when do you ask your bridesmaids?

[larussel03]

Since I''m going to be getting engaged relatively soon (and then have a 2 year engagement to follow) I was wondering when you ask your MOH and BM''s to be your MOH and BMs? I wanted to wait until one year before the wedding, just to not have to think about anything but booking the location in the first year...what did/does everyone else do when you have a long engagement?

 

[VuittonGal]

My engagement will be about one year long by the time we get married. I asked my girls about one year before my wedding date.

 

[MINE!!]

I waited until AFTER I got engaged. I didn''t have a long engagement. But I was SURE of who I was going to ask. I chose three people that have been freinds.. forever.. that would not be able to do anything or say anything that I haad not already gone through with them before ... then I was sure that I knew And loved them enough that I had no doubts before I asked.

 

[FD21Bride]

I also had a two year engagement..although we now have only 4 months to go... and I asked a couple of my girls (the ones that i were absolutely sure about and had known for years) a few months after the engagement. The other one I waited about 1 year in advance to ask her.

 

[selflove]

My best friend had a 2+ year engagement and she asked her sister and her two best friends right away to be in the wedding party. As the planning progressed, she asked two of her FSIL''s and then later they asked a husband/wife couple to also stand up. So she had 6 attendants and she didn''t ask them all at the same time.

 

[ChargerGrrl]

I won''t have a long engagement (it''s going to be about 10mos), but thought I''d add my 2c''s.

If you have known for some time that a certain person will be your MOH, then I would ask her shortly after your engagement. Although you mention that you don''t think you''ll be doing much more than securing the location during the first year, you may find yourself doing more than that (going to bridal shows, site visits, dress shopping, etc.) And, It would be so much more fun to at least have your MOH along for the ride!

 

[icekid]

My wedding is currently about 1.75 years away, and I don''t think I will officially ask anyone until next summer.

I''m unsure at the moment whether I will ask my best friend from college. We don''t talk/ see each other as much as we used to (live far apart) so I kind of want to see where some friendships are heading before making final decisions. Then I have my med school friends who are the people I see on a daily basis right now; a couple of them have already gone dress shopping with me. But at the same time, they''re people whom I''ve only known for a year and a few months so I think I will wait til summer to make final decisions about them.

My little sister will be my MOH, and she already knows this. I am thinking of asking her officially while I am home for Christmas, or otherwise next summer after my board exams since that is probably the next time I will see her.

I''ve heard that it''s a good idea to wait until about a year out, just b/c you never know what can happen...