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what''s going on with all these anonymous post lately ?

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i know you guys aren''t shy.
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I have only seen it once .. I wonder how it happens.
 
Well I saw one a long time ago... and then again... but there were months or maybe years between them.... what''s been going on the last month is weird, I''ll admit. I take it as a sign that people a) trust the judgment and want the opinions of the people here and b) are too emotionally invested to consider their anonymity anonymous. They want to protect their anonymous online persona by creating another anonymous online persona :)
 
I noticed them too actually. I think I saw three in the last week or two.
 
I don''t know DF. I just take a break from PS when there is drama in my life or I consult my real life friends. I have shared things after the fact here on PS when I''ve come to terms with it in my own time. The creation of multiple user names I thought was against PS policy/rules but apparently that isn''t enforced? *shrugs* At any rate I read and move on. I find that I''m less likely to offer my two cents to an anonymous poster rather than a member whether they''ve posted 10 times or 10,000 times. That''s just me, though.
 
Date: 5/18/2010 11:24:06 PM
Author: monarch64
I don''t know DF. I just take a break from PS when there is drama in my life or I consult my real life friends. I have shared things after the fact here on PS when I''ve come to terms with it in my own time. The creation of multiple user names I thought was against PS policy/rules but apparently that isn''t enforced? *shrugs* At any rate I read and move on. I find that I''m less likely to offer my two cents to an anonymous poster rather than a member whether they''ve posted 10 times or 10,000 times. That''s just me, though.
Its not just you...I''m the same way.
 
Yes, I remember a while back there were a few anonymous posters using names like "ketchup" and "mustard" (it was actually kind of funny, nobody really knew what to make of it!) and now just recently three, maybe even four anonymous posters. I got the impression a few of them thought their problems would reflect badly on them, and one felt she would get too much criticism and "tough love" if she posted under her regular name. And one involved a sexual problem. I suppose the issue or question is just too personal for them to go by their real names.
 
they come they go...
it goes in waves,,
it isn''t new....
 
there has been an epidemic lately but I agree with Karl - they seem to come in waves
It doesn''t really bother me much - if the anonymous status helps someone get some helpfuladvice, that''s fine with me
 
Date: 5/18/2010 11:27:52 PM
Author: charbie
Date: 5/18/2010 11:24:06 PM

Author: monarch64

I don''t know DF. I just take a break from PS when there is drama in my life or I consult my real life friends. I have shared things after the fact here on PS when I''ve come to terms with it in my own time. The creation of multiple user names I thought was against PS policy/rules but apparently that isn''t enforced? *shrugs* At any rate I read and move on. I find that I''m less likely to offer my two cents to an anonymous poster rather than a member whether they''ve posted 10 times or 10,000 times. That''s just me, though.

Its not just you...I''m the same way.


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Yup, I feel ya, Charbie.

And yeah, it''s not a new thing at all, it seems to be contagious and comes in waves. It''s not a huge deal, it''s just...one of those things that people start to notice after the 2nd or 3rd "anonymous" thread.
 
But how do you post without logging in?
 
There''s definitely been a "wave", and it seems pretty spread over the Cafe/non-jewelery related sub-forums. Most don''t really seem warranted. I''m the same; if there''s something serious going on, I''ll talk to my friends.

Can you imagine an anonymous poster on RT? I imagine it would be someone in a trenchcoat and sunglasses, with a thread along the lines of, "I bought a CZ. I liked it. Help!
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Date: 5/19/2010 12:05:55 AM
Author: IndyLady
There''s definitely been a ''wave'', and it seems pretty spread over the Cafe/non-jewelery related sub-forums. Most don''t really seem warranted. I''m the same; if there''s something serious going on, I''ll talk to my friends.


Can you imagine an anonymous poster on RT? I imagine it would be someone in a trenchcoat and sunglasses, with a thread along the lines of, ''I bought a CZ. I liked it. Help!
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Muahahaha! Or, in Colored Stones: "I have a stone with a GIGANTIC window and I LURVE it!" LOL, you gave me a good laugh Indylady!
 
Date: 5/18/2010 11:57:23 PM
Author: CharmyPoo
But how do you post without logging in?
Charmy, they are talking about people who create a second account, usually "Anon_____" or something else discreet and not tied to their normal account to post about personal problems and get advice. There is one here in Hangout called "AnonForThis", and an "anon#######" (don''t remember the numbers specifically) in FHH I think. They were bothing having personal issues that they wanted to be anonymous for and still get advice on.

Yes the "Anonymous User" posts occasionally, often after a user changes their email address or something else on their account.
 
Date: 5/19/2010 12:10:19 AM
Author: monarch64
Date: 5/19/2010 12:05:55 AM
Author: IndyLady
There''s definitely been a ''wave'', and it seems pretty spread over the Cafe/non-jewelery related sub-forums. Most don''t really seem warranted. I''m the same; if there''s something serious going on, I''ll talk to my friends.

Can you imagine an anonymous poster on RT? I imagine it would be someone in a trenchcoat and sunglasses, with a thread along the lines of, ''I bought a CZ. I liked it. Help!
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Muahahaha! Or, in Colored Stones: ''I have a stone with a GIGANTIC window and I LURVE it!'' LOL, you gave me a good laugh Indylady!
Speaking of, I plan on creating an anonymous account to post a "moderately included" stone that I''m in LURVE with. Good idea!
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I guess some people are more concerned about their image on PS. I wish they wouldn''t do that, though, we''re all human and have real life problems.
 
Date: 5/19/2010 12:05:55 AM
Author: IndyLady
There''s definitely been a ''wave'', and it seems pretty spread over the Cafe/non-jewelery related sub-forums. Most don''t really seem warranted. I''m the same; if there''s something serious going on, I''ll talk to my friends.

