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Between 25-30 is what I think is good...I had my first one at 24 (spent 25th birthday in the hospital having him) and my second one I had at 36...
Times...they are a’changin’ and I think it’s more difficult to begin so young today.
I'm currently pregnant with my first at 32.. turning 33.. I think for me ideally around 30 but I just graduated from my postgraduate degree and started working. I recently upsized my house so I think now is a good time.
With all the above mentioned reasons taken into consideration - I would say ages 26-35.
Although my wife was 34 when Finn was born and the nurses were jokingly calling her a geriatric mother, so what would I know anyway?
Well I would have loved mine at 30ish but.... 11 IVF cycles and 3 miscarriages and one failed adoption meant I had my first one at 38 and another 4 IVF cycles and miscarriage of twins meant my second was born at 41. This was not my plan. And that’s my point. Everyone is different, everyone’s journey is different, and there are absolutely no guarantees about any of it. Just like the rest of life.
Well I would have loved mine at 30ish but.... 11 IVF cycles and 3 miscarriages and one failed adoption meant I had my first one at 38 and another 4 IVF cycles and miscarriage of twins meant my second was born at 41. This was not my plan. And that’s my point. Everyone is different, everyone’s journey is different, and there are absolutely no guarantees about any of it. Just like the rest of life.
How much dose it cost? Does your insurance cover it?Well I would have loved mine at 30ish but.... 11 IVF cycles and 3 miscarriages and one failed adoption meant I had my first one at 38 and another 4 IVF cycles and miscarriage of twins meant my second was born at 41. This was not my plan. And that’s my point. Everyone is different, everyone’s journey is different, and there are absolutely no guarantees about any of it. Just like the rest of life.
When the stars line up—bc sometimes you have no control over it no matter how much you want it and sometimes you think you don’t want to get pregnant but It happens and it was for the best!
Well I would have loved mine at 30ish but.... 11 IVF cycles and 3 miscarriages and one failed adoption meant I had my first one at 38 and another 4 IVF cycles and miscarriage of twins meant my second was born at 41. This was not my plan. And that’s my point. Everyone is different, everyone’s journey is different, and there are absolutely no guarantees about any of it. Just like the rest of life.
Wow it sounds like you have been through so much. I am glad that you have your two babies to love.
How much dose it cost? Does your insurance cover it?
My situation was very similar to yours. I’ve always dreamed of having 2 children, we started trying to conceive at 28. But then life threw us curve balls! After 14 years of endless IVF cycles and 3 miscarriages, the last one was particularly difficult for us as I was carrying twins and thought that the pregnancy was progressing well.
I finally became a mum at 41 and my second child I was 46! Both via adoption. I’ve felt truly blessed, sometimes life doesn’t go to plan but we got there in the end.
Luckily my DH and I are very active, fit and have lots of energy for two young kids and due to the extra time working before having children we are financially secure which gives us more freedom with our time.
@Sparkles88 I am so sorry for your losses and your journey but I am so very pleased you have your children now.