What to do before starting a family?

[BrightSpot]

Hi all,

I''ve been lurking on the pregnancy & TTC threads for a while now, but finally gathered the courage to post. I''ve been enjoying reading about your journeys to motherhood & I''ve been thinkinking of taking the trip myself. DH is probably more ready than I am. It''s not super urgent that we get cracking right away, but we don''t have an infinite amount of time to play with either. (I''m 32 now, will turn 33 in May, DH is 35.) Our 2nd anniversary is at the end of April & we''ve been talking about starting to TTC around this time. Sometimes the prospect of a family is really exciting, but sometimes it''s downright scary. I''m pretty resistant to change.

So, here are my questions to all of you:

1. How did you know when you were ready to have kids?

2. What did you do (or wish you''d done or plan to do) before TTC''ing/having kids. I''d love to hear about any preparations you made (physical, emotional, etc.) Personally, I''d like to travel a bit beforehand as I haven''t been to Europe yet.

Thanks for your thoughts!

 

[Sha]

Interesting question. I dont'' have any answers as I am pretty much in the same boat as you....we should be trying in about 6 -8 months, but looking forward to the responses!

ETA- For me though, I am trying to get back in shape. I want to eat healthier and tone up before getting pregnant. I also started taking folic acid regularly.

Another thing we plan to do is take a major vacation before TTC. I''m doing some studies and am trying to finish that as well.

 

[AmberWaves]

Hey Brightspot! We''re slightly in the same boat as you, but we''ve only been married for about 2 months! I''ve just turned 28, he''ll be 29 in February, and I''ve found that lately my baby-creating urges are getting stronger and stronger, and sometimes I just ache with wanting to have a little one (good thing I was a nanny and know both sides of babies- good and bad). Then I think about our one bedroom apartment. And the fact that we''ll most likely not have a house any time soon. Although we''re great money savers, that still doesn''t enable us to buy a house in the next two years. We''ve semi decided to start TTC after July, since that''s when my BC prescription runs out, but I''m a little scared.

It''s funny because I''m not scared about the pregnancy, the labor, finding schools for our children or daycare, I''m just worried about our homelife. We''ve been in this apartment for years, so it''s not as though we''re nomadic.

I always wanted to have a house for our child. I dunno, that''s just the only thing that depresses me. I don''t want to travel or sow any oats prior to conceiving, I just want to be comfortable where we are. Does that make sense?

I ramble, don''t I?

 

[Jas12]

For me, I always knew I wanted to have kids someday--that has never been a question in my mind--the timing however seemed to be the big thing. I wanted all my ''stuff in order'' -- and well, that didn''t happen...
I wanted to complete my masters--didn''t happen once i started working full time
I wanted a good chunk of extra savings--didn''t happen once the wedding planning process began
I wanted to move to a larger home with a better location--we looked and looked but nothing so far
I wanted my dream job--just lucky to have one at all, so I am staying put for now
So we asked ourselves do we wait to have kids when it could be years and years before this may happen, if it happens at all!?!?

What we realized is that it''s never perfect timing and that I can still do things once baby arrives--life doesn''t end, i am just assuming it will be differently focused and extra challenging. For example--you mention traveling. I am an avid traveller and have been across the globe--I was/still am worried that I would have to let this part of me go once kids arrived. Sure, I''ll have less money/desire to stray from home once baby arrives (or so ppl tell me) but just this week I booked baby on a european adventure that will take him/her to 4 countries when he/she is only 6 months old. We just have to make it happen and see where life takes us.

Also, I ''tested'' myself emotionally when deciding to go for it and ''try'' for kids. I thought to myself "if i go off BC this month and get a positive result next month (which is what happened!), how will I feel" ? when that thought ellicited a nervous excitement, instead of nervous panic, I knew it was time.

 

[KimberlyH]

We''ve been married a year and a few months and are not ready to decide whether or not we want a child let alone when. The things I want/need to do before we would even consider trying to conceive are finish my master''s program and get my teaching credential squared away. And I think I''ll want to spend one more school year working before having a baby (I''d be okay with being pregnant during that year). As a couple we''ll need to be financially secure enough that I can stay home for several years; since DH is the breadwinner in this household that one falls on his shoulders, poor guy! It''s a good thing he''s all for my staying home if we have a child. If we didn''t own our home that would be on the list too. There are a slew of places that I can''t wait to get to, but traveling isn''t on my list as I would have no problem leaving our child with my parents so that we could travel as it is one of our favorite things to do.

