- Feb 17, 2007
I am having a problem choosing my maid of honor. I have a best friend that I''ve known since middle school and been best friends with for most of that time. The problem is that lately she has been kinda down on not having a relationship with a guy and doesn''t seem very happy for me to be getting married. She''s also been doing some things I don''t really agree with (like hanging out with questionable people) and that is added to the fact that I have grown up and matured and she seems to be lagging behind in that area. I still consider her my "best friend" because I feel like I can''t just drop her after all these years... but I''m not sure that she is the best choice for my maid of honor. The other option is my fiance''s sister. She is my age and we have alot in common. However, I wouldnt really consider her a best friend... just a very good one. I think that she would be alot better suited for the maid of honor job because I know she would be a big help with planning (and she lives closer!) and I feel like I don''t have to be sorry to talk about the wedding with her (I always feel like my best friend is upset when I talk about it and not happy for me). I would like to ask my fiance''s sister to be the MOH but my best friend would probably be very upset and assume that its her job since we''ve been friends for so long (and cuz we''ve discussed her doing it before I was ever engaged). I think if I asked my best friend to do it, then my fi''s sister would probably be the one to take initiative and plan things and help out. What should I do? I thought about having both be the MOH... but they don''t care for each other very much and that might be a problem if they plan things together.