We sent out our invitations about a month ago...we could not do +1s unless there was actually a +1, girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, traveling a far distance, etc.
We have had 7 requests for people to bring dates. We very nicely asked, oh I''m sorry I didn''t know you were seeing someone/had a girlfriend/boyfriend. They said oh well, I''m not/don''t, I just don''t want to go solo. In return we nicely responded, well, we are paying for this ourselves and are expecting to already go over the room minimum (which is 125 and our plates are well over $100/pp this was not disclosed to the guest asking), to try and keep costs down we just can''t afford that. We''ve gotten "oh, ok, I was just asking, I was confused"...I''m not sure what was confusing about the invitation, it only had your name on it and you are single( I didn''t say that, even though I wanted too!),"I wont have anyone to slow dance with", wtf? and many more ridiculous reasons. Last night was the final straw, where I ranted to FIs mother because I couldn''t take it anymore. FIs 23 year old cousin asked to bring a date. We in return asked, "does he have a girlfriend or something?" No, he just doesn''t want his grandmother to think he is a failure because he never brings girls around. I just flipped out. This cousin''s and his family are horrid, they are selfish, they steal money from the grandmother to live a lavish lifestyle, they didn''t give a wedding gift to either sister, when they have 3 children and two of them, not even a card, and now these people want to make their family of 5 a 6 so grandmama doesn''t think he is a failure? WHAT?!!! I''ve come to the conclusion that people are just nuts.
If you aren''t invited with a guest, there is nothing wrong with going solo, I''ve had some of the best times at weddings being single, not that I don''t love my FI and being with him, weddings are always fun, regardless if you have a date or not! People are so rude and tactless when it comes to a wedding.
I just dont understand people and how unbelievable rude they are. I wish things were the way they used to be when it was an honor to be invited to someones wedding. FI now wishes we would have had the small intimate reception I originally wanted, he had no idea how much trouble a 160+ person wedding is...I wish people would just think before they speak...
My rant is done now. I know many of you ladies have experienced this as well....how did everyone handle it?
We have had 7 requests for people to bring dates. We very nicely asked, oh I''m sorry I didn''t know you were seeing someone/had a girlfriend/boyfriend. They said oh well, I''m not/don''t, I just don''t want to go solo. In return we nicely responded, well, we are paying for this ourselves and are expecting to already go over the room minimum (which is 125 and our plates are well over $100/pp this was not disclosed to the guest asking), to try and keep costs down we just can''t afford that. We''ve gotten "oh, ok, I was just asking, I was confused"...I''m not sure what was confusing about the invitation, it only had your name on it and you are single( I didn''t say that, even though I wanted too!),"I wont have anyone to slow dance with", wtf? and many more ridiculous reasons. Last night was the final straw, where I ranted to FIs mother because I couldn''t take it anymore. FIs 23 year old cousin asked to bring a date. We in return asked, "does he have a girlfriend or something?" No, he just doesn''t want his grandmother to think he is a failure because he never brings girls around. I just flipped out. This cousin''s and his family are horrid, they are selfish, they steal money from the grandmother to live a lavish lifestyle, they didn''t give a wedding gift to either sister, when they have 3 children and two of them, not even a card, and now these people want to make their family of 5 a 6 so grandmama doesn''t think he is a failure? WHAT?!!! I''ve come to the conclusion that people are just nuts.
If you aren''t invited with a guest, there is nothing wrong with going solo, I''ve had some of the best times at weddings being single, not that I don''t love my FI and being with him, weddings are always fun, regardless if you have a date or not! People are so rude and tactless when it comes to a wedding.
I just dont understand people and how unbelievable rude they are. I wish things were the way they used to be when it was an honor to be invited to someones wedding. FI now wishes we would have had the small intimate reception I originally wanted, he had no idea how much trouble a 160+ person wedding is...I wish people would just think before they speak...
My rant is done now. I know many of you ladies have experienced this as well....how did everyone handle it?