What to do when you have completely different ering tastes?

[diamondfan]

most other things are not forever. people get new cars and new tv''s. Some get new rings but not many. I think it is likely he did buy it, or why get so upset? It is simply a matter of your taste, and it is supposed to be for you. I get him not wanting to get you something he hates but surely there is a compromise to be had.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I agree that you and your FF need to cool off a bit and then come to a nice compromise.

Yes, you are the one that has to wear this ring for the rest of your life, but he is the one that is presenting it as a gift to you when he proposes marriage. This ring is important to you both so it should be loved by you both.

I am sure that it will all work out and you will find the perfect ring!

 

[Halo]

CharmyPoo: He knows what I like as far as other jewelery pieces, but when it comes to rings, he said himself that he "obviously had no idea". He said he was glad that he caught me looking online (on Pricescope of course at rings because he said he would never have picked out what I like on his own. He knows me very well, but when it comes to most things I''m extremely picky and I tend to be a love it or hate it kind of person and for some reason with rings, especially engagement rings, I''m extremely particular. Oh well, we''ll see what happens.

mrssalvo: Thanks for the tip, I''ll look into it

diamondfan: Yes, when he told me he had been in stores looking at rings I was so surprised! He said "Well, that was the intention". We looked online at some rings together once I found out he had been looking and he asked if I liked any of the rings from the store he had been to. The only ones I truly liked were the halo ones, and the ones I said I hated he seemed quite surprised about. He didn''t seem to understand why they were so unattractive or that they would never look right on me. At least he knew what metal I''d like, and he got the round brilliant right, but the rest needs some tweaking

blondebunny: Knowing him he may feel like I got a halo RHR because I wasn''t satisfied with my ering, so I''d be hesitant to do so. I''m leaning towards just giving up on a halo if he dislikes it so much. I wouldn''t feel good knowing that he hates my ering

Fly Girl: Yes, we just talked and we''re going to go shopping together. We''ll see how it goes, I''ve never been ring shopping before

LtlFirecracker: I definitely want to try on some Ritani styles, but they don''t have any stores that carry Ritani in my province. I may go to the States and find a Ritani store there, although my BF and I don''t actually like the side view of the Ritani Bella Vita so I''d be open to having a similar ring custom made from Whiteflash. But yes, my BF and I will need to go ring shopping to see what we actually like in person and on me.

thing2of2 & diamondfan: No, I really don''t think he''s purchased a ring yet. He''s only been out looking a couple of times from what I gather, and I know his finances (he has no extra money as he has been putting it towards bills). I don''t see how he can afford to get a ring until those bills are taken care of.

 

[Halo]

Diamond*Dana: I agree that I want him to love my ering as much as I do; I want us to both be happy with whatever choice he makes. I guess it just saddens me that he thinks halos look costume-y, but oh well. Maybe I can change his mind when he sees some halos on me, or maybe not. But either way we''ll have to find a ring we both like.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 10/1/2008 1:11:04 AM
Author: Halo
blondebunny: Knowing him he may feel like I got a halo RHR because I wasn''t satisfied with my ering, so I''d be hesitant to do so. I''m leaning towards just giving up on a halo if he dislikes it so much. I wouldn''t feel good knowing that he hates my ering

Well you wouldn''t be satisfied with your e-ring if it isn''t a halo because that''s your favorite, right? So why would you also deprive yourself of a RHR in the style you truly love if he won''t get you the ring you love for your e-ring? Kind of strange logic...

 

[glitterata]

If my husband gave me an engagement ring that he knew I found ugly, I just wouldn''t wear it. I would leave it in its box and wear my wedding band by itself. If he asked why I wasn''t wearing my engagement ring, I would tell him the truth.

But this would never, ever happen with me and my husband, because he cares about my taste and would never give me a ring he knew I found ugly, no matter how much he loved it himself.

It works the other way around, too, though. I would never expect him to give me a ring he found ugly, just because I liked it. He would have to see it on my finger every day.

So I certainly don''t think you should have to wear that ugly channel-set ring just because he likes it! On the other hand, it doesn''t seem quite reasonable of you to insist on a halo if he hates haloes. Surely there''s SOMETHING you guys can compromise on--some ring that might not be the first choice of either of you, but one neither of you thinks is ugly. Keep looking until you find something you both can live with.

Or you could skip the engagement ring altogether. There''s no law saying you need an engagement ring to get married.

