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Just got the invitation to my 20th reunion next month, not going to that but I pulled out the yearbook for old times sake.

Good grief, the things people wrote lead me to realize I was an absolute "B" back then. Multiple entries of "we weren't the greatest of friends" or "we may not have gotten along great but...". Yikes! Thankfully most of us grow up with life experience and I can definitely say I am not that girl anymore. Granted I may be 60lbs heavier but at least I'm kinder and don't pride myself in being rough around the edges and a force to be reckoned with anymore.

What were you like back then vs today? Any similarities or have you completely changed?
 
Oddly enough when I was a late teen I was extroverted I had a little black book and was able to hook up teens with high end dates and get them into great social parties which without anything like Tinder or Facebook back then was a commodity. I was probably tipped to grow up to be a Patti Stranger aka the chick that is the Million Dollar Matchmaker.

All of that is probably ironic now because I'm a complete introvert that hates loud parties and crowds of people, and I never set up dates for friends.
 
Arkieb that is so cool, a teenage matchmaker, kind of a neat legacy for someone at that age you know? So funny how we change with age, I've always been introverted but to have such a dramatic change like you is interesting.

Of course with teenagers the stakes aren't as high as setting up adult friends since life is usually much simpler in our teenage years in some ways. Still a very cool story though.
 
Me too! Totally forgettable, introverted, shy, decent student.
Not so much anymore!

Yes, no longer a goodie goodie lol. But still somewhat of a nerd.
 
I was a total b!tch. It’s a miracle I had any friends. I never really got into any trouble or bullied anyone. I just wasn’t kind. My parents were probably afraid they had raised a complete a-hole. :oops: I had a chip on my shoulder and made sure everyone knew that they couldn’t get one over on me.

Now, I’m sweet as pie. :halo:
 
Just got the invitation to my 20th reunion next month, not going to that but I pulled out the yearbook for old times sake.

What were you like back then vs today? Any similarities or have you completely changed?
So young!...:mrgreen2:. 40 yrs younger.
 
At the end of highschool, a friend stopped me on the street to tell me 'Do Not Change !' - a potent curse indeed !
 
Introverted (still am), was painfully shy (no longer) , a total nerd (still am)
 
I was a total b!tch. It’s a miracle I had any friends. I never really got into any trouble or bullied anyone. I just wasn’t kind. My parents were probably afraid they had raised a complete a-hole. :oops: I had a chip on my shoulder and made sure everyone knew that they couldn’t get one over on me.

Now, I’m sweet as pie. :halo:

I could have written this! :lol-2:
 
Great thread Stephanie. I went to my 20th reunion and some of my classmates were people I went to school with from Kindergarten on. It was interesting to hear what classmates remember about you. The one thing I heard a lot from people was I was kind and nice to everyone. Also that I was always happy. One of my girlfriends said she had debated going because she felt she owed people apologies. She looked at me and said aren't you glad you have no idea what that feels like.

I would have described myself as a goodie two shoes and out going. I never wanted to hurt anyone feelings.

I'm only a witch when I talk politics.
 
I was a total nerd and band geek. Could not play sports because parents had no time to pick me up from practice and no one near me to carpool. My farm school was 20+ miles from the house and nearest schoolmate was miles away. Only a few close friends and I was probably a snooty smart person. My best friend's mom taught every math class from Algebra to Statistics, not dummy math though - the football coach taught that. LOL. :rolleyes2: Graduating class was 65 students.

I have less patience now and heavier but isn't most everyone? Still FB friends with most of my classmates.
 
I got a lot of "you're so cool but so weird" comments in my yearbook. I admit, I was for the day, weird. I also had a pretty damn nifty all black wardrobe which I could wear for a month and not wear the same thing twice. Some would say I was goth, which was not a thing back then. Honestly, I wasn't goth....lol I did play sports, I was in band, I was in the honor's club (begrudgingly), I worked. I think for most I was an enigma. I wasn't for sure "normal".

I graduated early, like a whole year early. They had a hard time knowing what to do with me, so for part of my Jr year I went to the local university because my mom said I was too young to graduate. I did graduate my Jr year, which would be my Sr year (and how confusing is that??)

So when I went away to UCB, I was lucky enough to be able to transfer credits.

I've never gone to a class reunion. Likewise with college. For me it was more a means to an end.

Gosh I realize I sound like a square...lol:lol-2:
 
Independent. I had my clique and school activities (varsity sports, clubs) but was also busy doing my own thing (additional coaching, pt, tutoring, volunteering). So I was involved in school but also somewhat removed. I didn't realize this until I went to see a friend's band perform and I kept meeting people who knew me from high school and I didn't know who they were. Acquaintances with whom I later became friends also told me stories of my "cluelessness" back then.