Can you imagine an anonymous poster on RT? I imagine it would be someone in a trenchcoat and sunglasses, with a thread along the lines of, ''I bought a CZ. I liked it. Help!
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HAH!

::snort:: nice, Indy
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Date: 5/19/2010 12:21:14 AM
Author: heraanderson
I guess some people are more concerned about their image on PS. I wish they wouldn''t do that, though, we''re all human and have real life problems.

True. It took me a few months to get to the point where I could come forward about the demise of my marriage. It is hard to come out with certain things on a forum where relationships and marriage/weddings/engagement rings/symbolic jewelry is so celebrated, ya know? I can understand but at the same time we discuss so many personal things that it''s like why go create a different persona instead of just finding a way to state things in a matter of fact way to ask for advice or just keep it totally private and talk to people IRL? I guess I get it but at the same time I don''t.
 
If it''s that big of a deal people should reconsider seeking online advice. They can be tracked by their IP address, their service provider, and ultimately their real identity if the right person wanted to know. That''s not likely, but I do see the value in the opinions of the people who post here, so I suppose it serves a purpose.
 
Date: 5/19/2010 12:21:14 AM
Author: heraanderson
I guess some people are more concerned about their image on PS. I wish they wouldn''t do that, though, we''re all human and have real life problems.
i''m not one of those people.
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some people have brought up spouses though - the one about the color of her ring set I thought was silly (JMO) because none of us would judge anyone on that! But I can see where talking about a partner''s sexual issues or even highly charged emotional issues between a couple someone would want to hide their identity. Maybe because they feel they can work it out and don''t want there to be a lingering bias against their partner.
 
I''ve noticed only 2 in the last month. Both said they were long-time posters which I found really intrested. I don''t feel that we are very judgemental on this forum, so it surprised me that the posters didn''t feel they could talk freely! We''ve discussed almost everything on this forum...we''re pretty open here, and mostly willing to give advice.
 
It doesn''t bother me at all. People can use PS for whatever they need it for.

I agree that I personally would probably turn to my friends IRL but I can also see wanting objective feedback on something you are too close to.

I would imagine some use it because there are people in RL that know their screen name and perhaps are trying to stay anonymous from them and not so much from worrying about if PS''ers know who they are.

Which is why no one IRL knows my screen name.
 

I can completely understand why some people think it''s necessary to post anonymously. Although everyone can claim not to be judgmental and what not, I''ve seen several instances on this board where people have brought up someone''s past conversation and held it against them, or told them " I can''t believe you''re saying ___ because before you said ______. There are also some on here and have shared enough of their lives so that a friend or family member that they might refer to this board may be able to figure out who they are. An anonymous post allows them to get some feedback without the directed judgment. I have been a member of a board where they had an open anonymous account. Anyone could log on and post anonymous questions. It worked well. I think the creation of 500 different "fake" accounts clogs the system.

 
 
There is a perceived danger of people being tracked from one forum to another and having their past posts used against them. Understandably, you can''t even delete your own posts on PS after a few minutes, nevermind later when you''ve resolved your problem/question/complaint. I can understand why it happens so often, but because the anon user doesn''t want to invest their identity in a particular situation, I don''t feel particularly happy to invest my advice in their thread.

That being said, if you don''t want anyone on the internet to know about a particular issue you''re having, simply don''t put it there. Cover your tracks all you want. someone will always be able to find you.
 
 
Date: 5/19/2010 12:04:52 PM
Author: Sizzle

I can completely understand why some people think it''s necessary to post anonymously. Although everyone can claim not to be judgmental and what not, I''ve seen several instances on this board where people have brought up someone''s past conversation and held it against them, or told them '' I can''t believe you''re saying ___ because before you said ______. There are also some on here and have shared enough of their lives so that a friend or family member that they might refer to this board may be able to figure out who they are. An anonymous post allows them to get some feedback without the directed judgment. I have been a member of a board where they had an open anonymous account. Anyone could log on and post anonymous questions. It worked well. I think the creation of 500 different ''fake'' accounts clogs the system.

But then i wonder if they are getting sound advice. Part of giving advice usually depends on the circumstances and knowing one''s past history is important. For example, we might give the advice to a woman who''s husband has cheated recently to stick it out or go to counseling etc. However, we would be giving different advice if we knew that the husband was a serial cheater. We''re not getting the whole picture when someone goes anonymous.
 
Date: 5/18/2010 11:24:06 PM
Author: monarch64
I don''t know DF. I just take a break from PS when there is drama in my life or I consult my real life friends. I have shared things after the fact here on PS when I''ve come to terms with it in my own time. The creation of multiple user names I thought was against PS policy/rules but apparently that isn''t enforced? *shrugs* At any rate I read and move on. I find that I''m less likely to offer my two cents to an anonymous poster rather than a member whether they''ve posted 10 times or 10,000 times. That''s just me, though.

I don''t get them either. Guess I don''t care about protected my image on an internet forum. I am a pretty open book though. That''s just me. For the tough stuff I find support off PS.
 
Date: 5/19/2010 1:21:11 AM
Author: joxxxelyn


If it''s that big of a deal people should reconsider seeking online advice. They can be tracked by their IP address, their service provider, and ultimately their real identity if the right person wanted to know. That''s not likely, but I do see the value in the opinions of the people who post here, so I suppose it serves a purpose.

But most of these anonymous posters are posting about marriage problems or something. I think they''re worried about people on PS looking down on them, or friends/family accidentally finding them and realizing who''s posting. I don''t think they''re typically worried about crazies tracking down their IP address or something.
 
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