 

[bgray]

My two cents: what kind of guy is that affected by a ring design that he could actually say he "hates" halos? I mean guys typically (expecially a guy who liked what you showed us at the beginning of all this) arent that into the design and style. Some yes but mostly if they are into it its because they have a vision or they are trying to fulfill some wish of the womans................... I just think its odd he says he "hates" halos....................I mean women may love or hate a ring style but men usually are more like its okay or ehhh or yeah its pretty. It just seems so personal to him (the rejection of that first ring). Wonder if he had it on hold or bought it or found a great deal on it................)

 

[Cleopatra]

Hi Halo

Just wanted to add my two cents here - My DH (FF at the time) and I were talking about getting engaged - I mentioned to him that I liked halo rings - and he had that SAME reaction as your FF. He thought they looked cheap or too costume-y, but his prime reason for not liking them is that he felt that they aren''t as "classic" as a solitaire - he told me that when he thought of an engagement ring, he thought of his mother''s and his grandmother''s rings, and a solitaire just screamed "ENGAGEMENT RING!!" to him....I know that sounds cheesy - but your guy may be influenced by what he "perceives" an engagement ring SHOULD be. My guy sure was. I think halo rings are a very new thing - yes, they are vintage, but their popularity has grown wildly in the past few years, so the idea of a halo ring might be too "new" for him. He might find them to be a fad that you will eventually grow out of - something my guy once told me.

After looking around for a while, I found that a halo style wasn''t for me (despite how much I adore them) and we went with a solitaire with a pave band - a compromise for us both - and I''m in love with my ring as much as my dear husband.

Good luck! I hope you two can come to a compromise/agreement! Maybe SHOW him how classic a halo ring can be - find vintage halo rings, show him PS! Men always learn by seeing it in pictures....hehe

 

[HariSeldon]

Date: 9/30/2008 8:24:59 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 9/30/2008 8:08:45 PM
Author: HariSeldon
When a male penguin is sweet on a female, he searches the entire beach to find the perfect pebble to present to her. When he finally finds it, he waddles over and presents the stone by placing it at her feet. If she accepts, they''ll be life-long mates.


i''m a big believer in that the guy should pick out the ring without the future fiancee looking over his shoulder. some might consider it old fashioned but isnt this whole marriage thing just an old tradition anyway?


honestly when i hear someone get all picky about a meaningful gift and symbol that someone poured their heart and soul into only to be rebuked with ''this isnt at all what i wanted'', all i hear is that person being more concerned with what that gift means to them than to each other. its not just a gift to receive but a symbol of your lives together. why should that reflect only one side?

It''s very sweet that you feel that way, but at the same time would you want to let your fiance/wife pick out the only golf clubs, car, computer, (insert expensive hobby item here) you will use for the rest of your life, especially considering that she probably has no idea how to pick the ''right'' one of those items for you? That''s the way women think about their engagement rings.

are you seriously trying to equate an engagement ring to golf clubs? wow how materialistic can you get...

if my FF picked out a car or computer or golf clubs as a symbol of our relationship and our life together and she didnt pick the ''right'' one, I certainly wouldnt throw it back in her face uncaringly and say I want ''this'' instead. To me its what the gift symbolizes thats most important... but then again neither of myself or my FF use the things we own as a measure of our happiness or self worth.

 

[beaujolais]

So agree.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 10/1/2008 9:41:41 AM
Author: HariSeldon

Date: 9/30/2008 8:24:59 PM

Author: neatfreak

Date: 9/30/2008 8:08:45 PM

Author: HariSeldon

When a male penguin is sweet on a female, he searches the entire beach to find the perfect pebble to present to her. When he finally finds it, he waddles over and presents the stone by placing it at her feet. If she accepts, they'll be life-long mates.



i'm a big believer in that the guy should pick out the ring without the future fiancee looking over his shoulder. some might consider it old fashioned but isnt this whole marriage thing just an old tradition anyway?



honestly when i hear someone get all picky about a meaningful gift and symbol that someone poured their heart and soul into only to be rebuked with 'this isnt at all what i wanted', all i hear is that person being more concerned with what that gift means to them than to each other. its not just a gift to receive but a symbol of your lives together. why should that reflect only one side?

It's very sweet that you feel that way, but at the same time would you want to let your fiance/wife pick out the only golf clubs, car, computer, (insert expensive hobby item here) you will use for the rest of your life, especially considering that she probably has no idea how to pick the 'right' one of those items for you? That's the way women think about their engagement rings.

are you seriously trying to equate an engagement ring to golf clubs? wow how materialistic can you get...



if my FF picked out a car or computer or golf clubs as a symbol of our relationship and our life together and she didnt pick the 'right' one, I certainly wouldnt throw it back in her face uncaringly and say I want 'this' instead. To me its what the gift symbolizes thats most important... but then again neither of myself or my FF use the things we own as a measure of our happiness or self worth.