I'd say I haven't changed a whole lot, maybe less inclined to suffer fools, maybe a tad less competitive. I am still friends with my high school friends.
 
I frustrated my teachers. I was smart but didn't try until later in school. Was kind of a punk. Still am.
 
What was I like in HS?
Awkward, insecure, painfully self-conscious, shy, withdrawn, afraid of bullies.
I made myself as invisible as possible.

Not only did I not go the the prom, I didn't even hear about it.
I don't think I even learn what a prom was till well after high school.

Though I was a virgin till my mid-20s, I was gay in HS but I didn't understand what that was or what the hell I was.
I assumed I was the only one in the world who was so defective.
I didn't fit it and didn't even try.
Drunk dad, dysfunctional family.

Never bought class pics or an annual.
Never went to a HS sporting event.

I just didn't want to be there.
I didn't want to be anywhere.
I didn't want to be.

I'd rather peel my skin off than go to a HS reunion.
The only good HS memory I have was science, music, and math classes.

Life got better when I joined the Navy and got away from that family, better still when I got into psychoanalysis.
 
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I was a total bookworm nerd (still am), drama kid (still love theater and musicals), who tried to be nice to everyone. I was physically clumsy, so I never tried out for any sports. I was tied with a handful of other students to be valedictorian, but I was selected for salutatorian before the valedictory try-outs were made, so I gave the salutatory speech at graduation. I went to a relatively small school with a great class; I can honestly say I have positive feelings about pretty much all my classmates, and I think most of my classmates would say something similar.

My friends and I were TOTAL squares. I was actually invited to a few parties by way of the artsy-cool kids, but I never went. At a sleepover once, a friend's mom volunteered to make us margaritas if we gave her our keys because we were all staying the night...every one of us turned her down because we were happy eating Ben & Jerry's and watching movies :lol-2: (Now, college, on the other hand...:loopy:)

High school was idyllic for me after years of bullying in elementary school for being the smart kid. One particular memory is when one of the mean girls drew a "social pyramid" in which she ranked the class. I alone formed the bottom rung...and she somehow got the entire rest of the class to sign the diagram, attesting to its accuracy. I nearly transferred schools a couple times but decided to stick it out. You could not pay me enough to go back to elementary school, and I learned after a quick 2-week stint teaching summer school for that age group that I'm a poor fit because my knee-jerk reaction to mean tweens is to want to verbally eviscerate them on behalf of their victims :x2:saint:
 
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I frustrated my teachers. I was smart but didn't try until later in school. Was kind of a punk. Still am.
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Timid, shy, awkward and chubby in my earlier years. In my later years at HS I found heavy weight lifting, rugby and the bass guitar but was still timid and shy. I didn't really start to find myself and properly be myself around people for at least 18 months after I finished as I didn't exactly have the greatest time. It took me a long time to learn that there are people who will like me for who I was and that I shouldn't have to hide who I am for people to accept me. I still think that I have a residual shyness all these years later though.

My class had their 10 year reunion a couple years back and I made a thread about it here as I wasn't sure whether or not to go.
I didn't.
 
It's hard for me to remember that far back :lol:. I was the youngest in my class (having skipped a few grades) but I remember a few things and I don't think I was very different than I am today. An extroverted introvert. Preferred one on one to large groups. I was on swim team and played first clarinet in the band. I was one of the editor in chiefs of our school newspaper. I was in all of the AP courses and had a small tight knit group of friends. I didn't attend any of the proms (not my thing) and I never did any drugs or drinking in high school. So if I had to classify myself I would say I was a more of a nerd/square and a goody two shoes. I asked a lot of questions that stumped my teachers so maybe also a know it all?

And I often got in trouble for laughing and talking and passing notes in class. Hmmm not much has changed I guess according to my dh. He says I ask questions he has no answers to and that I like to stump him. Hahaha I swear that isn't the reason. I just have a thirst for knowledge and I have a lot of questions.:lol:

I think I was a good kid though generally. And most people liked me. And yes I wore lots of black too Arcadian. It's still my favorite color to wear though I don't wear it as often these days. :cool2:
 
1000 bonus points to Dancing Fire for sharing a pic :mrgreen2:

Anyone else comfortable enough to share their yearbook or a high school picture?

This is mine, makes me cringe to be honest but there it is. Our school was extremely preppy in case you couldn't tell!

