Will this bother you?

[joep]

Got the ring from bluenile today. The stone is as expected. My problem is with the ring. The band is not symmetrically round! One side is slightly thicker. The arc on the other side is flatter. I''m thinking this is because they resized it to a 4. Is it normal to expect some loss of symmetry or is it just bad worksmanship? If I complain and have it fixed, can I expect them to do better?

I already made plans to take her out this weekend.

 

[neatfreak]

It''s workmanship and YES it would drive me crazy. Bluenile should know better, return it.

Could you propose with a fake ring (ring pop?) so you can keep your plans and then explain the story to her?

 

[Dee*Jay]

It would indeed bother me! But then again I am more anal that some (most... OK, almost ALL!!!), maybe it won''t bother your soon-to-be fiance. Why not propose with it and if she minds send it back to have it fixed?

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/18/2007 11:36:56 AM
Author:joep
Got the ring from bluenile today. The stone is as expected. My problem is with the ring. The band is not symmetrically round! One side is slightly thicker. The arc on the other side is flatter. I''m thinking this is because they resized it to a 4. Is it normal to expect some loss of symmetry or is it just bad worksmanship? If I complain and have it fixed, can I expect them to do better?

I already made plans to take her out this weekend.

Joe could you post a picture? This would help if you could please? Sorry about this, what a shame. I have had many rings resized with no problem, it doesn''t sound right to me.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/18/2007 11:38:44 AM
Author: Dee*Jay
It would indeed bother me! But then again I am more anal that some (most... OK, almost ALL!!!), maybe it won''t bother your soon-to-be fiance. Why not propose with it and if she minds send it back to have it fixed?

And me, scoot over.

It would definitely bug me. I know how dissapointed you must be, and that you had it all planned.

Is she picky? The answer to that may well BE your answer to this.

 

[joep]

So many replies right away. Thanks. The thing is I don''t know if its something that would be obvious to most people or if its just me being obsessive. I''ll get some pics and post them.

Deejay, your suggestion sounds like a good one.

 

[oshinbreez]

Hi. Welcome to PS.

Why not keep your proposal plans. Then a few days later, after she has had some time to enjoy it, ask her if it''s ok and show her your concerns. Some women won''t tell their fiancee problems that they notice with their rings for fear of hurting his feelings. If you show her, then if it bothers her, you can get it fixed. If she''s fine with it....good.

 

[mercoledi]

It sounds like it was sized poorly, I would send it back.

I don't think I know a woman who hasn't spent quite a bit of time gazing at her e-ring. It would be sad to have her say to you after a few days "hey, this isn't quite round".

Also if it isn't quite round, it may not fit correctly i.e. may spin more or tilt to one size.


ETA: Oshinbreez's suggestion is a good one too, though it does hurt to be parted from a ring so soon! Maybe BN could express one to you?

 

[oshinbreez]

Oh....and you must come back with pics and handshots. PS rule.

 

[MWG]

Date: 5/18/2007 11:36:56 AM
Author:joep
Got the ring from bluenile today. The stone is as expected. My problem is with the ring. The band is not symmetrically round! One side is slightly thicker. The arc on the other side is flatter. I''m thinking this is because they resized it to a 4. Is it normal to expect some loss of symmetry or is it just bad worksmanship? If I complain and have it fixed, can I expect them to do better?

I already made plans to take her out this weekend.

Take a digital picture of the ring and your areas of concern. Call your sales person at Blue Nilie and email it to that person and they can advise you. They should be able to correct the problem.

MWG

 

[kohdy]

Well, it would bother me personally and I would do everything to fix the problem. However, if you aren''t bothered with it (or should I say that if you''re perfectly happy with it) there is no problem. Could you not have ordered it in your size, though? I wonder why resizing needed to be done... Also, if you have any pictures, that would help. Maybe this thing you''re talking about is not a big deal... It''s hard to judge without looking at the ring.

 

[kcoursolle]

Send it back!

 

[FireGoddess]

Try and post some pics - we can see if we notice. However, if you noticed, it''s likely she will too.

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 5/18/2007 4:01:53 PM
Author: FireGoddess
Try and post some pics - we can see if we notice. However, if you noticed, it''s likely she will too.

Great idea!! To answer your question, yes it would bother me....

 

[Mara]

It depends on how much it's visible as to how it would bother me. But I am really not that interested in 1000% perfect worksmanship on my jewelry for the most part.

Especially something like an e-ring, because I will just bang the crap out of it anyway while wearing it and most likely eventually make it un-round or dinged up looking or knock a stone out or whatever over the years I will be wearing it. I had a local jeweler resize my rings and they basically just polished out a bit of metal from the inside to make them bigger a little and they are not perfectly symmetrical on where they removed material, but I don't really care. It's not like you can see it on the finger. It's miniscule.

So I'd assess how visible it is that it's not perfect and go from there. It would bother some people definitely, but probably not me.

 

[joep]

Mara: That's a reassuring thought.

Update: I couldn't get any good pics to come out. The camera flash was getting in the way and I didn't know how to set it properly. I showed it to two of my friends and they didn't see anything wrong it. I guess it was just me. . Thanks to all who replied!

 

[oshinbreez]

I hope everything goes well for you. Are you proposing today?

 

[joep]

Tomorrow.

 

[oshinbreez]

Good luck tomorrow. Be sure to come back with your story and pics.

 

[Ellen]

joep, good luck!!


And what you might do, is after she has had a bit of time to look at it and settle down from the initial excitement, tell her, if there''s anything she doesn''t like or wants to change, that it''s not a problem.

That way, you are not pointing out what may or may not be there, and yet she has the ability (without hurting your feelings) to speak up if indeed she does see something.

 

[CJ2008]

It would drive me crazy...but I, too, am definitely a freak for details (aka anal).

But make sure knowing the ring isn''t perfect doesn''t take away from your joy of proposing. I agree with oshinbreez but I probably couldn''t wait a few days to show her what you think should be better with the ring. Enjoy the moment, make sure she enjoys the moment...you''ll "know" when the right time is to ask her, "can I show you something about the ring that disappointed me? I am not sure if you''ll agree with me, but if you do, let''s see what we can do about it."

Good luck with your proposal.

 

[kcoursolle]

Date: 5/19/2007 8:54:42 AM
Author: joep

Mara: That''s a reassuring thought.

Update: I couldn''t get any good pics to come out. The camera flash was getting in the way and I didn''t know how to set it properly. I showed it to two of my friends and they didn''t see anything wrong it. I guess it was just me. . Thanks to all who replied!

As long as you are proposing within the return period, you should be fine. After the excitement of getting engaged settles down, I''d ask her if she wants you to send it back to get rounded out.