 

[TravelingGal]

ready schmedy. I sure ain''t, and I got one baking.

I like the whole "throw caution to the wind idea." So how about getting off BC, boarding a plane to Europe, and romancing yourselves all over the place over there?

 

[curlygirl]

Date: 1/11/2008 12:19:59 PM
Author: TravelingGal
ready schmedy. I sure ain''t, and I got one baking.

I like the whole ''throw caution to the wind idea.'' So how about getting off BC, boarding a plane to Europe, and romancing yourselves all over the place over there?

Amen, sister!!! If you wait till you''re "ready", you''ll never be ready!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Hi,

I have two boys, both were planned and DH and I wanted them close together in age (which they are - they're 22 months apart). One of my friends in her 30s decided to have a baby and suddenly the baby bug hit me and we decided to go for it. I was 27 at the time, worked PT and planned to be a stay-at-home-mom after my kids were born.

There was no set "ready" point as I do not think a person can ever be entirely ready. We all have things we want to do in life and regardless of when a couple decides to have kids, you'll always have something or other to put on hold.

Financially, we were not entirely stable, but it didn't matter. At my baby shower we got just about everything we needed and soon after my son was born, my husband started working on creating a business and we were on our way to making what we needed to have a second child! (we also were renting when my first was born and purchased our first home when he was a year old.)

The two main things I did to prepare was research and get the best health insurance I could to make sure my birth would be covered. I had a c/s with both boys, so we did end up having some medical bills. My insurance only covered 80% and each c/s was $15K, so we had bills to pay off! Crazy, huh? Also, I began taking prenatals six months before TTC. It's recommended that a woman takes folic acid before trying so I made sure I was set. I also joined TTC message boards and small Yahoo groups and learned enormous amounts of information regarding pregnancy and birthing.

Oh and as Sha mentioned, getting in shape is a great idea! When you are pregnant, you still can keep up an exercise routine. I did Kathy Smith prenatal aerobics my entire pregnancy DAILY! That particular video is very outdated now! lol There's probably a newer and better one out on the market.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/11/2008 12:52:43 PM
Author: MC
Hi,

I have two boys, both were planned and DH and I wanted them close together in age (which they are - they''re 22 months apart). One of my friends in her 30s decided to have a baby and suddenly the baby bug hit me and we decided to go for it. I was 27 at the time, worked PT and planned to be a stay-at-home-mom after my kids were born.

There was no set ''ready'' point as I do not think a person can ever be entirely ready. We all have things we want to do in life and regardless of when a couple decides to have kids, you''ll always have something or other to put on hold.

Financially, we were not entirely stable, but it didn''t matter. At my baby shower we got just about everything we needed and soon after my son was born, my husband started working on creating a business and we were on our way to making what we needed to have a second child!

The two main things I did to prepare was research and get the best health insurance I could to make sure my birth would be covered. I had a c/s with both boys, so we did end up having some medical bills. My insurance only covered 80% and each c/s was $15K, so we had bills to pay off! Crazy huh? Also, I began taking prenatals six months before TTC. It''s recommended that a woman takes folic acid before trying so I made sure I was set. I also joined TTC message boards and small Yahoo groups and learned enormous amounts of information regarding pregnancy and birthing.

Oh and as Sha mentioned, getting in shape is a great idea! When you are pregnant, you still can keep up an exercise routine. I did Kathy Smith prenatal aerobics my entire pregnancy DAILY! That particular video is very outdated now! lol There''s probably a newer and better one out on the market.

Well sure...if you want to be LOGICAL and all that!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/11/2008 12:55:06 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Well sure...if you want to be LOGICAL and all that!

We didn''t even have insurance before then!

 

[Kaleigh]

Hey BrightSpot!!

I don''t think there is ever a real ready point. Having alone time with your hubby, doing some traveling before TTC is important. We only had a year alone before I got pregnant. But we did a lot of traveling in that year. And we really wanted to start our family. I went to the doctor to be checked out, prior to TTC. Started taking Pre Natal vitamins. Other than that, not too much else. I played a lot of tennis, so was in good shape. I hope that helps. Lisa

 

[Tacori E-ring]

1. My "clock" had been ticking for a few years and I was really excited to become a mom. even though we had only been married 5 months when I got preggo we were together for 6 years. Owned our "dream" house. DH''s business was doing good. Just seemed like the right time.

