But no to friends borrowing stuff.

Basically I'm on Team Not Share, mainly because my sisters (especially my twin sister) love to borrow my stuff and in the past have ruined things by staining them/stretching them out and then washing and DRYING them. (I don't machine dry anything because dryers ruin your clothes.)

I think people should only wear their own clothes and shoes...and if you love something I have, go buy it for yourself!

Amen.

 

[shihtzulover]

I would say yes if a good friend asked to borrow a dress (assuming that it wasn't my absolute favorite), and maybe to the handbag and jewelry, depending upon how close we were. It it were something really sentimental or expensive though, then no - probably not.

On the flip side, I don't think I would ever ask a friend if I could borrow one of their best purses, or expensive/sentimental jewelry, so I guess I would expect the same in return.

 

[KittyGolightly]

Hmm, I guess my friends must all have better jewelry/dresses/handbags than I do because I've never been asked.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Wow--the PS community is more generous that I am because I would definitely NOT share my handbags, jewelry or clothes. My bags and jewelry are somewhat spendy and I don't think my friends have the same appreciation for them that I do. Clothes? I have a certain style which is classic, Chanel-like and they wouldn't be interested in borrowing those jackets or accessories.

 

[AprilBaby]

Absolutely! They have and they probably still will!

 

[autumngems]

Family yes, I let my neice borrow my ring in my avatar as a RHR for her wedding. Something Blue

 

[yennyfire]

Clothes, shoes and bag...in a heartbeat. Jewelry...not so much, unless it's "fashion jewelry"....I have a few special fine jewelry pieces that I would only loan to my Mom or sister...anyone else, no!

 

[TravelingGal]

I thought about this a little more...

First of all, I, as well as all of my friends, pretty much do not borrow. But we are all happy to lend. Perhaps because it's not abused.

I guess it comes down to helping a friend. A friend of mine isn't going to want to borrow a top of mine because she likes it. In that case, she'll go and buy it herself (so I'm with Thing2 on that theory). But say it's for an interview, or a hot date (OK, we're all married, but still), or something special - then all us gals are VERY helpful. We really enjoy being good friends to one another. But being a good friend doesn't mean shopping in your friend's closet when you're bored with your own clothes!

 

[iheartscience]

I thought about this a little more...

First of all, I, as well as all of my friends, pretty much do not borrow. But we are all happy to lend. Perhaps because it's not abused.

I guess it comes down to helping a friend. A friend of mine isn't going to want to borrow a top of mine because she likes it. In that case, she'll go and buy it herself (so I'm with Thing2 on that theory). But say it's for an interview, or a hot date (OK, we're all married, but still), or something special - then all us gals are VERY helpful. We really enjoy being good friends to one another. But being a good friend doesn't mean shopping in your friend's closet when you're bored with your own clothes!

This is exactly when I'll break my Team Not Share cred and lend out stuff and not mind at all. But otherwise it's more like "I got my shirt at _____, go buy yourself one, I really don't mind!"

 

[somethingshiny]

Yes if it is for an event. Yes for a vacation. Probably for any other thing too but not entirely sure. Both of my younger sisters borrowed my diamond bracelet and diamond earrings for dances in high school. My MIL has borrowed gems and diamonds to wear to weddings.

 

[Allison D.]

No one would want to borrow my clothes or handbags, but I do enthusiastically loan my personal jewelry.

I wouldn't loan my e-ring or my tennis bracelet (anniv. gift from hub), but everything else is game. I've loaned my leverback earrings to one friend for her wedding, and my studs/halos to another for her wedding. I've put my princess stone pendant into foster care with my mom for more than a year now, and I sent another friend home with a bangle bracelet I don't wear much anymore. I've loaned my 5-stone ring to my best friend multiple times, and I've loaned a few pieces to my college-aged niece over the past few years.

I've loaned several pieces to local PSers over the years, too. As long as they are people I know who would take *reasonable* care of it, I thoroughly enjoy loaning it out. Beautiful things are meant to be enjoyed and shared.

When I loan out jewelry, it's with the understanding that it's to be ENJOYED, not worried about. I won't be distressed if a piece is lost or has melee come free because those things could happen to me too. If something happens, I'll just have it fixed - no biggie. Again, to me, they're just things - not worth making someone feel remorseful over.

 

[Gypsy]

Dress, of course.
Handbag, certainly.
Fine Jewelry-- most likely only my close friends or my family. But not my engagement ring. I have no issue taking it off and having people try it on or anything like that, but borrowing my engagement ring TO WEAR for a while is a no. If someone wanted it to show to a vendor or something, I don't think I'd have an issue with that, although of course I would prefer pictures used.

Semi-precious jewelry I'd be more likely to let someone borrow. Costume jewelry-- I can't imagine having an issue loaning to to someone.