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What would you want to do if this was your last week on earth?

Discussion in 'Hangout' started by missy, Aug 17, 2019.

  1. rocks
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    by rocks » Aug 22, 2019
    Depends on where you are from. Jersey and Delaware people refer to the beach as the shore. In New York we go to the beach. No matter what you call it, it's devine.
     
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  2. luv2sparkle
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    by luv2sparkle » Aug 23, 2019
    This thread makes me want to cry. I am at the beach for the last week, and got news yesterday of a dear friend who was just diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. That is two of my closest friends in the last year. My heart is aching and I am praying she will be cured, but so hurting for all she will have to go through to get there.

    I would want to go to Pismo beach with all my family. We are all happiest here and have so many memories here. I would go to Hush Harbor bakery in Atascadero and buy all their bread and eat it with lots of butter, then to the cinnamon roll bakery and have one of those. I would spend all my time loving my kids and hugging on my grand babies. They are all so precious to me.
     
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  3. missy
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    by missy » Aug 23, 2019
    I am so sorry @luv2sparkle :cry2:. Sending lots of healing dust and well wishes to both of your friends. And gentle (((hugs))) to you.
     
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  5. Bonfire
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    by Bonfire » Aug 25, 2019
    I’m so sorry luv. Breast cancer seems to be epidemic these days. As someone who has just walked this walk may I give you a little advice?

    When I was diagnosed my dear friend called often and text me the most lovely inspirational and positive messages. Even just a short “Hi I’m thinking of you today.” This went on for months. It brought me to tears the outpouring of love and kindness and support. It helped so much! Be that support for your friend. She needs you, she’s still the same person. Sending you both strength and love and prayers.
     
  6. Arkteia
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    by Arkteia » Aug 25, 2019
    I shall do the same. It would be hard because we are here and my dad is in another country, but I’d try.

    And also, i’d call everyone who helped me in life and thank them.
     
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  7. Daisys and Diamonds
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    by Daisys and Diamonds » Aug 25, 2019
    things arnt over good at our place
    my other half's dsughter has her breast cancer return in her spin and liver and today we have an appointment at the hospital eye dept to try to work out the underlying cause of the other half's site problems
    they tested for everything from TB to Lime disease and a host of other horeible things in between

    if this was my last week on earth id spend time cuddling the cats
    right now the stray tom cat Tibby is asleep on my lap snorring and Borris is behind my shoulder on the chair
    got to make time for simple pleasures
     
  8. Mamabean
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    by Mamabean » Aug 25, 2019
    I’m sorry about your husband’s daughter...and your hubby’s eye problems. Tabby and Borris sound like they want to comfort you. Hugs..
     
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  9. Bonfire
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    by Bonfire » Aug 25, 2019
    Oh goodness! Prayers outgoing!
     
  10. Daisys and Diamonds
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    by Daisys and Diamonds » Aug 25, 2019
    thank you @Bonfire and @Mamabean
    thoughts and prayers are greatfully received
    the hospital just rang to postpone his appointment so hopefully that means he's non urgent if you know what i mean
    we have 3 different types of eye medicine so its not like we are sitting around doing nothing
    but poor Melanie is in so much pain, the tramadol didn't help so she is on morphine
    Gary needs to get better for Melanie

    in respect to the thread topic i think it would be really important to only say positive loving things to everybody
    on one side of us is a rental with a family ranging from preschool to what you'd call junior high
    there is always lots of angry shouting
    the mother just roars and uses the most terrible language (Fs and Cs).at even the littlest kids
    on christmas eve we called the cops because the male sounded like he was going to kill the mother from the banging and crashing we could hear - that male is gone and her mother is around more which seems calming and a happier male voice plays with the kids but there is lots of odd behavour and gang associates and lights on and coming and goings late at night because it wakes me up
    both Gary and I came from quite sheltered backgrounds and we don't do drugs, but this is more than just weed
    i wanted to thin the trees out along the fence but now i want them to thicken up

    i don't like Borris out in the garden listening to anger and words like that but ive seen her fight another cat so i think she knows a few bad words of her own
    i don't mean to put a downer on this thread, but before when i was making lunch the language from next door as the mother had words and threw things with another adult female voice really upset me

    everyone needs to be nicer to everyone
     
    


    


  11. PreRaphaelite
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    by PreRaphaelite » Aug 25, 2019
    Just curious, would PSers delete their Facebook/social profiles if there was not much time left?