2. You should start a prenatal before you TTC (just in case). Also get your teeth cleaned. Pregnancy can be hard on the teeth. I did not do a pre-conception meeting with my doc. Seemed silly. Take your time and try not to stress out about it. Obviously quit smoking (if you are a smoker) and live a healthy life style.

 

[Jas12]

Tgal and I are on the same page (she is just much more succinct

I have a PS rambling problem....

Combine travel and baby-making, throw caution to the wind

European romancing did it for me! hehe...only thing is, now I don''t know for sure what country or what city baby was concieved in

 

[BrightSpot]

Hey ladies,

Thank you SO much for your thoughtful responses! Sometimes I worry because I have never been one of those women who always wanted to be a mother someday. In a lot of ways, the prospect sort of turned me off, probably in large part due to my relationship with my mom. I worry that the fact that I''m not chomping at the bit to have a child means that maybe I''m not cut out to be a mom. Shouldn''t you really want it? Everyone says this changes when you actually have a baby...that some instinct kicks in & you suddenly love your child more than life itself. I dunno. I never thought actively about having a child until I met my DH. I really love the idea of creating someone who is part me & part him & to share that experience today. And sometimes I look at him & think about what a great dad he''ll make & go all warm & fuzzy. But it''s still scary.

Did any of you think, "What happens if I don''t like this whole parenting thing?"

I worry that being scared means I''m not ready, but maybe nobody is every fully ready, as many of you mentioned. I tend to deliberate a lot before making decisions, especially major life changing ones, but maybe I should just take a deep breath & jump into the pool. I don''t feel like my is clock ticking, but intellectually I realize that I should probably get moving on this sooner rather than later.

Sha, good luck finishing up your studies & enjoy the vacation!

Amber, it seems like you''re pretty much ready to go, at least emotionally! As for the house, I can understand your wanting to have a house for your baby/not wanting to move. (I''m a bit of a nester too!) I think there''s plenty of time for you & your hubbie to get a house, though. If the house if primarily "for the baby," it''ll be a while before the baby is aware of its surroundings, right? I''m sure you guys will have a house by then!

Jas, yeah, I guess we all have lists of what we want to have done before baby comes along, but you''re smart to point out that life doesn''t end once you have a kid. It does change dramatically, but it''s not as though you can''t still pursue the things that make you happy, right? Your priorities just change. Good for you for booking the european vacation! You''ll have family along, though, right? That should help a lot. Your tot will be so worldly! (I guess s/he already is from conception! Hee hee...) That''s a good mental test. I''ll try it every time I refill my BCP''s!

Kimberly, it seems like you''ve thought this through really well & have good communication with your DH. Great idea to leave the tot with the grandparents so you can travel! I''m sure we have 2 sets who would jump at the opportunity to babysit!

TGal, I was hoping you''d respond to my thread! You look fantastic, by the way! I''ve been reading your posts avidly (on this & other subjects) & find you to be so level headed & down to earth, not to mention hilarious! It''s also a relief to see you admit that you''re not sure you''re 100% ready, but you''ll get there. Sometimes it feels like it''s hard to admit you''re not longing to experience motherhood or have fears/concerns about becoming a parent. It seems society puts mothers on a pedestal &, at the same time, subjects them to such harsh criticism. But I ramble...

I''m not much of a "fly by the seat of my pants" type of girl, but maybe some of that is needed here.

I admire your moxy.

Curlygirl, I was hoping you''d respond too! I can''t believe how beautiful & big Lily is! What a sweetheart! How has it been having a baby in a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC? I also have a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC & am not sure if we''d move immediately if we had a baby on the way. Also, how is it having a baby in NYC? Are you guys staying in the city for the long haul? DH & I debate whether we''d like to stay in the city or move out pretty frequently. Part of me fears baby will = move to the burbs & I''m not sure I want to make that change now/ever. (Friends of ours just had a baby & moved to Greenwich, CT within 2 weeks.)

MC, you''re right that there will always be "something" if you think about it that way. I guess baby showers do go a long way towards providing the essential you need right away. Fortunately, I do have good health insurance with my job. (Holy cow--$15K for a C-section?

) I''ve also been trying to learn a bit more about the process. I haven''t joined any pregnancy message boards yet, but have been following the threads on PS. (It''s less scary if it''s here!) I really hope I can keep exercising when I''m pregnant. I go to the gym 3-5 times a week now. I think I''m in pretty good shape, but would like to eat more healthily & drop a few pounds.

