charbie
Ideal_Rock
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just a vent. i''m upset, not really mad, just sad.
there''s been a strained relationship with my dad''s family since my parent''s got divorced 10 years ago. but i''ve been really strong, put it all behind me, and have even worked on making sure things have improved with all of his immediate family.
my closest cousin on that side got married in july. i was told how important it would be for us to be there, even though it was over 4th of july, 4 hours away, plus we had to stay in an expensive hotel. FI has a huge annual 4th of july party that was cancelled due to their wedding. FI and I both took a day off work to be there for the Friday wedding. i did it because it is family, and again, i didn''t really want the wrath of my grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins to come back.
fast forward to my wedding. i invited that entire side of the family, even though out of spite i really really didn''t want to, they all got their save the dates months ago, etc. i have been told time and time again how they are excited. i get my RSVP''s back, and none of the cousins are coming.
my cousin who just got married just said, "oh, i''m sorry. we are bummed, but we totally forgot about another wedding we are going to! must have spaced about it!" what a crappy feeling to know i tried so hard, and now i''m just shoved aside.
i know we all have talked about how people''s true colors come out at weddings, but this just took the cake for me. my mom has had recent issues with her family, and only a few are coming. i don''t even know if my own grandparents are coming since my mom isn''t talking with them and my sister just started some more drama with them.
maybe i''m being selfish, i just am sad that FI has his entire family and extended family coming, and i can''t even get my own grandparents to come. i never did anything wrong to the relationship, its just beyond my control.
i like to see the positive in everything...so my positive spin is that at the very least, i''m gaining a new family that day who really cares about us and are going to be there to watch our important day, so even if my own family is making me really sad and upset, my new family is there to support me.
ok. i''m done. i''ll cry my tears and get over it, but it just plain sucks.
there''s been a strained relationship with my dad''s family since my parent''s got divorced 10 years ago. but i''ve been really strong, put it all behind me, and have even worked on making sure things have improved with all of his immediate family.
my closest cousin on that side got married in july. i was told how important it would be for us to be there, even though it was over 4th of july, 4 hours away, plus we had to stay in an expensive hotel. FI has a huge annual 4th of july party that was cancelled due to their wedding. FI and I both took a day off work to be there for the Friday wedding. i did it because it is family, and again, i didn''t really want the wrath of my grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins to come back.
fast forward to my wedding. i invited that entire side of the family, even though out of spite i really really didn''t want to, they all got their save the dates months ago, etc. i have been told time and time again how they are excited. i get my RSVP''s back, and none of the cousins are coming.
my cousin who just got married just said, "oh, i''m sorry. we are bummed, but we totally forgot about another wedding we are going to! must have spaced about it!" what a crappy feeling to know i tried so hard, and now i''m just shoved aside.
i know we all have talked about how people''s true colors come out at weddings, but this just took the cake for me. my mom has had recent issues with her family, and only a few are coming. i don''t even know if my own grandparents are coming since my mom isn''t talking with them and my sister just started some more drama with them.
maybe i''m being selfish, i just am sad that FI has his entire family and extended family coming, and i can''t even get my own grandparents to come. i never did anything wrong to the relationship, its just beyond my control.
i like to see the positive in everything...so my positive spin is that at the very least, i''m gaining a new family that day who really cares about us and are going to be there to watch our important day, so even if my own family is making me really sad and upset, my new family is there to support me.
ok. i''m done. i''ll cry my tears and get over it, but it just plain sucks.