Seriously here? You are calling me materialistic because I think that a ring is a material good? I hate to break it to you, but that's just what it is.

I don't know about you but my marriage is a partnership and we make decisions about things together. Especially large purchases. Which is exactly what an engagement ring is.

I would have happily married my husband without any ring at all. BUT you know what I wouldn't have been happy with? Him spending thousands of dollars of **OUR** money (which is what it was, we already lived together) on something that I didn't really like. I didn't tell him what to buy me, but we looked together and he knew what I liked. Same thing when I bought him an engagement present. We bought it together.

There's a big difference between what I am telling the OP, which is TALK TO HIM, and throwing a ring back in his face ya know? If it hasn't been bought yet there is no harm in talking about it, which last time I checked is what a good relationship is based on, communication.

 

[motownmama]

.... this is an emotionally charged topic. I would go shopping and show him 2 or 3 styles you like - then direct him to WhiteFlash to get the biggest bang for the buck and surprise you, which does seem important to him. I agree that you''ve got a lifetime ahead for RHR''s of YOUR choosing. I think some of these compromise rings that other people posted are LOVELY - maybe just print those out (if your like any) and hand it to him to do the rest. My DH did the whole surprise thing, which was very important to him - a very speccial memory.

 

[HariSeldon]

Date: 10/1/2008 9:48:19 AM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 10/1/2008 9:41:41 AM
Author: HariSeldon

Date: 9/30/2008 8:24:59 PM

Author: neatfreak

Date: 9/30/2008 8:08:45 PM

Author: HariSeldon

When a male penguin is sweet on a female, he searches the entire beach to find the perfect pebble to present to her. When he finally finds it, he waddles over and presents the stone by placing it at her feet. If she accepts, they''ll be life-long mates.



i''m a big believer in that the guy should pick out the ring without the future fiancee looking over his shoulder. some might consider it old fashioned but isnt this whole marriage thing just an old tradition anyway?



honestly when i hear someone get all picky about a meaningful gift and symbol that someone poured their heart and soul into only to be rebuked with ''this isnt at all what i wanted'', all i hear is that person being more concerned with what that gift means to them than to each other. its not just a gift to receive but a symbol of your lives together. why should that reflect only one side?

It''s very sweet that you feel that way, but at the same time would you want to let your fiance/wife pick out the only golf clubs, car, computer, (insert expensive hobby item here) you will use for the rest of your life, especially considering that she probably has no idea how to pick the ''right'' one of those items for you? That''s the way women think about their engagement rings.

are you seriously trying to equate an engagement ring to golf clubs? wow how materialistic can you get...



if my FF picked out a car or computer or golf clubs as a symbol of our relationship and our life together and she didnt pick the ''right'' one, I certainly wouldnt throw it back in her face uncaringly and say I want ''this'' instead. To me its what the gift symbolizes thats most important... but then again neither of myself or my FF use the things we own as a measure of our happiness or self worth.

Seriously here? You are calling me materialistic because I think that a ring is a material good? I hate to break it to you, but that''s just what it is.

I don''t know about you but my marriage is a partnership and we make decisions about things together. Especially large purchases. Which is exactly what an engagement ring is.

I would have happily married my husband without any ring at all. BUT you know what I wouldn''t have been happy with? Him spending thousands of dollars of **OUR** money (which is what it was, we already lived together) on something that I didn''t really like. I didn''t tell him what to buy me, but we looked together and he knew what I liked. Same thing when I bought him an engagement present. We bought it together.

There''s a big difference between what I am telling the OP, which is TALK TO HIM, and throwing a ring back in his face ya know? If it hasn''t been bought yet there is no harm in talking about it, which last time I checked is what a good relationship is based on, communication.

yes i am because you are. an engagement ring isnt just a ring. im saddend that you think that way. its a beautiful symbol that deserves more meaning than some common material good.

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 10/1/2008 7:42:59 AM
Author: bgray
My two cents: what kind of guy is that affected by a ring design that he could actually say he ''hates'' halos? I mean guys typically (expecially a guy who liked what you showed us at the beginning of all this) arent that into the design and style. Some yes but mostly if they are into it its because they have a vision or they are trying to fulfill some wish of the womans................... I just think its odd he says he ''hates'' halos....................I mean women may love or hate a ring style but men usually are more like its okay or ehhh or yeah its pretty. It just seems so personal to him (the rejection of that first ring). Wonder if he had it on hold or bought it or found a great deal on it................)