Hey Lisa! It''s great to see you. Sorry for having gone AWOL for so long. I''ve missed you. I''ve been taking a women''s multivitamin for a while, which has 400 mcg folic acid, but I should have a pre-conception check-up & start taking prenatal vitamins soon. Does anyone have recommendations for a good prenatal vitamin?

Tacori, good to see you too! I''ve been following your story in the pregnancy thead too. (Though, I couldn''t get through your whole delivery tale. I''m quite squeamish & got a little sick reading it. I''m really glad you''re ok now, though!) Tessa is such a doll. What a beautiful girl (and a beautiful name too!)

That''s a good idea to have my teeth cleaned. I should also have that gum surgery I''ve been putting off. I don''t smoke (at all) or drink (much), so that won''t be difficult. I used to be a dietCokeaholic, but I''ve cut down to 2 cans a day. Is that ok for a pregnant woman? I do worry about weaning myself off OTC medicines (Excederine, Benadryl, etc.) + all of the other things that come along with pregnancy. Can you dye your hair? Use face cream? So many questions...

Well, thanks again for listening. I really appreciate your thoughts. It feels much better to be able to talk about this openly with folks who have been there or are on their way.

 

[Odilia]

I actually did not read any of this thread but just wanted to say (something which nobody told me early on) to take enough folic acid.

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 1/11/2008 3:07:13 PM
Author: old-fashioned girl
I actually did not read any of this thread but just wanted to say (something which nobody told me early on) to take enough folic acid.

that''s what I was going to say. i''d go ahead and start on a good prenatal, even if you''re a few months away from trying. checking into insurance is a great idea too. other than that, we did the throw caution to the wind and let''s see what happens method. It worked well for us b/c #3 of let''s see what happens will be her late march/early april

oh and i will say, when you do decide to try, be prepared for it to happen quickly. For many gals it can take a little longer, great TTC thread above, but for others, it can happen so fast. I thought I''d have a harder time getting preggo with my second. Well, 2 weeks after we''d decied to let things happen, I was preggo. I was not expecting it to happen so quickly and it really took me by surprise. so, be ready!!! right T-gal??

 

[BrightSpot]

Date: 1/11/2008 3:36:48 PM
Author: mrssalvo
oh and i will say, when you do decide to try, be prepared for it to happen quickly. For many gals it can take a little longer, great TTC thread above, but for others, it can happen so fast. I thought I''d have a harder time getting preggo with my second. Well, 2 weeks after we''d decied to let things happen, I was preggo. I was not expecting it to happen so quickly and it really took me by surprise. so, be ready!!! right T-gal??

Yeah, I''ve been thinking about that too! In my mind, I have a feeling it will take me a while to get pregnant. (Both my mom & grandmother are only children b/c their parents had trouble conceiving). I don''t know if this is genetic or not. But every time I try to convince myself not to be stressed the moment I go off BC as it might take a while, I think of T-gal!

 

[TravelingGal]

Yes MrsSalvo...you''re right! But having a sense of humor sometimes makes you a target of a big joke, which is how I feel from time to time. Hee.

Brightspot, I often think "what if I don''t like this parenting thing?" I am pretty sure I won''t love parenting. Discipline and responsibility doesn''t sound like a walk in the park to me. But I am COMMITTED to parenting, and being the best one I can be at that. I think that''s all you really need to start...because I don''t know what else you can do really. But I am not of the camp that you have to LOOOOVE children to have kids.

Good to see you around again Brightspot!

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 1/11/2008 3:02:03 PM
Author: BrightSpot


Kimberly, it seems like you''ve thought this through really well & have good communication with your DH. Great idea to leave the tot with the grandparents so you can travel! I''m sure we have 2 sets who would jump at the opportunity to babysit!

Bright, most of the time I''m a pretty go-with-the-flow person; this is and marriage are the two decisions I will have given the most consideration to in my life. I work with children and that exposure has caused me to contemplate things I might not have otherwise. When people talk about having children they often talk about "having a baby" and "wanting a baby" but they don''t stay babies. It''s having a child, a pre-teen, a teenager and a early adult that really make me wonder whether being a parent is the right choice for me (and my husband).