    There is a court case where the idea of “the right to be forgotten” was mentioned. It made me wonder.

    I have no children and I’m not close with my family. I will certainly be forgotten, and quickly. But is that such a bad thing? I’ve debated deleting my social media for other reasons...

    Would you prefer to disappear from history?
     
  12. TooPatient
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    by TooPatient » Aug 25, 2019
    I wouldn't delete as I mostly do animal rescue and aviation stuff there. It is also a handy place for photos of concerts and things. DH wouldn't think to delete it and most everyone else probably would barely notice I was gone. The animal rescue people might notice and post goodbyes, but even that I'm not sure of. I'll be forgotten anyway so don't really care what happens to any social media accounts.
     
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    by Matata » Aug 25, 2019
    Good question and one that I hadn't considered until you asked. I have deceased friends and family whose social media accounts weren't closed when they died and some surviving friends and family tend to post remembrances on the deceased's birthday, on holidays, and to mark the date of death. Those accounts are serving as living memorials and some of them are pretty active even though the deaths occurred years ago. It helps the living grieve and remember and it seems that those who still post on those accounts appreciate the ability to do so. I prefer not to be remembered that way and would delete/close my accounts.
     
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    by PreRaphaelite » Aug 26, 2019
    Interesting responses. Sorry for the threadjack, I hadn’t realized.

    Back to the idea at hand, I really liked This:
    That’s a very important idea.
     
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    by luv2sparkle » Aug 26, 2019
    Thank you @Bonfire, I most surely will. I am going to make her a soft minky fabric quilt for the chemo days. I have read that chemo or maybe just the rooms can make you quite chilly. I know she is struggling because her sister died from breast cancer a number of years ago. They have made many strides in treatment since then but it has been on her mind for years. She also has two daughters, both of which are expecting right now, so this has implications for them as well. We have a group of 11 of us know who have been friends since our late 20's. We always come together when one of us has something big going on and I am sure this will be the case here as well. Thank you for your encouragement.
     
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    by Bonfire » Aug 26, 2019
    What a wonderful group of women! You’re all so blessed to have each other. So much strength and love to draw from. I wish you all the very best!
    I’ll be thinking of your friend too, praying for her wellness.

    My apologies to everyone on this thread, sorry to threadjack.
     
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  17. mrs-b
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    by mrs-b » Aug 26, 2019
    That's a lovely idea ,@luv2sparkle.

    'The chemo chair' is a well known horror amongst chemo patients, so anything that makes it more comfortable is a wonderful thing. I have 2 genetic markers for bowel cancer, and apparently these markers have about a 72% cancer rate. I kinda feel as tho a chemo chair may be in my future, and I know for sure that I'd appreciate anything anyone did to make that process less horrible.

    But I suspect she values your friendship most of all, luv2sparkle; you can't put a price on that.
     
  18. luv2sparkle
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    by luv2sparkle » Aug 26, 2019
    Thanks @mrs-b and @Bonfire. After thinking about it I think I will send her little hand made quilted postcards often too. I really appreciate your thoughts and insights. Each of us in our group has something they do, or a talent if you will. My friend, Debby, is an amazing calligrapher and sign painter and she has made me many things that I treasure. I have made her a few things that I am sure she feels the same about. So I will do that in hopes to make her feel loved and supported during these days.

    @mrs-b, I think about you and pray for you often and hope you will never have to go through this again. Although we have not yet met in person, I consider you a friend and cannot think of my other friends who have dealt with this disease without thinking about you too.

    I don't care a whit if I am remembered. I might consider deleting social media but I don't care much about FB or instagram either.

    I don't know if much could be considered on this thread a thread jack. This is definitely a topic that calls for conversation and I appreciate reading every comment.
     
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    by mrs-b » Aug 26, 2019
    @luv2sparkle :kiss2:
     

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