This was my first instinct about what had transpired behind the scenes!!!! Maybe boyfriend thought it was 100% his choice and had already enjoyed what he thought was a very productive purchase????

Anyway, hope the couple involved sort it out to their mutual satisfaction as its a shame that this would be cause for any negativity!!!!

 

[Cleopatra]

This is getting off topic - but I would like to say that I believe that an engagement ring is just a symbol - and that''s it. I feel as though my engagement ring represents so much more than IT could ever be.

Therefore, I have a connection to my ring, because I love it - but I love who GAVE it to me much much more. If I lost my ring, I would be sad, but life will go on, therefore, I respectfully disagree with Hari, because I feel as though there is way too much emphasis given to the RING...

Marriage is about much more than that.

But - if I had to wear it everyday, I would expect my future husband to compromise with me - it''s our money that he''s spending , therefore, we should both be happy with it.

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 10/1/2008 9:48:19 AM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 10/1/2008 9:41:41 AM
Author: HariSeldon

Date: 9/30/2008 8:24:59 PM

Author: neatfreak

Date: 9/30/2008 8:08:45 PM

Author: HariSeldon

When a male penguin is sweet on a female, he searches the entire beach to find the perfect pebble to present to her. When he finally finds it, he waddles over and presents the stone by placing it at her feet. If she accepts, they''ll be life-long mates.



i''m a big believer in that the guy should pick out the ring without the future fiancee looking over his shoulder. some might consider it old fashioned but isnt this whole marriage thing just an old tradition anyway?



honestly when i hear someone get all picky about a meaningful gift and symbol that someone poured their heart and soul into only to be rebuked with ''this isnt at all what i wanted'', all i hear is that person being more concerned with what that gift means to them than to each other. its not just a gift to receive but a symbol of your lives together. why should that reflect only one side?

It''s very sweet that you feel that way, but at the same time would you want to let your fiance/wife pick out the only golf clubs, car, computer, (insert expensive hobby item here) you will use for the rest of your life, especially considering that she probably has no idea how to pick the ''right'' one of those items for you? That''s the way women think about their engagement rings.

are you seriously trying to equate an engagement ring to golf clubs? wow how materialistic can you get...



if my FF picked out a car or computer or golf clubs as a symbol of our relationship and our life together and she didnt pick the ''right'' one, I certainly wouldnt throw it back in her face uncaringly and say I want ''this'' instead. To me its what the gift symbolizes thats most important... but then again neither of myself or my FF use the things we own as a measure of our happiness or self worth.

Seriously here? You are calling me materialistic because I think that a ring is a material good? I hate to break it to you, but that''s just what it is.

I don''t know about you but my marriage is a partnership and we make decisions about things together. Especially large purchases. Which is exactly what an engagement ring is.

I would have happily married my husband without any ring at all. BUT you know what I wouldn''t have been happy with? Him spending thousands of dollars of **OUR** money (which is what it was, we already lived together) on something that I didn''t really like. I didn''t tell him what to buy me, but we looked together and he knew what I liked. Same thing when I bought him an engagement present. We bought it together.

There''s a big difference between what I am telling the OP, which is TALK TO HIM, and throwing a ring back in his face ya know? If it hasn''t been bought yet there is no harm in talking about it, which last time I checked is what a good relationship is based on, communication.

I soooo agree. The ring is just a consumer good that costs alot of money. You can get engaged without it as many of my friends did so its not a prerequisite or anything. And so, the wearer should definately be very happy with the design, at least from the outset!!!!!! My husband owned 6 jewellery shops when we got engaged and I got to choose what I wanted which was made up for me after I decided the design. I still have the ring today but it is just a ring to me. Neither of us has ever given any piece of jewellery a special emotional value or meaning that somehow results in the recipient having no input or say!!!!!

And to further my point the er is not a `gift` as it most often must be returned by law if the marriage does not go ahead!!!!!!! Rather than a gift it is mearly a symbol of the contract between the couple to get married. Surely in this day and age you dont try and force your partner to wear a ring not of their liking!!!!!

 

[CharmyPoo]

My boyfriend also hates halos. Everytime I showed him one, his response was no.

The good thing is that while I do like halos - I am not keen on one for my e-ring. I do have halos on RHRs.