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I was a rebel, argumentative, hated management (nuns, priests), anti Viet Nam war, I was part of the outcasts, no rah rah. Haven't changed one bit (except the 50lbs I have now). I was always in trouble with some teacher. Was told I was 'not living up to my potential' "You are smart why not get better grades' :) etc etc etc. Dated older guys, never from my high school as they were preppy. I had tons of fun. Still besties with my best friends from high school. I consider myself lucky.
 
@Tekate , We were exact opposite in high school personality wise with the exception of being very upset about the war and asking lots of question in classes about it. We probably wouldn't have been besties in High School but Kate I love and admire you so much. I hope you are doing as well as can be expected this week. I've been thinking of you a lot this week.

@Stephanie , You were a cutie why on earth would you not like that picture??? Wish I knew you I real life. I would tell you all the wonderful things you need to love about yourself.... there are many Steph!
 
Thanks Callie, not totally hating on my picture but goodness I was a dreadful personality, just being honest. I like myself a whole lot better now. Maybe we will meet up at a PS function someday. It would be so great to put actual faces to names!
 
At 17 I really liked people. I had friends - not heaps, but good quality friendships and was well liked. I went to a girls high school and always thought outside the box. I tried not to - but just couldn't quite fit IN the box. I had what other people called a girlfriend (yes, that kind of girlfriend) for my junior and senior year and a succession of boyfriends during this time, which I didn't find at all contradictory, since the tenor of the relationships was so totally different to me. I was elected senior prefect in my senior year, but was blackballed by the principal due to said girlfriend. I was leader of the school Christian fellowship - which had roughly 120 members - so, a big group in the school. I cut lots of classes - LOTS. Like - in a 40 period school week - well over 20 per week in my junior year and around half that in my senior year. If I didn't just go home, I would go and sit out the front of the principal's office because - if you sat there - people thought you were already caught and nobody would report you. My biology teacher would pass me at lunchtime and ask me if I was going to class. I pretty much always said no. I dropped bio before my senior year, needless to say.

As sometimes happens in girls schools, I used to have a bunch of girls from younger years who would follow me around. It was flattering but mostly it made me uncomfortable. I remember walking into classrooms and finding my name written in large, swirly handwriting across the black board. It happened more than once, and to this day I'm not totally sure who did it. Girls high schools are hotbeds of estrogen and emotion.

Mostly I was bored. Incredibly, incredibly bored. I was all about relationships and school was just a big snooze. I remember the principal calling me into her office and warning me that I would never get into university doing what I was doing (both my parents were professionals, so this would have made HUGE waves in our household). University admission at that time was based almost totally on our final exams. Since I didn't really go to class, I think the school wondered if I actually KNEW anything. I remember thinking "Relax, lady, I've got this."

When I left school, I was accepted into a double degree in psych/law. I ended up doing three more degrees after that.

I don't go to reunions - mostly because I now live on the other side of the world to where I went to high school - but I've kept in touch with a few friends, and I value their friendships. The girlfriend and I worked out we were both heterosexual, we both married, our husbands became friends, and her husband ended up being a groomsman at our wedding. He's a psychologist also, so our early relationship made complete 'developmental sense' to him. I wish it had to my parents, who were utterly freaked out by whoever it was I might be at that age.

Here's a photo of me at 17. I was a total beach chick. And I thought I was really fat.


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I was kind of a nerd, and was in the "misfit" clique.
We quoted Shakespeare, and liked punk music.

Then I advanced to my wilder stage of boys and partying.
But I still quote Shakespeare, and still like punk music.:loopy:
 
@Calliecake you are tooo nice to me. Thank you so much for your kind words Callie. I made it thru yesterday and my niece is doing well I talked to her today, my brother-in-law is well and my nephew is good. I worry. I hold you in my heart. High school sucked Callie. An aside: I am on the planning committee for the big 50th coming up in a few years. (if I make it!). Anyway, as we contact people I keep hearing about 'the clique' that I was in. Well of course I got together with the 'clique' none of us EVER thought we were a clique, we thought we were the 'outcasts' hah! The quiet people find each other, the idiots find each other, and the outcasts find each other. High school is a horrible time and I would never go back.

My love you Callie, I am humbled. ((((Callie))))


@Tekate , We were exact opposite in high school personality wise with the exception of being very upset about the war and asking lots of question in classes about it. We probably wouldn't have been besties in High School but Kate I love and admire you so much. I hope you are doing as well as can be expected this week. I've been thinking of you a lot this week.

@Stephanie , You were a cutie why on earth would you not like that picture??? Wish I knew you I real life. I would tell you all the wonderful things you need to love about yourself.... there are many Steph!
 
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