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I didn''t mean to scare anyone! Haha! I guess it is just proof that I survived and will go on to have additional children. Memory fades fast. Honestly I am just glad that the problems were with ME not HER. DH was totally NOT into my pregnancy. No talking to my belly. No getting excited about baby names. No talking about being a dad and who she will look like. I think it just didn''t hit him but let me tell you as soon as our little girl was born he was done. He loves her so much it is really sweet. He even misses her when he is gone for a few hours. She is a daddy''s girl for sure. Once the baby is in your arms it is hard to remember life without him/her. It truly is amazing.

You aren''t suppose to have diet soda while preggo but I know people do. There are so many "rules" no deli meat, no soft cheeses, well done steak, etc, basically YOU need to decide what feels right for you. For example I took almost no medicine while preggo and no alcohol, but I have friends who did drink once in awhile and they were comfortable with that. Visit this website if you have any questions on medicines. It is a really great resource. Some face washes and stuff cannot be used (or is advised against). Go under "drug search."

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 1/11/2008 7:22:10 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring


You aren''t suppose to have diet soda while preggo but I know people do. There are so many ''rules'' no deli meat, no soft cheeses, well done steak, etc, basically YOU need to decide what feels right for you.

i''m guilty of having an occasional diet soda and deli sandwiches from time to time (today actually

) but for some reason I do watch the cheeses pretty close though, and i''ve never heard the no well done steak thing. 3 pregnancies and many medium well steaks later, o-well to late now..lol.....you learn something new every day!!! I didn''t really give up caffeine either which is recommended if you can. regular cokes got me though my first trimester and morning sickness and i rationalized it by thinking it''s less caffeine than a cup of coffee, which I don''t drink. my neighbor is a resident at vanderbilt''s children''s hospital and she drank a beer at her baby shower. that''s one thing I just can''t do. tacori is right, you''ll have to decide what is right for YOU.

brightspot, check out www.babycenter.com too. there''s a section for gals getting ready to or trying to conceive that might be helpful too.

 

[curlygirl]

BS, thanks so much for the sweet comments about Lily. She''s my pride and joy!

As for living in the city, I LOVE it. I love having a city baby!!! We have the world at our fingertips, can get whatever we want at any time of day or night and NYC is truly a great place to raise a child! So far, our one bedroom apartment has been quite adequate for our needs, which aren''t many with an infant. She stayed in our room for the first 3 months and now we''ve turned our dining area into her space (crib, changing table, toy box) although we haven''t put up a wall yet. She plays on a quilt that we put on top of one of our oriental rugs in the living room and gets her bath in the big bathtub these days. The city is very easy to maneuver with a good stroller and it''s really child friendly. We have never had any issues with taking her into restaurants and stores. She''s been on the subway and in cabs. She goes to daycare in the building where I work in Rock Center and I''m not going to lie, it''s SUPER expensive but worth every penny. It''s basically the same price as a full time nanny but for me it''s a much better situation and sadly, it''s not possible for us to live on only one income so I HAVE to work! For us with one child, city living is very doable at this point. When she becomes school age, it will be a different story as private schools start at around $25,000 for KINDERGARTEN!!!!

Also, we do plan on having another child sometime in the near future and at that point, we will reevaluate our situation although I know we would love to stay here forever. But I try not to think ahead and assume that we''ll figure it out when we have to--which basically is my answer to your original question!

Sometimes you can''t plan everything out. Things happen and you deal with them as they come up. But I''m more than happy to give you more info on the whole NYC situation when you''re ready!

 

[Joolskie]

I''m still not ready for kids. And I have two of them... they are 4- and 7-years-old. LOL!!!

DH and I were college sweethearts. We graduated, got jobs, got married, bought our first house and then had kids. I don''t think I would have done anything differently or made any other type of preparations. We wanted to be financially stable and we wanted to enjoy our life as a couple for a while. Which we did.

BrightSpot... life doesn''t come to screeching halt because you become a parent. You can always take the kids to Europe with you.

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 1/11/2008 3:47:05 PM
Author: BrightSpot

Date: 1/11/2008 3:36:48 PM
Author: mrssalvo
oh and i will say, when you do decide to try, be prepared for it to happen quickly. For many gals it can take a little longer, great TTC thread above, but for others, it can happen so fast. I thought I''d have a harder time getting preggo with my second. Well, 2 weeks after we''d decied to let things happen, I was preggo. I was not expecting it to happen so quickly and it really took me by surprise. so, be ready!!! right T-gal??