 

[Halo]

Cleopatra: Actually, we are leaning towards a pave band (I''m trying to steer him away from channel-sets) with a solitare. He insists on having diamonds on the band so I suppose I can''t complain with that, plus that''s what I like too, so that''s one decision down. We''re looking at pave bands with round brilliant solitares.

motownmama: We''re going to go shopping and I will try on halos so he can see them and channel-set settings like the one he chose so he can see how they just won''t work on my hand or for my frame. I really want to get the diamond from WF and also have them custom make the ring, but I''m not sure that he feels totally comfortable with purchasing the ring online. I will just have to tell him all about WF and their excellent work and that he would save a lot by going through them, rather than the store where the ring he likes is from. I happen to know that that store overcharges on diamonds and doesn''t provide GIA certs because their in-house GIA "experts" have evaluated the stones and therefore they say we don''t "need" a cert. What a bunch of hooey. Anyhow, I will explain to him the downside of such store and that he can get more for less and of better quality from WF. But we still have to go shopping so I will definitely print off some designs to bring with me

 

[VVFF]

Date: 10/1/2008 12:10:25 PM
Author: Halo
Cleopatra: Actually, we are leaning towards a pave band (I''m trying to steer him away from channel-sets) with a solitare. He insists on having diamonds on the band so I suppose I can''t complain with that, plus that''s what I like too, so that''s one decision down. We''re looking at pave bands with round brilliant solitares.

motownmama: We''re going to go shopping and I will try on halos so he can see them and channel-set settings like the one he chose so he can see how they just won''t work on my hand or for my frame. I really want to get the diamond from WF and also have them custom make the ring, but I''m not sure that he feels totally comfortable with purchasing the ring online. I will just have to tell him all about WF and their excellent work and that he would save a lot by going through them, rather than the store where the ring he likes is from. I happen to know that that store overcharges on diamonds and doesn''t provide GIA certs because their in-house GIA ''experts'' have evaluated the stones and therefore they say we don''t ''need'' a cert. What a bunch of hooey. Anyhow, I will explain to him the downside of such store and that he can get more for less and of better quality from WF. But we still have to go shopping so I will definitely print off some designs to bring with me

Go in with that attitude and your setting yourself up for another argument. When you go shopping for rings it should be about respectfully considering the options both of you like. There are channel set rings that I guarantee would look good on most any finger. You just have an opinion about what ring you like and that''s why you think the others "won''t work".

Keep and open mind and try on some of the compromise rings I pointed out earlier. Pave set but perhaps with some details such as the sleek line pave that would give it a slightly more contemporary look.

Just at least give the rings he likes some time. Just as you want him to give your designs a chance. I think the one he picked out earlier would look good if the accent stones accomadated a much large portion of the channel. This is about forming a decision together and he will get defensive if you go into it telling him "Look, I''ll show you your design can''t look good on me".

 

[dreaming of the day]

I have to agree with everyone that said the woman should have some say. It would be different if it came as a complete surprise (which is more unlikely these days), but if you have talked about rings/engagement it is just rude not to take your tastes into consideration. I know when I started looking at settings my BF would just say "if that''s what you like than its great", well I eventually changed my mind a little, and when I showed him "the one" he said "finally, now this is really nice - I love it". I thought it was so cute that even though he didn''t really love the original type of setting I was looking at, he never said a word to interupt my happy fantasy. Now that I know the setting I love, is the setting he loves too - it feels amazing. He understood that its about what I want to wear for the rest of my life, just like when we get wedding bands - I will love whatever he chooses and what he will have enjoyment wearing, as he is the one wearing it.

Marriage is an old tradition, but traditions can still be traditions even when you modernize them a bit.

 

[beaujolais]

---- Well, I do not wish to be snarky but I much prefer what you like, it is lovely and modern yet classic. His is dated and was never my taste. To each his own, things sell clearly because there is a demand for them, but still, it is certainly not my taste. I think it should be more about what YOU want, -----



Sorry but my prior post did not insert the above quote from another poster, as above. I totally agree with the above. "guywithring"''s ring is gorgeous. How about that one, as you like it also.

Best wishes.

 

[sklingem]

Ah, the old debate ... how much should both partners get involved. Never ceases to create strong opinions. I think that in this case a compromise really is the best solution and shopping together will hopefully clarify things. Now for those who advocate that the woman should not be involved at all: I think that you can certainly do it if (a) you know important preferences that she has (shape, metal, etc.); (b) you have the knowledge and expertise to make the decision and (most importantly) (c) if you are willing to change the ring if she does not like it in the end! The latter, IMHO is the "price" to pay for wanting to do it on your own and keep the element of surprise - which is something that I personally have chosen to do. Is it worth the risk/money to me? Absolutely, especially because I love investing my time, energy and creativity in the process. But that only works if you have a partner who will be honest with you - even if you don't want to hear it.

