What would you do if a stranger asked.....

[K+D=4]

....."Can I try your ring on?"

My and my girlfriends were at lunch when a passer-by noticed one of their e-rings and had to stop and ooooh and ahh. She is recently engaged and is the most understaded, classic gal I know, so to have someone notice her very important piece of jewelry made me smile! They talked about her stone for a bit and the woman proceeded to ask Kelli if she could try her ring on. Since we were in a tiny bistro that we frequent quite often she allowed this, and the woman proceeded to LEAVE our table and go SIT at hers with her friends. I don''t think she excpected this, so her and I ran over there to ask her ring back. The woman looked shocked that we almost jumped over tables to get to her, and was very aloof about the whole scene and felt the need to tell us we were being very rude about it!!

I didn''t give my girlfriend the "Oh my gosh, she could have stolen your ring yada yada" speech even though I wanted to!! You never know with some people!

Do some of you ladies allow others to try your things on whom you don''t know? I would *never* ask someone to wear a piece of jewelry, let alone an engagement ring!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

never never ever
for this exact reason. The only person I want wearing my ring that my dh picked out for me to symbolize our relationship is ME. What a crazy lady to just walk away like that

 

[BeachRunner]

WOW!

I NEVER take my ring off to show to people, ever. Ok, I let my mother and MIL hold my ring.

 

[elrohwen]

That is just extremely strange!

No, I wouldn't let a stranger try my ring on, ever. I would let a friend try it on if they asked.

 

[LadyBlue]

 

[iheartscience]

I would NEVER let a stranger try on my ring. What if that woman ran out of the restaurant with it? No offense to your friend, but that was a horrible decision on her part.

I let my friends and family try my ring on, but that''s it. And the good thing about having relatively small fingers is that my ring doesn''t fit any of them anyway!

 

[K+D=4]

I am like you ladies and feel that an ering is an extension of our relationship and is very personal. I feel the need to shackle my ring to my wrist after her incident!

I mean, I can totally see allowing family members in the comfort of your own spaces oogle and drool on your beauty, but a strange woman at a deli for Lord''s sake? I don''t want to freak anyone out, for all I know, the lady just wanted to sit and look at her ring, but my waryness in people got the best of me today!

 

[4ever]

I would say "No, I think that would be inappropriate".

I think of them getting their greasy fingerprints all over it,
them deciding to run out the door with it,
them accedently dropping it when they take it off again and damaging the stone or the setting.

 

[upgrade]

Um, no. Period. Just no.

Friends? Sure, go for it, but a stranger? Absolutley not, for so many reasons.

I cannot believe this woman called you rude for asking for the ring back! She was the rude one, first to ask and then to walk away with it.

 

[Laila619]

Wow, crazy!

I''d never let anyone try my ring on. I''m anal about it.

 

[lyra]

To me it's just a material object, but I wouldn't let a stranger try it on. I'm the first one to hand over the goods to family and friends though. I hate my hands...I'd rather let them have an extreme close-up of their own fingers not mine. But I may be alone in that thinking.

 

[that_someone_special]

WOW! I hope she learned her lesson...

I let friends and family try it on (and trust me, they want to A LOT). But even someone I know- but barely? naaaaah... stranger? No. Get away from me just on the basis that you even asked! gaaah.

 

[LilyKat]

Never. I wouldn''t be rude about it though - I''d just smile and say, "Oh, I''m really sentimental, I never take it off my finger!"

 

[bee*]

with friends and family I always let them try it on but I would never ever let a stranger try it on.

 

[jewelz617]

Family or extremely close friends only.

If strangers ask, I just laugh and say "That''s bad luck!"

 

[steph72276]

No way to a stranger!

 

[icekid]

I cannot even believe the audacity of some people.....

 

[Tuckins1]

I would say no.

 

[mayachel]

Wow! I''m shocked for all the same reasons I''m sure you are. So, I have to know, how did the woman respond after your friend asked for it back? Did she apologize? Claim misunderstanding?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 2/10/2010 5:24:16 PM
Author: Tuckins1
I would say no.

this

 

[kenny]

Wow, that woman went WAY beyond rude when she walked back to her table with the ring.
Even just asking. My goodness.

She didn't commit a crime but what she did was REALLY bad.

I'd never hand my ring to a stranger? NEVER!

 

[yssie]

No way!!


I would never, never ask ..


I have no problem family and friends handling my ring (the ones I trust to be careful only!) but I think I'd have issues with them trying it on, honestly, unless one of them had an actual reason (ie was looking for rings herself, wanted to see if the design suited her, etc.).

 

[Bella_mezzo]

um, no.

I also don''t let strangers try on my clothes. What would possess someone to ask to try on a ring that is A valuable and B a personal belonging of a total stranger

very strange! glad nothing untoward happened!

 

[waterlilly]

This story is outrageous.
I find it very hard to believe someone would ask to try a strangers ring on and even more unbelievable they would walk away with it. Finally, impossible to believe that person would then comment that the person who's ring they walked away with was being rude.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I find it more crazy that your friend said yes than what the stranger did.

 

[LabRatPhD]

Date: 2/10/2010 5:58:56 PM
Author: MC
I find it more crazy that your friend said yes than what the stranger did.

Ditto! I get incredibly uncomfortable when people grab my hand to see my ring, let alone taking it off and handing it over to a complete stranger!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/10/2010 5:58:56 PM
Author: MC
I find it more crazy that your friend said yes than what the stranger did.

Ditto, and I''ll go even further and say it was flat out dumb if this story is true.

 

[TooPatient]

Absolutely not.

If they were just curious and asked because they didn''t know better, I''d just say no and ignore it -- go back to my conversation with whoever I''m with.
If their behavior left me feeling nervous, I''d be likely to suggest my friends and I leave. (If alone, I''d STRONGLY consider an escort to my car just to be safe)

 

[waterlilly]

Date: 2/10/2010 5:58:56 PM
Author: MC
I find it more crazy that your friend said yes than what the stranger did.

Agreed!

Who would ever let a total stranger try on their ring??

 

[lulu]

Friends and family - absolutely.

Strangers ? - I might.