Gwyn
Brilliant_Rock
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So I was reading other website discussions on having an adult only wedding. And one of the posts that got quite heated dealt with the timing which the couple made it known that children were not being invited to the wedding.
The poster was angry because her and her husband were not told ahead of time that their child (i believe the child was 9 or something) was not being invited to the wedding. It was not until they received their invitation did the realise this. Now, to me, that seems normal. Just like anyone else, you will never know for sure if you are invited to an event (or invited with a guest or your children) until the invitations go out. However there were several people that completely agreed with the poster that the bride and groom should have let people know before the invites.
I think that this particular post involved someone that was in the wedding party. And perhaps that is why they were upset that they could not bring their child.
Mainly because of severe room restrictions (I am not even inviting all of my aunts and uncles and none of my cousins whom I am very close with) we have decided we do not want children at the wedding. One FI''s good friend has a 2-3 year old who will not be invited...should FI have told him his child would not be invited when he asked him to be in the wedding? Before the man accepted? Or when he accepted, should FI have brought it up? I didnt even think about it until I read that post. We do not think that he will have an issue with it, but I worry now that FI should have said something earlier.
My question is...When are those of you that, for whatever reason, are chosing to exclude children (or inviting adults without "and guest" and such) letting this be known and how? Also, when you asked people to be in the wedding, did you let them know then? And I do not just mean word of mouth, I mean actually telling the individuals that their child/significant other or whatever, is not invited.
The poster was angry because her and her husband were not told ahead of time that their child (i believe the child was 9 or something) was not being invited to the wedding. It was not until they received their invitation did the realise this. Now, to me, that seems normal. Just like anyone else, you will never know for sure if you are invited to an event (or invited with a guest or your children) until the invitations go out. However there were several people that completely agreed with the poster that the bride and groom should have let people know before the invites.
I think that this particular post involved someone that was in the wedding party. And perhaps that is why they were upset that they could not bring their child.
Mainly because of severe room restrictions (I am not even inviting all of my aunts and uncles and none of my cousins whom I am very close with) we have decided we do not want children at the wedding. One FI''s good friend has a 2-3 year old who will not be invited...should FI have told him his child would not be invited when he asked him to be in the wedding? Before the man accepted? Or when he accepted, should FI have brought it up? I didnt even think about it until I read that post. We do not think that he will have an issue with it, but I worry now that FI should have said something earlier.
My question is...When are those of you that, for whatever reason, are chosing to exclude children (or inviting adults without "and guest" and such) letting this be known and how? Also, when you asked people to be in the wedding, did you let them know then? And I do not just mean word of mouth, I mean actually telling the individuals that their child/significant other or whatever, is not invited.