 

[amyjokerette]

I believe someone said earlier that the true meaning is that he loves you and you obviously know that. That being said... I really think that the old fashioned tradition of the man picking out the e-ring isnt always the way is has to be anymore. Everything for the rest of your life is going to be a partner-decision, why should this be any different.

My husband and I wanted to find a ring we both loved, but I also knew he wanted to surprise me. We went to the store that had 1000''s of settings, not the just the standard ones you see at the mall stores. There were settings of all different varieties. I picked my top 5 settings. The sales person marked them all. Then my husband went back and picked his favorite from those 5. I was surprised and giddy to see which he had chosen for me, and it made the waiting for him to propose fun, because I wasn''t worried!!

 

[jstarfireb]

I'm a little late to this debate, but I usually join in when this comes up in order to add my perspective, which I think is in the minority. I (the girl) controlled 100% of the ring design process. We picked the stone out together. It all started when we were at Costco looking at rings together; we had been talking about getting engaged, and I saw my dream ring at Costco, so he bought it right then and there. Then we decided to return it and have WF replicate the design. He would have chosen something different (probably a plain round brilliant solitaire; I have a princess cut solitaire with surprise princess cut diamonds). His choice would have been pretty, but I'm sure I wouldn't have loved whatever he choose for me as much as what I picked out myself. And it's extra special because it reminds me of how much he respects me...enough to give me the freedom to choose whatever I wanted. Luckily enough, he liked the design too. The point is that picking out a ring together or designing it myself was no less special than making it a surprise. And since you two seem to have already talked about engagement rings, I think there's really no reason for him not to consider your preferences.

That said, it's his money, and quite a bit of it. I would feel terrible forcing him into buying something that he hates, almost as much as I wouldn't want to be forced into accepting a ring that I hate. I agree with the suggestion to try to find a compromise, such as a fine pave shank without a halo, or maybe a split shank with pave.

FWIW, my guy happens to dislike halos as well. Not sure what it is with guys not liking halos...

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I feel like there is no greater expression of love (related to the engaegment ring) than for the man to want to give her what SHE would love the most. I think his preferences should be limited to the budget. Just as I think the man should choose the style ring he likes best. I think it illustrates selfishness for the guy to want to make the choice not really caring what she loves. We see both on this forum.

 

[swingirl]

As an artist I knew my ering was going to be more that a symbol, it was going to be an item that I loved the look of. Honestly I didn''t trust my husband''s taste so early on I mentioned that I was very particular about how an ering was designed and executed and it had nothing to do with cost. It also was really important for it to be comfortable on my finger and when I started trying on rings I realized what looks nice isn''t always comfortable to wear. Plus, there were some real trendy styles and I was afraid he''d go there.

I hope you are able to convince your finace that looking at something everyday and wearing something on your body deserves your input. I am guessing he has made some commitment to the setting he likes or is being influenced somehow about it. Halos were very popular in the 1920s so it''s hard to say they are not classic. It''s possible he has seen the prices of halos and is assuming they are expensive or has seen some cheesy halos that turned him off.

Hopefully you will work this out. It seems from reading PS posts many change ladies their mind after trying on a lot of settings and looking in Show Me the Ring threads. I have drooled over settings that I initially thought I would have disliked. One''s taste can change over time.

 

[mommy2iz]

wow - it''s getting hot in here!
i wanted to wish you happy wishes as you find, create, and purchase the ring of your dreams! i love the ritani you choose as your inspiration piece....it''s beautiful. and i think you have every right to tell your bf/fiance that his taste is not your taste. i sense that this likely felt like rejection to him, and we all know what that means.
10 yrs ago, my husband proposed with a ring i did not like. i wore it until i couldn''t anymore. every time i looked at it,i was reminded of how much i didn''t like it. it wasn''t my taste, and i couldn''t stand to put it on after several years. we just upgraded and purchased a new ring that we both love. this ring literally brings a smile to my face every time i catch a glimpse of it. it''s so nice to have happy reminders of our relationship! my point - get a ring you love, and don''t settle for anything less! you both deserve a life-time of happy reminders of the love you share that has brought you to this point. best of luck to you!!!!