Yeah, I''ve been thinking about that too! In my mind, I have a feeling it will take me a while to get pregnant. (Both my mom & grandmother are only children b/c their parents had trouble conceiving). I don''t know if this is genetic or not. But every time I try to convince myself not to be stressed the moment I go off BC as it might take a while, I think of T-gal!

Same here BrightSpot. My mother and my Nanny were only children. Mom had 6 miscarriages before having me. I thought going into it, I would have the same problems. We concieved on our second try.
BTW Ash is doing well, thanks for all your help!! Check your email sent it to the one I had...

 

[pennquaker09]

Personally, I knew that I wanted to be a young parent. We initially thought it was going to be closer to the end of 2008 or the first part of 2009 before we had kids, but we were extremely blessed and lucky that everything with our surrogacy has gone so smoothly.

 

[anchor31]

I want to wait until we''ve been married for at least 3 years, in 3½ years from now. That should give me the time to get a job, get a masters if need be, and buy a house (FI''s already saving us for it). Then we''ll be ready to have kids. FI will probably be ready sooner, but I''m 3½ years his junior and I need to get a job befoe we can procreate!

 

[phoenixgirl]

We''re in the same boat. I think. Maybe. Hee hee. We''ve been married three years now.

I always wanted to have a baby before 30 (April of 2010), but that doesn''t seem so important now. That was basically because I am the product of two generations which had their children in their late 30''s, so I lost the last of my grandparents at age 12. But at this point a year or two before or after 30 doesn''t seem like it would make that much of a difference.

We bought a house last year and I got in shape. Neither of those was specifically so we could have a baby, just goals in their own right.

I just switched to my husband''s health insurance. It''s more out of pocket money each month, but I plan to quit working after we have a baby and didn''t want to make the switch later when I might have complications or not want to switch doctors.

We''ve always talked about trying to live off of DH''s paycheck and banking mine the year before we try or have a baby, but that''s just so hard! Because on the other hand, you want the extra income for dinners out and travel which will be fewer and farther between after kids. Chances are good, though, that DH''s income will continue increasing and the loss of mine should be as painless as it possibly could (never could be entirely, though, of course). And we''ve got reserves if things aren''t easy.

Speaking of travel, it has been on my brain that we should have some last fun trips before we start trying. We''re going to New Orleans for two nights in April for my birthday and to Provence for a week and a half in the summer with my parents.

DH has also quit smoking in the past year, taken up cycling again, and joined the gym.

The earliest we would try is the fall. In a perfect world I''d have a baby in the summer so I could complete a full school year and not leave them in a bind, but you can''t always time these things. And who knows how I''ll feel when this fall actually rolls around.

 

[sunkist]

It seems like a lot of women's husbands are on board with what ever you want to do regarding starting a family. Or also, I'm hearing a lot of women who's husbands are ready for kids before they are. I have been chomping at the bit for a year now and we've been married for just over a year. It's my husband who I've been waiting for to be ready for kids. We're both the same age and he's taken longer than me to be ready mentally and emotionally for a family, and we're both getting ready for family financially. Of course I know we're being responsible because we're paying off the cars, saving for a house and making a reserve for tight times. But I do not have any problem with bringing a baby into our apartment before we buy a house. I also think that you can never be totally ready for kids. And when they come you do what you can and everything will work out fine. Growing up I always wanted to start having kids when I was like 22. Now I'll be 27 next month. Of course I still feel young and now I couldn't imagine having kids when I was 22, let alone be married when I was 22! But I still do want to be young parents and feel like we need to get a move on things so we can have the opportunity for 3 or so children if we feel up to it

So I've had to practice being patient. I look at baby names, research baby gear, and think about what our kids will look like all to tide me over till we're both ready to be parents. I'm so excited that the time is coming soon. DH has finally told me it was his plan all along to start TTC this summer. I wish he would have explained that to me sooner

I may not have felt so impatient at times. hehe!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Sunkist, I know you can hardly wait but take it from someone who was in her third trimester in the hotest months of the year, it is a good thing to avoid! I was SO uncomfortable! There were days where I just never left my house!

 

[sunkist]

Date: 1/12/2008 4:39:36 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Sunkist, I know you can hardly wait but take it from someone who was in her third trimester in the hotest months of the year, it is a good thing to avoid! I was SO uncomfortable! There were days where I just never left my house!

Ya, and we don''t have A/C in our apartment either!

If I do find myself pregnant during that time of year I may never leave my car... Or I could stay at the mall! So lets see, getting pregnant between March and September would put me in those hottest months. I''d better rethink this...